Tuesday, 06 October 2009
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I Don't Ever Want to Get Married!
I don't want to get married. I get a lot of grief for this decision, but a lot of time and thought process went into this choice. People (my mother) tell me it's irresponsible and slutty and I'm not doing my duty to God. Other people tell me I'll be lonely and sad and live to regret it etc.
I came to this decision by prioritizing what I want in life.1. To travel the world extensively and experience all the different cultures2. To become a doctor and join doctors without borders3. To get my Ph.D. in Biology as well4. Start my own orphanage5. Own a my own hospital6. Start a research department in my hospital7. Expand my orphanage into a school for the underprivileged9. Build my dream house8. Adopt two or three kidsAnd you know what, I want to do it by myself! I don't want a husband by my side, I have no desire.When I was little I wanted to get married...I think that might be because everywhere I went, everyone was married, and in every movie everyone got married. It's just what you did so I think I was almost brainwashed by society in that way.As for sex? I have no problem with sexual promiscuity as long as your partners okay with it (if you're in a relationship) and you're not sleeping with a committed man/woman. Sex is just an act of pleasure to me there's not much emotion attached to it. Though having sex with someone you're in love with can feel a lot better it's not necessary.What do you think? Do you want to get married?
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ya, but i dont' really want kids, but if he wants some, then i would go for it.
Yes, I do, very much. I can do lots of stuff on my own, but at some point it becomes selfish.
Eww. Guys have cooties. :)
I don't believe in marriage.
It's historically a man's way of exerting ownership on a women, I don't need a certificate and fancy ceremony to love someone.
OMG I want to do #7 and #8!
But I do want to get married. My hubby will just have to do what I want to do. :) But if it's your choice to not get married people shouldn't give you crap about it.
I want to get married, but I really don't want kids.
One day, when I meet another person that I care deeply for like my significant ex whom I will not want to leave that's when I'll get married.
Your goals are great! And I am also certain that getting married is not in my destiny. It's just not part of my plan, and I'm confident enough in my life plan to be able to say that I don't want to ever get married or have kids.
It's just right for some people, and not for others, I suppose.
I want the whole 9 yards, total package! <3
good for you! you don't always need a man by your side! sure, one could get lonely, but why do i have to be married to be unlonely, can't i just hang out with my friends?
but, sometime in my future i guess i would like to get married... but i really dont want children... or anything else that comes from being married.
i cant wait to get marry....seriously
Your goals are really admirable. :D That would be amazing if you could do that.
However, my dream is to get married. To find someone to live by my side always and to understand me. I also want children that I can pass my knowledge and experience onto. That's just me though. ^-^
I don't want to get married again unless its to my soon to be ex. If we never get back together I plan to only date or just to stay single.
I'm married and it's wonderful. It's a sense of completeness I didn't even know I was missing. I can't imagine life without him to live our dreams together. It's makes fufilling what we've always wanted even more special to have eachother at our side to experience it. I find your post quite sad.
. You have great ambitions though!
But marriage gives you great tax breaks! (That's the main reason I plan on getting married.)
phew glad im no the only one! haha that's kinda what i want too. travel, have your dream job, adopt, to be independent ^^
and my friends thinks im crazy for it..
I have so much I want to accomplish, and so does my boyfriend of almost 3 years. But I'm almost positive we'll marry, and I want that more than anything.
not really. i dread becoming one of those "american dream" people where all they want is to get married and pop out a few kids and die. marriage is cute on tv, but not in my reality.
I want to be married & have kids but I think it's AWESOME you want to do all that & you feel you can do it on your own.
i don't think i want to get married. i'm not opposed to it, but it's not a goal or anything. YAY for the m.d./ph.d. path, though. we need more ladies like that.
I love being married - and it definitely wasn't in my life plans! But I've got a husband who supports my outlandish dreams and goals and understands my save-the-world complex, so it's a wonderful thing. I never wanted to get married, and now I know my life would be so much emptier without my husband.
But you don't NEED to get married, good for you for standing up for yourself! It sounds like you want to do a hell of a lot of good in the world, and that's what really matters.
I had similar thoughts at one point. BUT I feel that it wouldn't be the best for me. More power to you. :)
Marriage is going to be awesome. Why? I couldn't imagine being happier with one person for the rest of our lives, working together and when it gets tough, that band (and legal pieces of paper) will remind us that hey, we're in this for the long haul. Why did I fall in love with you? Oh yeah, I remember, let's do that again.
I want to be a suzy homemaker. I grew up without a mother who really gave a damn about anything but working. I want to give my children a sense of motherhood, trust & safety through marriage (cuz it was scary as hell when my parents wanted divorces),
Yeah, it's an institution, so what? The parents I know who are married and happy have the most fulfilling lives, it's joyful, it's sometimes tough, but they are not alone. I like that.
I do want to get married and have at least one kid (no more than two lol...). I think its amazing that you want to do all of that and are determined to make it work without being married. Best of luck :)
never say never.
What fairyfloss2004@xanga said