Wednesday, 23 September 2009

  • Stop Judging Others' Fashion and Judge Yourself Instead


    More often than not I hear my girls rattling off about what someone else is wearing or...not wearing!

    I used to be the same way, when I saw someone wearing or saying something that I didn't like, I was the first one to jump on the wagon and start bashing them.

    How come girls do this? I never hear my guy friends saying "OH MY GOD, THAT TOP IS SOOOO NOT."

    Sure, everyone has their pet peeves. Mine are Crocs, I just can't stand them! And I'm not saying there aren't plenty of people walking around with bad clothes and low self esteem.

    But more often than not I see my friends making snarky comments at the girl in "ugly" shoes who just happens to be glamorous enough to pull them off.

    I guess my real question is, why do individuals think that they are so fashionable that THEY can make the calls on what someone is wearing?

    When I realized how much I was judging people, I started to notice it isn't the clothes that fail, it's the person that picked them out.

    Remember that Lovelyish post about the "Ugly" shoes?

    Well, I've come to realize the only thing making any of those shoes ugly or unfashionable is the person wearing them. (I'll save my rant about the difference between things made for aesthetics and things made for the sake of art for a different post)

    All looking good really is to me is knowing what you can pull off and doing it, and if someone walks past me wearing crocs, a tutu, and 5 pounds of eyeliner, while being absolutely fabulous, I have no room to judge or dictate what is and is not acceptable.

    Do you find yourself concerned with what other people are wearing? how often? why or why not?

    If you do, maybe you should turn your comments on yourself.

    Why are we not more concerned about what we are wearing ourselves anyway?

Comments (45)

  • Duhiana@xanga

    I don't really care what other people wear, everyone has their own sense of fashion. The only time I notice, is when they wear a really cute top that I want, or has nice shoes. Besides, I don't think my fashion is "all that" in my taste.

    :) .

  • B1ANCACACA@xanga

    This is one reason why I don't hang out with many girls.  They can be so judgmental.  We're only human though, we can't help but to judge sometimes.  I try to keep things to myself, though.

  • zxzeebrastar@xanga

    I don't really think it matters what people wear. If they're comfortable in it, then fine.

  • goblinsinthemirror@xanga

    I don't really care what others wear. As long as they don't smell bad, that's all I care about

  • Tastes_Eclectic_Fashion

    Most people who make comments like that would never find anything wrong with their own fashion sense. It's all about being superior and elitist. Fashion and style are two completely different things. Someone that chooses to wear crocs is making a style decision not a fashion decision. Those (usually women though I know quite a few gay guys who are just as vicious) who consider themselves fashionable will, of course, put them down because crocs are simply not. Have you ever seen a pair on a model in an issue of Vogue? If you can show me I'll eat my words.


    Mostly this is about people not having thick enough skin. More often than not, any comments you and your friends made were not even heard by the people you were bashing anyway. There's no need to try to protect people who dress differently and have a completely...uhmm...contrasting sense of style to your own.


    When it comes down to it, if you feel comfortable in what you are wearing and are confident that you look good than it shouldn't matter what anyone says about your crocs, tutu, and five pounds of make-up.

  • indiabrittany@xanga

    i love looking at what people are wearing, but honestly, unless they look like a hooker or white trash, i don't find myself commenting negatively on it. i notice what people are wearing everywhere i go. i think people dress a certain way to express themselves and i think it's fascinating to watch people.

  • keyboarderrr@xanga

    totally disregarding the article here, but i love blair's outfit.

  • MyToxicDreams@xanga

    Everyone has their own unique fashion, and I respect that. It's not worth my time to judge what shoes are ugly or not. I don't like them - I don't wear them. She can wear them if she wants to, I don't care!

  • GieGieHeart@xanga

    Eh, it doesn't matter what other people wear, if you can rock it then wear it. However, I'm not gonna lie I do like making comments, to myself, of course, or if a friend is with me. Sometimes it is hard to ignore completely inappropriate outfits. It just makes me wonder what that person was thinking when they walked out of the house wearing that. But, while I'm thinking that about them, someone else is probably saying the same about my choice of outfit. Can't be helped.


    Other then that though, I tend to appreaciate certain parts of outfits more. I love getting ideas by people watching (akward yes, but some people just stand out).


    I am concerned about what I wear. I judge myself quite harshly sometimes. Some days I like to be very well put together, others I could care less.

  • ShimmerBodyCream@xanga

    Crocs are always fucking ugly.

  • Bunny_On_The_Fritz@xanga

    I tend to really not care nor comment on other people's clothing. I don't have much of a fashion sense, so I can't talk! But...there are some people who walk into walmart wearing hillbilly folk sticks fashion that I can't help but go O.O'....why?? haha.

  • Angelsdelight@xanga
    uh-huh

    I think it is the culture we live in now but what is fashion in one place might not be fashion in another. What works in New York or Paris is not going to fly in a small town in southern West Virginia. I remember when my sisters came home from Washington states. They were still dressing like they were in Washington and people look at them crazy because here you don't wear heels everyday and do full makeup unless you are going to church or a job. Everyone here dresses pretty plain.

  • insert_label_here_003@xanga

    My old roommate used to do this and I would always find it horribly annoying. It bothers me because instead of noticing, lets say a unique piece of clothing and simply claiming it as such, she criticizes it to the fullest. Why is there such a need to be judgmental? Yes you can make comments about it but saying "it's ugly" is such a confined statement. It obviously only applies to a slected few because the person wearing it wouldn't be if they thought it was ugly. .  

  • Lil_Dude433@xanga

    The mall is the best place to see people with a good fashion sense and Walmart is the best place to see a circus.

    I enjoy both destinations extremely.

    I don't judge people though, so don't get me wrong :)

  • IInsist@xanga

    i think we get this strange mindset that what we wear is always acceptable.  Or maybe its the fact that we know we can wear something so we feel as if we have to right to judge others when they wear something remotely unsettling to the eye.  Sometimes judging a person on what they wear may give a very obscure indication of their personality.  For instance, a person who throws on a pair of trackies with a jersey, may be a sporty type or one who cares very little in dressing.  By judging them like this, we seem to feed that insatiable hunger of them mean judgmental nature of ourselves.  I feel the need to judge what people wear, but not in the negative sense. I'd be drawn to men who are able to dress nicely without going over the top.

  • Eyes_Herself@xanga

    How about those girls who wear neon see-through leggings (w/o a skirt or shorts or anything!) so I can see their thong and it is really obnoxious because their bootay is in my face. Because of the neon I am drawn in and that ass is just like CHECK ME OUT. NO. NONONO. She knows it. Old people wince, young people wince, everyone is thinking - why?!

    Is it nicer to say that it is unflattering? unattractive? unbecoming? Ugly seems like a crude word for those three "nicer" terms.

     I judge how I look, my ass doesn't hang out. I may look "lame" and comfortable with jeans, but no one is zeroed in on my nether regions. I like neon sheer leggings or tights or whatever, just as an accent. NOT PANTS.

  • Rainy_Day33@xanga

    Not really. I like seeing people dress the way they want to, just because i dont like something they have chosen personally, doesnt mean i am right and i can dictate what they should be wearing or shouldnt. If it looks good on them, or even if it doesnt... it is their life. I'm not going to make them feel bad about it because I like the quirks in people. =)

  • Morningstarrising@xanga

    I don't care what people wear as long as it's not a total assault on my eyes (ala, "people of walmart").  And that can include people who think it's ok to go out in their underwear and also includes people who wear racist/bigoted logos as well.  Just not something I wanna look at.

  • ave_the_nomads@xanga

    We have no right to critic on others' sense of style, just as how I don't expect everyone to understand Fashion.

  • princess_riceball@xanga

    For the most part, I only say something about what someone is wearing if I like it.  I may make a private comment about how the color doesn't complement their skin tone or how something really is not flattering on them and maybe they should have considered something else.  I'm not really one to start out right bashing someone, I've been on the other end of that.  I think I commit my own share of fashion crimes, but I'm more than willing to admit that I could use a stylist, or a make over. 

  • WhenHateIsTheOnlyOption@xanga

    I wear what I want and don't care others wear but it does bother me when people dress school girl/boy and they're not even into school or smart (Kanye West).

  • voraciousconsumption@xanga

    for me it's all about appropriateness.

    I saw this lady the other day all dolled up for work with this black long sleeved sweater dress, tights and knee high boots... LOOKED FABULOUS but it was sunny and nearing 20 degrees (celcius) outside.


    it was hard not to judge... it's like ok I know she was dying to show off her fall clothes (I know I do!) but wait a bit... it will get cold soon enough, lol.

  • MansEtManus@xanga

    I love style and fashion, I don't choose to put it down.


    They critisized the little black dress originally. -- I don't want to be one of those people who has to sit back years from now and say "Sit, I was so wrong."


    (Crocs are the exception. Gardening shoes should never be worn outside of the yard. I don't care how "comfy" they are!)

  • XoAsianBabioX@xanga

    i'm more concerned with myself, but i do enjoy making fun of what other people wear. that sounds so bad, but i had to say it. 

  • brickmelinda@xanga

    Rules rules rules.....life has enough of them. I see no point in making more with what I want to wear. I think people should wear what they want, but follow the small social rules of covering what needs to be covered. Unless your outfit physically harms other people, or makes you look like a hoebag, your good to go!

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