Saturday, 28 November 2009
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Do Opposites Really Attract?
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Do you think opposites attract, as the old adage says? Do men, especially if they are dark-haired, really prefer blondes?
And if your boyfriend told you he finds dark-haired Mediterranean women very appealing and you happened to be fair haired and fair skinned what would you do? Shrug it off or get offended? What do you think?
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Opposites as in personality, yes.
Everyone wants someone slightly different than them so it doesn't get boring.
i don't think total opposites attract, but people need to compliment each other to a degree for the relationship to be interesting.
my boyfriend and i have very similar interests, but our personalities are different. i think that's a really good mix; it keeps things interesting without many disagreements.
i don't think that opposites in appearance really matters, though. just what you are into...
I don't think that's really true. Almost all the guys that have shown interest in me have had brown hair, tall like me, fit, just stuff like that. And to your question, I wouldn't really care, if he had put up with my nonsense long enough to be my boyfriend obviously he's able to look past his usual preference.
I've been noticing the guys that "dig" me have either blonde or very dark hair, not red like my own. I tend to lean toward guys with the darker hair but that doesn't mean that I am going to dismiss a blonde. Screw that! I mean, there are different things that people find attractive that goes beyond looks.
FALSE!
I'm not a guy but I have dark brown hair and I HATE blond hair I don't care how cute the guy is if he's blond he's pretty much undateable in my eyes.
I think that quote was related to personality though NOT appearance.
Everyone has their own theories about finding a mate, but I don't think love follows any of them. Some couples get along because they're opposite, and some get along because they're similar. I'm all over the board! I date all different races, I haven't dated a blond guy, most have brown hair/brown eye combo and I'm brown hair/blue eye so that's not quite "opposite." I'm petite so of course they're always taller than me, but some have been 5"5" and others over 6' so height is never a factor. I just like to find a guy I'm comfortable with. I can be attracted to dorky white boys, "gangster" type black guys or guys with lots of tattoos and mohawks... I don't think you can help who you fall in love with and they may or may not be your opposite. Be open minded!
on a personality level : COMPLETE opposites don't attract - you need to see eye to eye on something, otherwise it's just a bunch of disagreements in values and ideals. when my friend meets my boyfriend they're usually surprised .... he's an optimistic irish boy raised catholic and an eagle scout. an all around people person. me? anti-social, pessamistic artist.
we balance eachother out, he's a dreamer sometimes but my pessamism brings it down to reality and he's opened my heart a lot. but we believe in God, are democrats, and love eachother:] we have some of the same favorite artists but he mocks my musical addiction and love for accoustic artists. he'll listen to some metal, and rock music.
on a physical level: he has brown hair and BASICALLY the same haircut from when he was a boy (used to be a bowl cut but now its blended lol) and i change my haircolor constantly, have cut my hair off 4 years ago and have piercings. but i'm a natural blonde. &wear glasses when he doesnt(and he loves my glasses, calls them my "sexy librarian look" LOL) maybe it attracts?
If your boyfriend says he likes anyone but you it's time to lose some weight... Weight meaning however many pounds your douche bag of a boyfriend is.
well, boys of course would find other girls attractive. just because you're dating doesn't mean he won't notice other people.
you would too if the roles were reversed (:
I think it all depends. I mean, I'm blond and definitely prefer dark-haired guys. But I'm obviously not gonna rule out anyone that has blond or red hair. How shallow is that ?Â
But I find it more attractive when they have the same personality as me and same music taste. It makes conversation a whole lot easier, too. For me, opposites wouldn't be all that attractive, but I won't be picky. :P
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When I hear that adage, I tend to think more about personality or extreme physical characteristics (like short and tall), not really subtle differences between blonds and brunettes.
When it comes to appearance, we may say one thing, but the person we fall for may not fit that ideal. For example, I say I don't go for blonds, but I dated one before, and I found him attractive. I have friends who say they prefer a woman/man who is friendly and kind, but then end up with jerks. Love is blind, and sometimes dumb and deaf too.
Um so it's a big compliment when you realize a guy isn't usually into girls that look like you. If a guy is crazy about white girls and has never given a second glance to an asian girl, but then he's attracted to me, it's a huge compliment.
If a guy's only into asian girls, though, and he's into me, it's really not flattering because it means that he only likes me because of my hair color, skin tone, and general facial structure.
I don't think hair is a deciding factor in who attracts whom. If you click, you click.
My boyfriend's definitely my total opposite in many aspects. And he has an asian fetish. I'm half, and it makes me feel inadequate sometimes. It definitely has more to do with my being insecure than him though.
A lot of dark haired people date light haired people (this includes hair dyes and weaves).
But it depends. Not all white people would date black guys and vice versa and that also goes with other races. I think that most people (including myself) would find that a person who has a different personality than us to be exciting. I am an introvert, and I am most likely attracted to extroverts, but it really depends on one's personality.
erms.... i dont think that's true..... >.< maybe personality, sometimes. but not something like this
I personally prefer non-brown-colored-eyed-boys. That might or might not be because I have brown eyes myself. But I'm also brunette and prefer brown hair on guys.
opposite as in..not completely the same...then YES!
if he make a comment about some stranger once or twice...no big deal - but repetitively or very seriously (ie, if i was single, i would totally date her...) then there is a problem.
Opposite do attracts, but THINGS IN COMMON attracts even more. Well, this can also led into friendship rather than a lover. From my personal experience, I actually prefer girls who don't smoke, but I was attractive to a few who do smoke frequently.
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Well,,, I prefer vegetarians...
and I am one myself.
I'd say somewhat. Because I'm a dark haired asian who finds cute men with streaks of blond hair and are foreign in appearance attractive. Not saying I don't find some asian guys attractive as well, just that my preference this days is somewhat opposite of me.
i actually heard of a study where couples choose to pick someone that looks similar to them.. its those exceptions where you hear opposite attracts.
i'm impressed! you know what an adage is. haha :)
hmm for myself, i tend to keep with asians >___> i mean i wouldn't say flat out reject other races, i just prefer it.. i prefer something more familiar if that makes sense. culture wise, i prefer to connect.
My boyfriend and I are very similar. Personality and looks wise, besides our eye color. I honestly don't think there's a pattern at all, everyone has their preferences. As for him saying he's attracted to someone who's the opposite of you... I would take offense.