Friday, 06 November 2009
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Is Being Mean...Fun?
Being mean, as many can agree on, is usually condemned, right?
Wrong.
It seems that there will always be people out there who tend to be ignorant, irritating and completely irresponsible. (Notice the alliterations I used?) They somehow think that being rude is acceptable, so much so that hurting someone's feelings could be deemed fun too.
Having thick skin from years of being bullied (I think everyone has been bullied before, right?) I've developed a sense of pride about myself. I pity those who tend to put others down for their own enjoyment and their lack of self esteem.
I was recently told my eyes were a turn-off and though I didn't care about what such individual said, I thought about the reasons behind why they said it.
Did they really find being rude/mean/a bully, fun? Was it just in their blood to make fun of others, or were they somehow mistreated over the years? Maybe was it just an irrevocable personality trait. Anyways, why do you think people are bullies? And for fun...answer the question under.
The real question is: Why is she so rude?
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i try not to be mean to people. i hate seeing people get their feelings hurt, especially for nothing.
be mean to me first though, and you will hear about it.
lol.
@soyeahthatswhathappened@xanga - My thoughts exactly.
i know of this guy in my school who's really an attention seeker and always bully ppl. apparently, he only does this when he's with his friends. if he's alone, he's like an angel lol. but anyway, he's mean because he wants to seek attention.
I don't understand how people purposefully seek out others just to put them down and show how "mean" they really are. Honestly, what does that even prove? Sadly, for a while I once was mean, but it was because I was tired of being pushed around. Found out I sucked at being mean 24/7 so I stopped with that facade. I'm a nice person, sometimes too nice as I've been told. But if you cross the line and hurt me or one of my friends, you'll hear about it for a long long time.
Answer to the real question: baha, I find [some] of her comments quite amusing actually.
i'm just jokingly harsh with all of my close guy friends. they're men. they should be abl to take it. xD
That is horrible. For punishment you should send her chocolate and a lot of money.
@XoAsianBabioX@xanga - Exactly. The person was saying something to him about somebody was a turn off. So I said something about him was a turn off. Some people can dish it but can't take it. Its called grow a pair.
Many people are that way to make themselves feel better, others just like to HURT other people, I know both kinds.
Some people think that I am "mean" and "aggressive" but I'm not, I just stand up for my self, I don't let others treat me bad or walk all over me. I don't ever hurt someone just to hurt them, and I feel bad when someone gets hurt by something I said or did, UNLESS they started it.
For many years I let people treat me badly, because I believed that they were "better than me" and therefore I shouldn't say anything. Now I don't care, IF you are in the wrong, I'll tell you about it, I still try and be as nice as possible when handling the situation, but when it comes down to it, anyone who doesn't take it from a bully is "mean"
everybody has a mean streak at one point or another , it's just hard for some to get rid of i guess , and I'm not sure about her
Its fun =] when people show their weak points you feel a responsibility to point it out by making a joke or acting on it. then again there are those who go over board for different reasons, whether it's jealously, or hate or just plain entertainment, people have their reasons.
@ShimmerBodyCream@xanga - You make me want some punishment, too. ;D
@Lovebipolar117@xanga - oo you naughty girl. you can share my chocolates!
I don't know. But she and I for some reason seem to get along. Then again, I keep my posts of fashion and Megan Fox to an absolute minimum. So, for that, who wouldn't like me?
@ShimmerBodyCream@xanga - Yesss!! :]
@ShimmerBodyCream@xanga - I never said I couldn't take it, lol.
I just thought it was time Lovelyish took a stand against your "whirlwind" of commentary excellence (or lack thereof).
By the way, a synthetic personality trait can change (e.g. wanting to be an attention whore) but what your physical features are (e.g. an eye) can't.
You should watch what you say to people next time.
@Lil_Dude433@xanga - Yes. And you can change your shitty eyes with surgery. Well... probably not since you seem to be fuckin cryin all of the time, whiner.
I hate knowing that I hurt somebody's feelings- it makes me feel horrible and I don't feel big and accomplished. I feel like an ignorant bully. I make it a point to try and say sorry. If they don't accept it, then that's on them. But honestly, I never usually even say anything mean to begin with.Â
When I'm with friends, we'll joke around and be mean to each other, but it's out of love !
@ShimmerBodyCream@xanga - It's not crying, it's trying to prove a point.
You're being RUDE and DISRESPECTFUL. Can you not GET THAT?
Yeah, I commented saying Kathy Griffin's outlandish behavior is a turn off, but that does not demeanor my image of her as a comedian. The things she does OUTSIDE of her profession is what I'd been aimed at. Similarly to Paris Hilton, Tara Reid, Lindsay Lohan and all those other celebrities who try and plaster themselves all over tabloids.
If it was a post about either of those aforementioned celebrities, I would have said the same: The attention grabbing personality trait they have is a turn-off.
@Lil_Dude433@xanga - It is romantic you wrote a whole post for me, even though your eyes are ugly and a turn off, any post about me is an amazing post. I love you.
@Lil_Dude433@xanga - btw,
this might be stereotyping but..
you're a guy, i think they get bullied wayyy less than girls.
Girls are just pure evil and plotting when it comes to bullying.. especially on looks and stuff
People are bullies cuz.. they are immature.. and stupid.. and insecure.. and need a life.
@ShimmerBodyCream@xanga - It was long overdue to write a post about "mean girls".
You just helped become my example for the point I was proving
Also, do you stand at a narrow-minded perspective on life? It seems like people who don't agree with you are automatically antagonized.
@x__dollyco@xanga - I don't believe that actually :P
Not all girls are mean. It's just somehow along the time line of their lives, something happened to make them the way they are.
I respect women too much as a whole to feel such an individual could demeanor the image of all females.
And guys and girls get bullied equally. Guys can be laughed at/beat up too. Just that most female bullying are done mentally, while guys are physically.
@Lil_Dude433@xanga - what i meant, wasnt about like women as being mean, but the part on the mental and physical bullying.
I just think girls have it harder when they get bullied because its usually a mental thing
guys get the physical, they just get a good punch and thats probably the end of the thing
girls have to be tormented through mind games.
@Lil_Dude433@xanga - Well I appreciate the dedication to a topic just for me. It is the best possible choice to make. Mancouch and now lovelyish both recognize this.