Friday, 03 July 2009
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I'm a Disgrace to All Young Women
It wasn't until a complete stranger had attempted to spit in my face (which thankfully they missed, but unfortunately landed on my newly bought floral tank top instead). It was at that moment that I had actually considered that I had felt insulted. I lifted my head with a disgusted look on my face and fire-like anger filled my eyes as I faced the woman.
She looked about seventy years old and her face had the same disgusted look as mine. Suddenly, the horrible thoughts I was thinking completely disappeared from my mind. Instead, I focused on quickly tracing back the words that could have slipped from my lips to make the elderly woman so upset with me. I didn't have to think long before she opened her mouth and spoke loudly, "You hoodlums. Wrestling is no place for a young lady. I disapprove and pray for your parents. You are a disgrace to young women."
I've never put too much thought on the things that women can or cannot do. In fact, I thought that this gender issue had faded out a long while ago when women around the world placed their feet down and demanded equality. I was sorely mistaken.
Actually, the elderly woman wasn't the first to comment on my interest in the WWE. Many of the people I called my friends have threatened to "disown me from the group" if I didn't stop enjoying, watching, talking, and reenacting anything that had to do with wrestling in general. In their words, "Girls like us don't associate with trailer trash like that." I shake my head in disgust at how judgmental my friends can be. I've come to realize that when they come to the point where they feel somewhat threatened or angered by someone's decisions or actions, they have to put those people down. When realizing this, I've stopped hanging around them as much as I used to. Eventually, this led them to part away and find new friends of their own.
I'm not necessarily upset because my friends don't like wrestling; its the fact that they do not approve of me liking wrestling and choose to control my life based on 1) being a woman and 2) my appearance. It was the same feeling with the seventy-year-old woman at the store. She felt that a "young lady" like myself was an absolute "disgrace to young women" everywhere because I had different interests than what most young ladies in her mind.
I've always been known to be a little tomboyish and wrestling was one of those things that I always enjoyed with the guys. I admit that I stick out like a sore thumb at times when going to a wrestling event or watching it on television with the guys. With my long brunette hair, skinny jeans, gladiator sandals, and designer handbags, I'm pretty sure I'm not what most people would call "wrestling material". In fact, most of the stereotypical types that people associate me with when I mention I'm going to see Smackdown live, are sloppy, obese men with 1999 American flag tees that they cut up themselves to make it sleeveless along with holey blue jean shorts while holding a cup of the cheapest alcohol that they are selling down at the concession stand below.
You can imagine the face that the old woman and my friends had when they hear that I love wrestling and that I consider myself a true edgehead and love the legacy all while giving high fives to my male friends. That was the complete image that my friends had thought of when hearing the word wrestling. They wanted me nowhere near any sort of thing due to the "looks of concern" they would receive from the so- called people that she claimed watched us everywhere we go. I honestly believe the girl is delusional. In all seriousness, she needs to remove whatever is sticking out of her rear and live like the rest of the world which I've jokingly told her many times.
I just really don't understand why people assume based on appearance and gender that you can or cannot do, like, enjoy, watch, love, etc. whatever you choose to and wrestling just so happens to be one of those little assumptions in my situation. I do not consider anyone who likes wrestling to be "trailer trash". Nor do I think that women should be held away from wrestling entertainment because its not "lady-like" enough for ceratin people in this world.
We are all different in this world. Everyone has the right to tell their story. I had done the same when some of my friends chose to wed at an early age. just because I didn't agree with it, I still happily congratulated them and eventually showed up at the reception to show that I supported their decision because it was their choice that they felt made them the happiest. It would be the same thing as my friends choosing to not attend a wrestling event but supporting my decision in going to the event and meeting me afterwards to go grab something to eat. As I sit here, still contemplating the surprising event that had happened only days ago, I can only wonder what other assumptions have been made in this world for women (or even men) dealing with life that they can or cannot choose to enjoy.
Am I just stuck in an area where certain circumstances and activities are expected of women to like and that when someone is outside of the norm, they are considered hopeless, trash, or just all together a disgrace? Or does this continue on in other parts of world besides my Kentucky home?
What do you think? Should wrestling only be considered a male sport? Why or why not?
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i think you liking wrestling is alright. you're not a disgrace to young women. :)
i used to love wrestling too, i love watching it when i was young and played wrestling with my 2 brothers.
What's wrong with wrestling anyway? Honestly, it's entertainment and if you look closely, it's an art form. Some people just can't accept that it's in our culture.
To answer your question, wrestling is for everybody. Male and Female. It doesn't matter. There are organizations like Shimmer that dedicate 100% of the show to the ladies. Some of the best wrestling I've ever witnessed came from Japanese female competitors like Manami Toyota, Ayako Hamada, and Aja Kong. The funny part is that Japanese women were known to be the most docile and submissive. Times have changed. Wrestling is not just a guy thing. There's a rich history of female competitors in both Japan and the United States. Sure, it's a bit more sexed up in America, but that's beside the point. It's entertainment. That ass-clown who had a problem with you should be happy that a woman can pick and choose what she's interested in. In some parts of the world, a woman's freedom can only go so far. Women were oppressed for a long time-----they continue to be in certain parts of the world. Back in the days of Shakespeare, the role of a female character was played by a male because women weren't really allowed to act.
You're not a disgrace to young women. You are one of their champions because you're living life on your own terms. I'm sure plenty of women will agree. If anything, that woman who spit on you is a big disgrace and I'm sure she doesn't mind going back to the stone age. Secondly, she says she's going to pray for you, but the bible says not to judge. As far as I'm concerned, she's not a true Christian.
@NotAVeryGoodName@xanga - i actually thought of that myself a couple days after it happened. i thought it was pretty rare and unique to have a seventy year old woman spit in your face.
@xxsuga_sugaxx@xanga - actually, i did know that. everytime i watch raw or smackdown, they put a random fact on the television before they come back on air and that was one of them. =) i tried telling that to some of my friends...or should i say "used to be" friends. but they just shrugged their shoulders as if that doesn't matter. ( i thought it would be a fun fact seeing as they love basketball) but its their loss i guess. i'll still be sporting my edgehead poster and rated r superstar hat when i go to wrestling events or watch it on tv. =)
@Jack_Hawksmoor@xanga - thank you for your amazing words. you are offically awesome in my book. everything that you say it true and as for the elderly woman, i'm sure she's probably watching wrestling right now thanks to her tivo. if anything, she probably just got mad because she's a jeff hardy fan cause at that time the whole script was about jeff hardy vs edge. =) ( sorry, i just felt like humoring myself for a little bit) but seriously, thanks. you rock. =)
@stealingtheory@xanga - actually, i don't just like edge; i LOVE edge. haha. =) i'm a true edgehead. he's pretty much amazing in my book. but i got the same exact reaction from my guy friends when they asked me who my favorite wwe wrestler was. most of them like jeff hardy, triple h, batista, john cena, etc.. whereas i like the legacy (randy orton, cody rhodes, ted dibiase), edge, john morrison, the miz, etc.. do you watch wrestling? seeing as you know who edge is and from your expression, i assumed you must watch it. =)
@sunshinesasha@xanga - Hey, you're awesome in my book, too.
I never liked watching wrestling but when I was younger I use to wrestle with my dad and now I wrestle with my boyfriend.
I love UFC... I used to stay up untill 1:00am on Sunday mornings just so I could watch it. haha! I don't think it's a discgrace or whatever for women to be fans of wrestling, boxing or fighting. And huge props to those that actually can do the sport!!!
personally, you're kind of weird to me. but that's alright. i have a friend who used to wrestle and she's like the hottest tomboy i've ever met (hear jealousy? you heard right) and she's also the friendliest super-christian i've ever met (no offense to christians across the globe; i just haven't met you) so i'm as down with female wrestling as i can be.
at the same time though, i don't really mind certain things being labeled with a gender. it has to do with the majority factor and since numbers don't bother me, stereotypes that are backed with numbers really don't. i do believe it shouldn't matter that you like wrestling to ANYONE because you're a human being entitled to like what you want.
Don't listen to that old lady or anyone else who wants to judge you...I got my love of wrestling from one of my great-grandmothers, who would have been in her 70's and 80's when we would watch it together on TV (and I know she always watched it, and she *loved* it). I also know what it's like to be judged on nothing important, and I can truly say that the people who do that are pretty sad--who judges people on superficial things like watching wrestling or how they do their hair/dress/etc.? It's silly--we're all much more complicated and interesting than that!
(Btw, my husband will watch wrestling with me, but he took me to watch it last time it was in town--it was his treat to me--so I can vouch that it can be a woman's interest more than a man's--and there's nothing wrong with that!)
ugh, that hag is a disgrace to our entire species for doing something as vile as that. do your thing, and props to you for not breaking her hip like i would have done. <3
That raggedy old coot, I hope you told her to go fuck herself!
Urgh. its disgusting how these people think it has anything to do with them what you like/dislike
its not them that has to watch it!
And also if they are what you call 'friends' ditch them now cos they're obviously not real friends.