Friday, 03 July 2009
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I'm a Disgrace to All Young Women
It wasn't until a complete stranger had attempted to spit in my face (which thankfully they missed, but unfortunately landed on my newly bought floral tank top instead). It was at that moment that I had actually considered that I had felt insulted. I lifted my head with a disgusted look on my face and fire-like anger filled my eyes as I faced the woman.
She looked about seventy years old and her face had the same disgusted look as mine. Suddenly, the horrible thoughts I was thinking completely disappeared from my mind. Instead, I focused on quickly tracing back the words that could have slipped from my lips to make the elderly woman so upset with me. I didn't have to think long before she opened her mouth and spoke loudly, "You hoodlums. Wrestling is no place for a young lady. I disapprove and pray for your parents. You are a disgrace to young women."
I've never put too much thought on the things that women can or cannot do. In fact, I thought that this gender issue had faded out a long while ago when women around the world placed their feet down and demanded equality. I was sorely mistaken.
Actually, the elderly woman wasn't the first to comment on my interest in the WWE. Many of the people I called my friends have threatened to "disown me from the group" if I didn't stop enjoying, watching, talking, and reenacting anything that had to do with wrestling in general. In their words, "Girls like us don't associate with trailer trash like that." I shake my head in disgust at how judgmental my friends can be. I've come to realize that when they come to the point where they feel somewhat threatened or angered by someone's decisions or actions, they have to put those people down. When realizing this, I've stopped hanging around them as much as I used to. Eventually, this led them to part away and find new friends of their own.
I'm not necessarily upset because my friends don't like wrestling; its the fact that they do not approve of me liking wrestling and choose to control my life based on 1) being a woman and 2) my appearance. It was the same feeling with the seventy-year-old woman at the store. She felt that a "young lady" like myself was an absolute "disgrace to young women" everywhere because I had different interests than what most young ladies in her mind.
I've always been known to be a little tomboyish and wrestling was one of those things that I always enjoyed with the guys. I admit that I stick out like a sore thumb at times when going to a wrestling event or watching it on television with the guys. With my long brunette hair, skinny jeans, gladiator sandals, and designer handbags, I'm pretty sure I'm not what most people would call "wrestling material". In fact, most of the stereotypical types that people associate me with when I mention I'm going to see Smackdown live, are sloppy, obese men with 1999 American flag tees that they cut up themselves to make it sleeveless along with holey blue jean shorts while holding a cup of the cheapest alcohol that they are selling down at the concession stand below.
You can imagine the face that the old woman and my friends had when they hear that I love wrestling and that I consider myself a true edgehead and love the legacy all while giving high fives to my male friends. That was the complete image that my friends had thought of when hearing the word wrestling. They wanted me nowhere near any sort of thing due to the "looks of concern" they would receive from the so- called people that she claimed watched us everywhere we go. I honestly believe the girl is delusional. In all seriousness, she needs to remove whatever is sticking out of her rear and live like the rest of the world which I've jokingly told her many times.
I just really don't understand why people assume based on appearance and gender that you can or cannot do, like, enjoy, watch, love, etc. whatever you choose to and wrestling just so happens to be one of those little assumptions in my situation. I do not consider anyone who likes wrestling to be "trailer trash". Nor do I think that women should be held away from wrestling entertainment because its not "lady-like" enough for ceratin people in this world.
We are all different in this world. Everyone has the right to tell their story. I had done the same when some of my friends chose to wed at an early age. just because I didn't agree with it, I still happily congratulated them and eventually showed up at the reception to show that I supported their decision because it was their choice that they felt made them the happiest. It would be the same thing as my friends choosing to not attend a wrestling event but supporting my decision in going to the event and meeting me afterwards to go grab something to eat. As I sit here, still contemplating the surprising event that had happened only days ago, I can only wonder what other assumptions have been made in this world for women (or even men) dealing with life that they can or cannot choose to enjoy.
Am I just stuck in an area where certain circumstances and activities are expected of women to like and that when someone is outside of the norm, they are considered hopeless, trash, or just all together a disgrace? Or does this continue on in other parts of world besides my Kentucky home?
What do you think? Should wrestling only be considered a male sport? Why or why not?
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Individuals sicken me when the decide to press their views of anything on other people when it has nothing to do with them.
you have the right to enjoy wrestling, just as we have the right to judge you for liking it.
i have to admit, i've always considered fake wrestling to be as white trash as mullets.
but what do i know. i've never been to a wrestling event.
Stereotypes are horrible. I'm sorry your friends weren't supportive of you. That would make me really upset if my friends did that. I think women should be able to do whatever and play whatever sport they want. Some one needs to spit in that old ladies face. Just sayin.
I loved wrestling. Stopped watching it when it became WWE instead of WWF.
When I was younger I SO wanted to be a wrestling diva! I even did a lil "gig" for a local wrestling group where I got to play the bad girl diva... it was fun, and cool that I kinda got to live out my dream... though on a small scale. But yeah, now I want to be a Math Teacher, go figure.
That elderly woman is such a lady; she tried to spit on you. Terribly ladylike of her. Blech, that makes me sick.
NO! While I've never really been interested in wrestling, I think it's just silly, stupid & riduculous to think that women "shouldn't" enjoy it.
When I happen to catch a glimpse of it and I see two female wrestlers, I, infact, feel proud to see women being powerful & strong. I don't deem it as trailer-trash or disgraceful to young women--or old women, middle-aged women, whatever.
I really don't see why people try to have these insignificant gender stereotypes. It's just awful to think that someone shouldn't do, say or feel something based on their sex and/or appearance.
I say do what you want as long as it's legal, moral & no one gets physically or emotionally hurt.
As for your friends....I don't know what to say about that.
In your position, what I'd want to do is explain to them that it's something I like and if they don't like it, they'll have to decide which is more important: me or my (harmless) interests.
Although, what I think I'd REALLY do is not talk to them about wrestling anymore.
And the old woman I would have liked to have said "Piss off, you old hag. Like I give a crap what you think."---But, that's not really like me.
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I think wrestling is disgusting, but who is to tell you that you can't enjoy it if you want to?
@billielover79@xanga - Me too! Gosh, I miss WWF!
"You are a disgrace to young women."
HAHAHAHAHAHAHA OMFG HAHAHAHAHAHHA
you can only laugh at comments like that
I SAY FIND NEW FIRNEDS IF YOUR FRIENDS DONT LIKE YOU FOR WHO YOU ARE THIER SHALLOW LOSERS WHATS WRONG WITH WRESTLING?
I don't like wrestling either, but I do enjoy non-girly things. I was on a date at the movies, watching Star Trek and I whispered to my date, "Where are the Borg?" and he was really surprised I knew anything about Star Trek. Unlike your situation though, he took it positively and actually liked it. You never know, there might be guys out there that love a wrestling-oriented girl like you.
That is ridiculous that she would spit on you for that! What a hag.
I mean seriously, whooo cares if you like wrestling? Some people still think women don't belong in the workforce. Some people think it is unladylike to get involved in politics.
Personally, I don't like wrestling at all, but I'm into a lot of things people don't like (people call me a nerd for stargazing and girls think I'm weird because I don't like pop music or clubbing).. And do I care? No. These people aren't exactly people I admire or look up to. And with all the issues that society has today, it really is a waste of time to worry about whether or not it is girly to watch wrestling and then bring someone down for that.. um, how about worrying about education? The environment? World issues? You know, important stuff? I mean seriously, people really have their priorities messed up and that woman had no right to spit at you for that, what a disgusting hag!!Â
A little work and this could probably be twisted into a good comedy skit. Seriously. That's funny.
I used to watch wrestling, a lot actually. I've been to a few shows. I was even front row tv side on Raw once. I haven't watched it lately though. I lost a bit of interest after awhile. It doesn't mean that I now think it is "un-lady like" or only for "white trash." I respect your choice to enjoy and support it, it's just not for me anymore.
Though I do have to admit when I was a fan I wouldn't wear any wrestling t-shirts because of that whole stigma that comes with being a wrestling fan. (To be fair though I don't like wearing band t-shirts because I don't like that some people will judge you for your taste in music.)
Ugh god that old woman is disgusting. I want to spit on her.
You should have asked her if she also still thought that black people were inferior, gays should be hanged, and if she misses seeing dinosaurs outside her window when she was your age.
it's okay, i use to love wwe too. at least one of the originals. then it got sucky
I actually enjoy watching it as well. :/
I used to watch wrestling as a kid; I think it's cool that you do it.
I can't believe that woman actually spat on you.
I dont agree with limitations or others telling someone what kind of person they should be. I think that what your friends did was immature and what that woman did was because of ignorance. However, In my opinion, although I was the biggest tomboy you could ever meet in my childhood I still don't approve of violence as entertainment in general.
@cornyonacob@xanga - I guess I have to agree with you...when I see someone throwing up gang signs, wearing chains, and donning pants that sag down to his knees, I assume he's really really uneducated.
i really wish i could've met this lady. "hi, i graduated fifth in my class, have never gotten drunk in my life, and watch wrestling. is there a problem?" lol.
people sicken me. i've been lucky enough to have never come across anything like this ... yeah, people are shocked when i tell them i watch wrestling, but it never goes past that. i was popular with the boys in elementary school because of it, lol. on Tuesdays we'd come into class and talk about what happened on Raw the night before, it was awesome! :P. in middle school, i actually got one of my best (female) friends into it, and we watched together ... some of the best memories from that time in my life. i figure it's harmless, as long as it doesn't teach anyone to be violent or trashy (because i do think it's kind of demeaning to women, not gonna lie).
i haven't watched in awhile because i personally think it's gotten horrendously boring, but i proudly display my Undertaker poster in my room, much to my mom's chagrin. so it's lovely to meet you, Edgehead. i'm Creature of the Night. :D
personally i hate wrestling (my sexist, racist, wife-abusing great uncle loved it & turned me off it forever), but self-righteous cranky old traditional ladies are something i hate even more! you should have told her you had TB/hepatitis/swine flu etc. and spit back LOL don't let other people's idiocy get you down
Like what you wanna like, tell your friends to sod off, and stay away from that woman.