Monday, 03 October 2011
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Big Boobs are a Bummer
Now, some of you smaller ladies may be scratching your heads and grumbling to yourselves that women like me should just shut up and be thankful for what we have. None of my friends have ever said that outright to me, but I know it's hard for them to understand my chest-related complaints.
I developed early in life, so shortly after I turned nine, I started wearing a bra. For most of my childhood, I was overweight, so that was definitely contributing to the size of my chest, but I knew the genetic 'gift' of large boobs was playing a role, too.
When I lost a lot of weight before college, I dropped down to a C cup, and I loved it. I'm 5'9", so it was the perfect size for me. I felt, at this size, my boobs looked perfectly medium-sized for my frame. Not too big, not too small. Unfortunately, after I started the pill, I jumped up a cup size.
Okay, so I was a D. Still not a big deal. But then, after I injured my back, I put on about fifteen pounds, and all of a sudden, I was up to a DDD/F! Now, a mere fifteen pound gain shouldn't have gone all to my boobs, and it didn't... just most of it.
I guess, in some ways, you could consider it a blessing. It's more socially acceptable to have really big boobs than fat in other areas, right? Some of my friends wondered what I was complaining about.
Let me rewind. I said I injured my back. I actually herniated a disc. In fact, such an injury requires physical therapy, and takes about 9-12 months to heal. I almost had to take medical leave from school.
And now, all of a sudden, I had DDD/F boobs pulling on my back. It took me a few months to find bras to support me, as I was broke and just didn't have the time or energy to shop online for something that may or may not fit. So I was squeezing into DDs, a size too small, to boot!
As a DDD/F, I was completely miserable. My back is so weak (I've had a history of back injury before this), and it did not do well with the extra weight.
And there were other disadvantages, too. Parents had always kind of judged me for the way I looked. My boobs were never small, and in a world where shorts and skirts are built for a woman of an average height of 5'3" or 5'4", you can imagine that I've had some, er, coverage problems over the years.
Well if people automatically assumed I was slutty before, you can bet they did now, too. So I was basically in pain, and I also had to work to make others take me more seriously.
This argument has nothing to do with what size is more aesthetically appealing. As a bisexual woman, I can tell you that boobs are pretty much boobs. Size is irrelevant to how attractive they are. I'm talking strictly mechanics.
It sucks to be in pain all the time for something that society values as aesthetically pleasing, and it sucks to have people judge you on factors you can't help.
Fortunately, I've taken off about ten pounds, and my boobs are back down to a nice D. I don't know that they'll ever be back to a C, but I'm pretty happy regardless. I fit into my old bras (I had some D's kicking around, fortunately), and I feel great. And when my boobs start to feel swollen, I know it's time to cut back on my eating!
Lovelies, have you ever experienced a situation where you possessed some trait that society finds attractive, but that you find unpleasant? How did you deal with it?
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I'm a 34A. e_o
I understand where you are coming from with the large boobs. But you will never once hear me complain about them. I love them just the way they are. I am overweight, and losing my boobs is my biggest concern. I am so scared that if I lose the weight and become a healthy weight i will lose my boobs. I dont want that. I have had back problems for several years now. I know its partially because of my weight and my large boobs. I am a ddd/f and i wouldnt trade it for anything. Society loves them and people love them. I dont want to lose them!
I can relate a bit with the big boob situation. While I don't experience back pain as much, I do get sensitive, tender breasts quite frequently.
I feel bad for you and other large - breasted women, while I sit here happily being 5 feet tall and being a 32A ;D But for real though, that really must suck with the back issues you already have. Would you ever consider getting breast reduction surgery to ease the tension it causes on your back?
None of my friends ever consider my complaints either. They always yell at me about it. But, just like you, I've had back problems for as long as I can remember. So those boobs definitely do not help with the situation at all.
I'm a 34B and I think mine are much to big. They just get in the way of things and I prefer lose fitting shirts so it bothers me when the top half of my shirt is tighter than the bottom.
I'm 5' tall and am a 34DD (Victoria's Secret has me as an 34DDD) but to be honest I have no issues with them at all. The problem is with the fact that that size is nearly impossible to find in stores. That's my complaint about that!
Now, as for your question. I do have red hair and some guys have a bizarre fetish for that. It can be quite annoying sometimes actually (when I was a teenager some man tried to buy from my father because I was a redhead). I don't find my red hair unpleasant but the attraction I get sometimes can be annoying. I just ignore it. There are women in this world that no one in society finds exciting so in that sense I am grateful, even if I think most redhead fetish guys are creepy.
I'm a C-cup, 5', and under 110lb. My friends have blatantly agreed that, yes, my boobs are beginning to sag. I'm only 19 years old. I guess I get it from my mother (who has humongous breasts and severe back pain as well) so I just really hope they (miraculously) shrink or just never get bigger...
I'm 5'2", about 100 pounds, and a 32C. First of all, MAJOR pain in the ass not being able to find my bra size without going on a freaking expedition to the depths of the racks in every single store. And second, I've learned that I'm just not meant to wear most dresses. I'm either falling out on top, or it's loose and baggy below my chest. Kinda sad. Other than that, though, I'm good with my boobs. I'm small and have a young face, so having a chest keeps me from looking completely like a child, lol.
I was reading this and I got to the part about being socially acceptable. My first thought was, in this society being a woman isn't socially acceptable. Think about it. You can have big boobs but if they're natural you get comments about how they're going to sag to your knees. If you have small boobs you get comments about how they're "non-existent" (yeah I've heard people say this to friends). If you have boobs at all you're going to get comments. This has been one of the most irrelevant comments I've ever made.
i like my big boobs (34D here), but i don't like that they are sagging already from all the weight haha.
yeah people never understand my complaints about not being able to gain weight. It's hard for people to understand your issues until they experience it themselves. Saying that I generally feel bad for girls with really large breasts, maybe they don't mind it now...but I always think about the long run and worry about back issues and pain etc. Hope your back issues are getting better though.
your mom's a bummer
@darci - I'm also really short (4'11" sadly) and a 32C. I used to be a 34D and it gave me trouble. It kinda sucks when your boobs look all disproportionate on you and guys at school know you as, "that chick with the big tits." Ugh, high school. -_- I love my current size, it's not too hard to find if you know what stores you like and stuff. I personally like Dillard's. It sounds expensive but if you buy bras when they're on sale, it's not so bad. Plus the bra fitting lady there is always so nice. I told her my size and that I had trouble finding it and she took me around the whole bra section, selecting various sorts of bras in my size. Of course, that's just my preference. I still wish I were a bit smaller, then I could wear all the cute "juniors" bras they sell at departments stores. I'm always stuck just getting the panties that match and wishing I could squeeze into a cute bra. :/
I'm 5' tall and a large C. I feel they are TOO big considering my height, and I feel they make me look like I'm fatter than I already am.
@blackspiders@xanga - I always get bras from Dillards--during their sales, I can get regularly $34 bras for $4! Seriously, when they have their sale, I stock up!
I'm about 5'4, 125 pounds with 34 D boobs. They honestly don't bother me too much. Finding my size can be a pain, though. I dislike how my left boob is bigger than my right but it's only noticeable if I point it out. I'm sorry your boobs have been such a pain to you!
I was an A cup all my life until I turned 23 and magically grew a cup, to a 36 B. Guys didn't pay attention to me until I was in my early 20s, and I always though it was my boobs. Turns out it wasn't that, it was my low self esteem. You are right, boobs don't really matter. Yes, there are shallow people out there that really care about size, but personality and overall body health are way more important.
I'm really sorry to hear about all your back problems. My mom has several herniated discs and even though she swears she's a C cup, I know she's probably a DD. When I see her in pain, I feel awful. She can't run, jump, or dance without a super strong bra. And she always had the same problem, people assumed she was promiscuous because of her boob size. ...I really hope you can keep off the weight to help your back. Good luck, sweetie :)
I'm a 34C so I guess that's average, whatever, I wish they were bigger, but anyway. I'm sorry you have back problems :( I can imagine that to be a real pain, literally. What about breast reduction surgery? I think people with boobs that are too big are luckier than those with boobs that are too small, because isn't it easier and probably cheaper to get breast reduction surgery than it is to get implants? Oh well, like you said, boobs are boobs, I don't plan on changing mine, but if I were given the opportunity, I might get them just a little bit bigger, I don't know. I would like to have some effortless cleavage, you know what I'm saying, instead of having to fix my bra to make it happen, I wish it was just there, lol.
While my breasts aren't as large as yours, I can relate to not being able to find clothing that fit right. I haven't had much trouble in the bra department, unless I am looking for a strapless bra. Many don't have much support, I might as well go braless, and the other strapless bras, they do not fit right. Anyway, I digress, even though I am fuller figured, the plus size clothes aren't made for women with breasts--as in tops and dresses that are empired waisted, they don't leave much room for breasts and I am only a C cup. The clothes are shaped like pillowcases. Society notes that having large breasts is desirable, but the clothes available do no reflect it. Anyway, I do hope your back feels better soon and you can afford to get the proper sized bras. I do believe having a pretty and comfortable bra makes your day better
Funny thing with my family is that my mom has very small boobs like barely an A cup and my aunt (her sister) has huge and I mean HUGE boobs....and I have large ones too so I guess the big boob gene skipped my mom or something lol. I have back issues too, but I figure I am going to take advantage of my boobs now while I'm young and can wear scanadolous things (not that I do...anymore lol). Maybe when I'm old I'll have them reduced or something so they won't be sagging to my knees hahaha.
no one is ever happy with themselves.
I'm glad I don't have a big cup size. I think it'd probably hurt like hell to run and it'd kill my back. It already hurts going down the stairs and I'm only a B. So I totally feel for you, even though I can't imagine how it feels completely!
I'm really quite satisfied with my small boobs (A-B depending on the bra).
I've never understood the big obsession with big boobs---I think that the overall shape is a little more important than the size, but hey, what do I know?
Lol I know your pain. I'm 5'3 and mine are in between 38C and 38D (Cs are too small, Ds are too big) but they can be a pain, especially when I'm running and they pull down. Owch! D:
My older sister has it worse, she's 5'10 and a DDD, and her back is CONSTANTLY in pain. :P