Monday, 08 February 2010
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Are You Insecure?
I feel like the older I get, the more I notice my imperfections. I notice how everyone in the world doesn't have vitiligo. I notice how everyone doesn't have the stubborn blemishes that I have or the wide nose. I start to observe any and everything about myself that makes me different from everyone else.
Children are so pure and shameless; unaware of their imperfections (and yes, I am aware of how subjective the word 'imperfection' is and yes I have questioned whether or not imperfections exist too). They go by day to day without a worry in the world; at least not with worries concerning their looks. But then time progresses and things change. They start to take notice of the things that makes them different from everyone else. They start to observe their weight, their facial features, their height, their complexion; all the things that they didn't care to notice before. And that's the same boat that I happen to be in.
Different isn't always a bad thing but it is when that difference makes you feel insecure; when it makes you wish you looked... like someone else. Maybe insecurities wane in due time. Maybe, like childhood, I'll ignore them and allow myself to eventually (hopefully sooner than later) get over them. However, that seems rather impossible when mirrors will never cease to exist; when self-perception is always more dominant than anyone else's perception of myself.
Are you insecure? Did you realize this as a child or as an adult?
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everyone's insecure at one point or another but you realize that if you don't feel good about yourself, who will.
I do. all the time!
But i try to remember this : confidence is sexy. confidence will turn heads, attract people, and help you achieve your goals in life. So I try to shake off the insecurity, but yea it's hard.
Everyone's insecure about something.
Eh I realized I was fatter than the average girl when I was about 12. (Most girls were around 100 while I was 110)
I'm still a bit bigger than I'd like to be, but I'm changing that. At least I'm still good-looking enough that some boys still think I'm "out of their league."
The key with insecurity is to work on what can be worked on, and forget what can't. You can't magically make your nose thinner, at least without plastic surgery, so why worry about it? Instead concentrate on the features about yourself that you love, and it will give you a reason to be confident. :)
You're right about kids, though. I oftentimes wish I could get that simplicity and lack of self-degradation back. It would come in handy sometimes.
I used to be totally insecure. I still am a little bit, but it's starting to fade. I think that we all just need to realize that we are what we are, as cheesy as it may sound, and if we aren't proud of it, then we have the power to change. We don't have to stay the same person, we have complete control over ourselves. I mean, there will always be something we don't like about ourselves, but I like to think that it's part of being human, you can't be completely cocky all of the time.
I can be insecure, but not to the point where my insecurities prevent me from doing anything. And it did affect me when I was younger, but now I don't care.
I was very insecure ... to the point of anorexia, cutting, and ending up in daily therapy one whole summer and weekly therapy for 6 more months (couldn't do daily because of school).
I can tell you now that my confidence is at an all-time high, and I am SO happy.
Noticing one's differences is normal, but taking it to the extreme is the dangerous part (ie, eating disorders, plastic surgery à la Heidi Montag, etc).
yes. but then again, a lot of people are. i used to be insecure about being insecure.
...if that makes sense..which it probably doesn't...haha.Really? I was more insecure when I was 12 than I am now at 18! haha I love myself more now than I did then.
My insecurities have been ruining my life for years. Currently they're ruining the best relationship I've ever had. I began feeling insecure about my body and face in 3rd grade. That is when I developed my first eating disorder. I'm even more insecure with myself now.
i am not insecure.
i'm insecure and self- conscious :(
Yes, I am.
I'm ugly as hell, why shouldn't I be?
But, I try not to let it get the best of me.
My boyfriend gets sad when I feel down on myself.
Yes, I'm very insecure.. I've been since middle school.
yes, very insecure.
and i did notice my imperfections when i was a child, as i've always thought i'm bigger than everyone else (even though everyone tells me i'm not and even though i can see from photos that i wasn't, and that i still am not; it's just impossible to get this out of my head on my own)...@Nourishment_Destroys@xanga - @haley1262@xanga - @RoxieV@xanga - @KelseaPhobia@xanga - @gatorgirl54@xanga - I don't mean this to sound like some lame sounding pick up line but you all are very beautiful and we all need to be reminded of that. So I'm replying to you to that you just forgot that you're beautiful. Look in the mirror and smile, you'll remember.
@Thumper49047@xanga - you're not lame, quite the opposite =)
thank you.
and you're beautiful, too! hope you remember that as well ~_~
Yes. To the above.
Ever since I was a flower girl walking behind the lovely brides and bridesmaids.. Ever since Pocahontas came out, ever since barbie dolls, sailor moon and ever since i befriended my younger cousin.
I've always been insecure as a child.
@Thumper49047@xanga - Thank you. :)
I'm really insecure. You're completely right...I feel that the older I get, the more I notice all the differences between me and others around me. It makes me self-conscious to the point where I avoid certain situations.
yes. insecure since i was really young actually.
I was insecure as a teenager and young adult. I'm pretty confident in myself now.