Friday, 21 October 2011
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How To Deal With A Competitive Friend
“What should I do if someone close to me becomes competitive with me?”
We all know the competitive type –- but the thing is, almost all of us ARE the type. As humans, we’re competitive by nature –- there’s always something that’s going to remind us that it’s a dog-eat-dog world; that it’s all about survival of the fittest. But some people take it too far (see also: Toddlers & Tiaras). More Here...
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Comments (9)
I find I automatically have to submiss as they trap me either their innocence or some cliche.
Since I've figured out that it's about my survival and that I can't be happy in fluffy moral land, I've decided to just bake cyanide.
I usually just play along. I'm competitive too. But if they take it too far, that's when the game ends.
This doesn't tell you how to deal with anything. This is an unfinished article and should be reposted with helpful information.
I'm going to get shot because I was a nice person. i'm a ghost.
See, in my life philosophy, it didn't matter because I didn't want anything because I can't have anything.
I find the best way to "compete" with a competitive friend is simply not to compete at all because that drives them crazy. In college I had a very competitive roomate...I mean like borderline crazy that for some reason was obsessed with everyone liking her and hating me. She made up lies about me to our friends and any guy we met she did all she could to make sure he would like her over me. No joke. And at first everyone believed her because they had no reason to think she would lie like that, but the thing about people like that is that eventually their true colors show. People saw who she really was, and then no one wanted to be her friend...so she lost in her own game.
But for those competitive friends who aren't on that crazy level you should just take it as a compliment. I mean if they're trying to compete with you obviously they view you as someone worth trying to beat. But I mean you choose who your friends are so if you can't stand people like that then just don't be friends with them.
The cut takes me to an image...
I find out that the best way to deal with the issue at hand is just, do your best to gain what you want and don't ever envy another.
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don't know if this is the same thing as a friend who wants to 1up everybody else. because i have 1 particular friend who hates being 2nd at anything, which irks me to the point where i want to 1up on her (even though i know it's best to just walk away). as you said, humans are competitive creatures.