Friday, 03 July 2009
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I'm a Disgrace to All Young Women
It wasn't until a complete stranger had attempted to spit in my face (which thankfully they missed, but unfortunately landed on my newly bought floral tank top instead). It was at that moment that I had actually considered that I had felt insulted. I lifted my head with a disgusted look on my face and fire-like anger filled my eyes as I faced the woman.
She looked about seventy years old and her face had the same disgusted look as mine. Suddenly, the horrible thoughts I was thinking completely disappeared from my mind. Instead, I focused on quickly tracing back the words that could have slipped from my lips to make the elderly woman so upset with me. I didn't have to think long before she opened her mouth and spoke loudly, "You hoodlums. Wrestling is no place for a young lady. I disapprove and pray for your parents. You are a disgrace to young women."
I've never put too much thought on the things that women can or cannot do. In fact, I thought that this gender issue had faded out a long while ago when women around the world placed their feet down and demanded equality. I was sorely mistaken.
Actually, the elderly woman wasn't the first to comment on my interest in the WWE. Many of the people I called my friends have threatened to "disown me from the group" if I didn't stop enjoying, watching, talking, and reenacting anything that had to do with wrestling in general. In their words, "Girls like us don't associate with trailer trash like that." I shake my head in disgust at how judgmental my friends can be. I've come to realize that when they come to the point where they feel somewhat threatened or angered by someone's decisions or actions, they have to put those people down. When realizing this, I've stopped hanging around them as much as I used to. Eventually, this led them to part away and find new friends of their own.
I'm not necessarily upset because my friends don't like wrestling; its the fact that they do not approve of me liking wrestling and choose to control my life based on 1) being a woman and 2) my appearance. It was the same feeling with the seventy-year-old woman at the store. She felt that a "young lady" like myself was an absolute "disgrace to young women" everywhere because I had different interests than what most young ladies in her mind.
I've always been known to be a little tomboyish and wrestling was one of those things that I always enjoyed with the guys. I admit that I stick out like a sore thumb at times when going to a wrestling event or watching it on television with the guys. With my long brunette hair, skinny jeans, gladiator sandals, and designer handbags, I'm pretty sure I'm not what most people would call "wrestling material". In fact, most of the stereotypical types that people associate me with when I mention I'm going to see Smackdown live, are sloppy, obese men with 1999 American flag tees that they cut up themselves to make it sleeveless along with holey blue jean shorts while holding a cup of the cheapest alcohol that they are selling down at the concession stand below.
You can imagine the face that the old woman and my friends had when they hear that I love wrestling and that I consider myself a true edgehead and love the legacy all while giving high fives to my male friends. That was the complete image that my friends had thought of when hearing the word wrestling. They wanted me nowhere near any sort of thing due to the "looks of concern" they would receive from the so- called people that she claimed watched us everywhere we go. I honestly believe the girl is delusional. In all seriousness, she needs to remove whatever is sticking out of her rear and live like the rest of the world which I've jokingly told her many times.
I just really don't understand why people assume based on appearance and gender that you can or cannot do, like, enjoy, watch, love, etc. whatever you choose to and wrestling just so happens to be one of those little assumptions in my situation. I do not consider anyone who likes wrestling to be "trailer trash". Nor do I think that women should be held away from wrestling entertainment because its not "lady-like" enough for ceratin people in this world.
We are all different in this world. Everyone has the right to tell their story. I had done the same when some of my friends chose to wed at an early age. just because I didn't agree with it, I still happily congratulated them and eventually showed up at the reception to show that I supported their decision because it was their choice that they felt made them the happiest. It would be the same thing as my friends choosing to not attend a wrestling event but supporting my decision in going to the event and meeting me afterwards to go grab something to eat. As I sit here, still contemplating the surprising event that had happened only days ago, I can only wonder what other assumptions have been made in this world for women (or even men) dealing with life that they can or cannot choose to enjoy.
Am I just stuck in an area where certain circumstances and activities are expected of women to like and that when someone is outside of the norm, they are considered hopeless, trash, or just all together a disgrace? Or does this continue on in other parts of world besides my Kentucky home?
What do you think? Should wrestling only be considered a male sport? Why or why not?
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I don't like wrestling, but it shouldn't stop you from loving it just because you're female or other girls don't like it. Guys and girls are equal to me. As a person, you should be allowed to like whatever you want.
haha yeah I used to watch the WWF too with my dad and brothers. It's very "white trash" but who to say that you can't enjoy it? There have been a million things that were once considered that very same title that have come into the mainstream and been made into popular fads. (anyone remember trucker hats and playboy bunny T's?)
Just because you enjoy something others can't seem to wrap their head around doesn't mean that you should stop enjoying the things you like.
I say rock on! Keep breaking down stereotypes with your wacky interests!!
@InTheThin@xanga - stereotypes are usually based in fact ;O
Sheesh. I can't believe that lady thought that you were a disgrace. What in the world is wrong with people? One of my good friends LOVES watching westling and her husband and her organized this awesome Christian wrestling convention, and apparently it went AWESOME.
keep loving wrestling. Love what you love, and don't let dumb people try to stop you.
No it shouldn't. That's just whack. My friend LOOOOVES watching wrestling. My favorite is The Rock btw. I haven't watched wrestling in the longest time so I don't know who's who and what's what. My friend LOVES john cena? Well, girls play basketball right? they also play baseball. soccer, football, lacrosse.... so there shouldnt be a problem with wrestling... was it triple H who said it?.... "Suck it!" haha... i enjoyed watching them before. Tell them that.
keep on watching :)
the rest of them can go to hell
only wrestling i like is when it's me and a guy, no one else....lol.
People can be so judgmental! It's every individual's right to like something, regardless of others' personal views. And I totally identify with the statement about how you don't look anything like what people assume fans of wrestling look like. I don't look like I'd love sports, but I do... to a great extent (:
If you were my friend I'd support you 100% in watching wrestling. Heck I would even go to a wrestling event with you. It would be better than watching it on tv lol.
I'm a girl but that doesn't stop me from reading marvel comicbooks or whatever might be associated with boyish things. I think you should continue doing what makes you happy and you'll eventually find someone who appreciates the real you. As for that old lady, may God bless her soul she should've never spitted on you.
absolutely not! don't let anyone dictate your interests. and you should have told that old woman that it wasn't very ladylike to spit. =p
I wouldn't know what to do if that happened to me. Shit, I'd just be gobsmacked. But seriously, that was random. How'd it happen? Where did it happen? That bitch just made me really mad eventhough it didn't happen to me I still sympathize. Ugh. She's a freaking disgrace of a human being. You should've been like "Well you're a disgrace of an old woman who spits at strangers. You should really learn to aim into your spittoon or whatever it is you use to spit at when people aren't around you.". Stupid old hag. Uggh.
On a side note, I'm happy you know your priorities enough to not be influenced by your so called friends petty behavior. They should know you're not trailer trash - they're friends with you for gods sakes. If they don't like wrestling then don't watch it and talk about other things. They shouldn't judge! I hate people who judge and have stereotypes. Those people are the ones who need to be spat at, but that's just my opinion haha.
But seriously though, who the fuck spits at strangers???? She must be some fine lady that old woman.
@Mangonese@xanga - couldnt agree more.
OIOI.
Well said.
I live in Louisville :*
People's behavioral patterns, not their sports/hobbies, tell you whether a person lives by their ethics, virtues, and other things that make sense, functionally.
Profiling people by their style, interests/passions, "apparent" social class/type, sports, or even what church or temple they go to doesn't tell people anything much of value about their character or potential and pretending that it does only leads to cognitive dissonance and (too easily and too often abusive) power trips.
The old lady was very poorly behaved, crossed the line, and showed you disrespect because you weren't living according to her sexist world view, which is obviously a paradigm in which abusive behavior features, as she so pointedly demonstrated.
Ewwww, did she have to spit? Who does that? I think I may have drop kicked her before I could stop myself (my temper is that bad) so kudos to you for controlling yourself!
I used to watch wrestling when I was younger but I stopped. Now, I love UFC matches! L.O.V.E. and sure enough, when I head over to my friend's house to watch it on Pay-Per-View, I'm the only girl there (in a dress on top of it all) with a group of guys.
It's good being unique so ignore those who want you to conform.
your "friends" aren't worried about how people will judge you; they are being selfish and concerned about their own character. obviously, they are a tad bit stuck up and have not discarded the "jr. high school" attitude, where they have to be ever so "cool." if i were you, i'd ditch them. that's just my opinion though.
by the way, you should have totally got that lady in trouble for harassment. i'm sure there were cameras all around. that'd have showed her.
hahaha
I know a woman in her 70's that loves WWE! I think it's cute. But also, I think everyone should be able to have their own interests and not have to worry about "being disowned from the group."....Plus, I think this old lady that tried to spit on you is still living in her time and doesn't realize that things are different than from then!
i dont like wrestling.
but fuck me, if you do!
pardon my french, but really?
forget anyone who is ignorant enough to force their views upon you,
i hate that.
i honestly think everything is messed up because of people like that.
she just tried to SPIT on a stranger who did her no wrong, and shame on YOU?
uhmm,,, not in my world.
enjoy your wwe, tell john cena i send my love.
haha, i dont even know if thats what he does anymore.
DO WHAT YOU WANT AND DON'T LET OTHERS TELL YOU OTHERWISE.
Are you happy doing it?
That's all that matters.
it is NEVER someone else's job to treat you like this.
You need a hug
*hug*
what a cunthole. she is a disgrace to her parents and spittin on someone is no way for a lady to act. I wouldn't trust the opinio of someone like that.
... Wait, what?
I guess living in a super-small town has kept me away from all of this, but... Liking wrestling isn't weird. I know a lot of people who like it, including some women. Hell, my girlfriend watches pro wrestling sometimes, just because it's so silly.
It's not bad that you like wrestling. It's kinda cool. Gives you an edge.
That woman was old (you know you can't really listen to narrow-minded statements from old people, it's pretty normal for them to be that way), and those friends sound pretty stuck-up. You're better off without worrying about them. If people really want to distance themselves from you based off of an interest in wrestling of all things, then they obviously have some serious problems of their own that they need to work through.
wrestling rocks! girls who like wrestling...<3
Divas are hot....wrestling is very entertaining. Anyone can enjoy it, but it is mainly a soap opera for males.
im not interested in watching WWE or w/e it is cuz it looks fake n then it gets all bloody..
but hey! i like to wrestle =) in fact nobody knows that haha because i dont look like the type that would
you have the right to like it, go find some frds that has the same interest! if nobody does and your friends group up and highly dislike it... then jut dont tell them
btw your friends should accept yrou for who you are...
what that old woman did was disgusting and totally inappropriate. i don't think anybody should look down on you or anyone else for liking wrestling. that would be like people looking down on you for liking football because it's a man's sport. i hope you've found or do find better friends that accept your interests whether or not they like them
The only thing I hate more than gender roles and stereotypes are the people who accept them unquestioningly and impose them on others.
To answer your final question, wrestling should be for ANYone who enjoys theatrically beating the crap out of ANYbody in front of a boisterous audience.