It took me almost dying before I became happy with myself as I was made. I am what I am.
I finally figured out that if I abuse myself too much, it will make me unhappy, no matter what I weigh. And how can I expect others around me to love me if I am an unhappy person?
Nobody wants to be around a depressed, unhappy person no matter what they weigh. Miserable people are no fun to be friends with- no matter if they are skinny or fat. Think anorexics are happy? Think again.
When I was eating disordered, nobody wanted to hang out with me. I didn't have time to see my friends anyway because exercise came before all of them and I was always needing extra sleep from mistreating my body.
I will never be a size 00 at the Express or Abercrombie, nor will I ever have long legs or shimmery white-blonde hair. But, I will be the slightly chubby, pretty girl who has pretty skin and hair, makes her friends happy, cooks for them, loves them and has a talent for writing. And they love me back and check in on me. They're there for me when I feel the depression creeping in and ask them for some help. If I were anorexic and skinny, they wouldn't want to be around me because I couldn't go enjoy food with them, couldn't cook for them, and I'd probably feel ill and would be supersensitive and depressed and jealous and angry when they ate. Or, I wouldn't have time for them at all because of all the extra exercise I had to do to maintain being thin.
There's nothing wrong with the way you are made: chubby, thinner, pear-shaped or hour-glass, if you are a good person and in good health, that's going to out-weigh your disappointments in your figure flaws and you'll have friends to surround you and fill up that disappointment. They'll point out how beautiful you are and you'll believe it.
So, I'd rather be fat and have a life full of rewarding, true friends than be anorexic, depressed, friendless and alone. Nothing tastes as good as being happy.
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I finally love you for posting this.<3
Yes.
exactly!!! and nothing taste as good as being healthy and happy!
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1000000000000000000% I do!!
I've always thought "nothing tastes as good as food does!"
@ForeverLove_xx@xanga - Agreed! If someone thinks being skinny tastes good, they need to try different foods!
There's a reason why I'm not happy with how my body is atm. I think I could stand to exercise and get a bit thinner. (: That's all! Nothing wrong with it. But it doesn't stop me from having fun with friends either.
i presently have an eating disorder but nevertheless wish i could see it your way as confidently as you do. enjoyable read; thanks.
Wow, who WOULDN'T agree?!
I agree!
I don't think I could ever stand to seriously starve myself. When I get low blood sugar I go from nice to irritable very quickly. The longer I go without food, the more faint-prone and prone to utter meanness I get. If I were a recluse, maybe, (though probably not because I'd be so miserable and grumpy even though by myself) but since I have to do things and work and go to school and see people all day, I would fail at life if I didn't eat normally.
there's a lot more to anorexia and other eating disorders than just wanting to be thin or having people around. that's what you fail to recognize. yes, "normal" people can accept themselves at a bigger size, even being fat, and be happy with it. someone with an ED finds it impossible. in no way can someone with an ED just say: "oh, i guess i'm just going to be fat and happy with it now!" it doesn't work that way.
i am on a diet for medical reasons and let me tell you, all of my friends and co-workers are very sad that i am super cranky from dieting!! eating and enjoying yourself is soooo much better than being super thin : X
Excellent post! Thanks so much for sharing. And I agree.... I've never had an eating disorder, but I did get slightly obsessed with working out and such at one point in time, and I didn't have much time for anything else. Nor was I really happy.
Thanks for sharing!
fantastic post. really.
This is probably THE best body image/ED post on Lovelyish.
yay i love this!
...I get what you are trying to say, but you can be fat and depressed as well. Depression isn't specific to a certain weight, it happens to the best of us and it's a mental disease that is so hard to push through. What are friends if they aren't there for you when you are down and unhappy? I agree, no one wants to be with someone who is constantly miserable, but everyone has points in their lives where they are not happy...and the friends that stick by you through that are true friends.
I have lost a lot of friends because of my eating disorder AND depression/anxiety. If I could I would trade this life in without a moments thought for one that is happier. But, I can't, unfortunately it doesn't work like that. However, I'm glad you overcame your disordered eating and are living a better life now. I just wanted to say that being thin does not automatically make one miserable, you could be fat or even perfectly healthy and yet still be depressed....
I'm average weight but I'm still unhappy, depressed and never really satisfied
happiness isn't about size. it is about perspective.
this is so awesome!
yep I agree with some of the comments where it's not only skinny that can make someone upset. There's been waaaaaaay to many underhanded insults about thin. This post just tries to hide it a bit.
some people rather be average/skinny/fat and happy than fat and bitter which is what I am seeing
Great post :)
I loved this!
Thin may 'feel' good, but nothing feels as bad as trying to change something, not seeing the change, & only hating yourself more than before.
You're a beautiful person.
I hope myself and other girls can love themselves before they are almost dead.
Much love <3