Tuesday, 30 June 2009

  • A Blog About Boobs

    My chest is small! Yep, hardly a 32A. I didn't really care about it before because I was always fit, but recently because of certain events in my life (plus some rude remarks) I've been hung up about my size. So, I started doing a lot of research as to opinions of chest sizes as well as tips on how to possibly make them bigger and while doing that I've even stumbled across some interesting theories and possible explanations to the chest size complex.

    Now, I've seen a lot of writing on this topic that received a lot of negative feedback but I'm going to say now that I'm not trying to offend anyone or have a bias, I'm only using info I've found. So let's start with a long lived question:

    Does size matter?

    I've looked at sites for women and I've looked at sites for men on forums or articles (to which people wrote comments) about chest size. It seems that on the sites for women the women and the men are much more sensitive and open minded. They usually have positive comments or if it is against the topic, still often show that it is just an opinion and they don't mean any harm.

    However! On sites for men (such as Askmen.com) I found that both the men and women (sometimes more so the women!) are more harshly honest, and sometimes just harsh. But all in all it changed how I thought about chest size. I admit though that with some comments, they made me feel terrible and think that all people were like this or thought that way, but then some really made sense and made me feel good.

    Here are some to show the stresses and difficulties (but also pluses) of what women go through with their chests:

    Negatives for small chested women (mostly from men):

    -Not only are you put down by men, but your girl friends might even be worse

    -You can be pretty, but you will never be sexy, you have the body of a child or boy which makes any guy that likes you a homo or pedophile 

    -A guy who says size doesnt matter is only whipped and in denial (in a relationship, before and after a relationship he will be looking for big breasts, he only says that to be nice to you

    -Your boyfriend may love he but he might not be attracted to you and will need other "things" to help satisfy him

    -Your boyfriend may love you, but will be looking at girls that have more chest than you

    -You should stop trying to compete with chestier girls because in the same room or next to them they will get all the attention and you will be invisible

    -A lot of men who say they like small chests, think that a C cup is small

    -Have to do more to accommodate for our lack of chest

    -They're more fun and desirable in general

    -Looks mean everything and can put you higher in life

     

    Negatives for large chested women (mostly from women):

    -Back pain and difficulty finding bras that fit

    -Insecurity about how they’re breasts look when naked or even in clothes(how they fit, stretch marks, movement etc) plus worrying whether they look appropriate

    -Are afraid of how their chest looks when men expect the medias perfect portrayal of large boobs

    -Negative attention

    -They might make you look bigger than you actually are or you might actually be curvy. People may also assume you have gotten work done

    -Get in the way during sex and sometimes feel men are inexperienced with them or intimidated

    -May want them smaller but cant or are pressured into believing ‘bigger is better’

    -Feel they might be judged or that they’re looks are all that matter  to everyone

    Positives for large chested women:

    -You get attention!

    -Your breasts give you more sexual options and don’t feel insecure naked because men love to be able to see them in general

    -As everyone knows, lots and lots of men love more chest -> and your partner will love showing you off

    -Even if they’re a little saggy or imperfect, there are men that love that too!

    -A good man will love you for you and the boobs would be an added bonus ;)

     

    Positives for large chested women:

    -You get attention!

    -Your breasts give you more sexual options and don’t feel insecure naked because men love to be able to see them in general

    -As everyone knows, lots and lots of men love more chest -> and your partner will love showing you off

    -Even if they’re a little saggy or imperfect, there are men that love that too!

    -A good man will love you for you and the boobs would be an added bonus ;)

     

    Positives for small chested women:

    -There ARE men that love and prefer smaller chests(even flat ones), they think that they’re sexier, more proportionate, and can be handled well. There’s a lot of men, they can’t all be the same

    -A lot of guys just care about the breasts and nipples, not the size

    -You don’t have to wear a bra and with the right top men say that a women without a bra can be more intriguing than large ones in a bra

    -It’s easier to look classy, and not provocative

    -A lot of times it’s in your head and men do find you and your ‘small chest’ attractive

    -Less of a risk that you’ll sag with old age

    -People can see you for you and not just your chest, or they might even notice your other features more

    -You wouldn’t want negative attention and someone who likes you for you and not the size of your chest anyways-> if the right guy really loves you, he genuinely will not care

    -It’s not your fault! You were born like that so love it and find a man who does too

    -It’s not your fault it’s bio and you might have a cute butt – Will be explained later J

    So as you can see there is a wide range of opinions and I’ve thought a lot about them, made opinions, and realizations that I COULD point out, but I think you’ve probably made your own so I’ll leave it at that hehe.

    Interesting theories:

    Having perplexed many, there have been quite a few theories made. Some are proven and some were made because they appeared logical.

    - Men are attracted to larger breasts because of the animal attraction. Breasts are only mammary glands, remember that they’re really only there to care for your children (makes you wonder why everyone makes them such a big deal) so bigger breasts supposedly mean they will be good providers.

    Same can be said for men right? Why are women usually more attracted to well built men? Because they look like good providers (back then it would be hunter). We should all have evolved by now don’t you think? We’re not cave people anymore J

    - People are more attracted to larger breasts because they were not breast fed long enough. In society today weaning is done as soon as possible.

    - I’ve noticed that a lot of small chested women (including myself) say that they don’t mind their small chest because they have a great butt that guys love! As it turns out, because the attraction to large breasts is biological, for women who don’t have much chest their wide hips are there to compensate and show that they are fertile

    Things to do to have a healthy chest…and make it bigger or smaller

    The most important this is having a HEALTHY chest

    For a healthy chest you must make sue sure it is getting the proper vitamins. Vitamins A, E, and C  are good for your skin.

    You can also take herbal supplements or teas to ensure that these vitamins go to your chest or regulate your hormones. Not only is this good for your moods and PMS (as well as MANY other things) but it may also help with adjusting the size of your chest. Women with small chests might have too much testosterone and women with large ones may have too much estrogen, so by taking herbs like fennel, saw palmetto, or fenugreek (found in health food stores and in breast enhancement products) they can help regulate those hormones and take you to a proper size.

    Massaging your breasts will also promote blood flow to that area while also ensuring that you check for lumps and bumps. I’m not sure but I’ve heard there is a certain way to massage. You should do this 5 minutes a day.

    Do exercises. There are many that you can find online that are good for your chest (and whole body of course). Not only will you be healthier and active but it can produce muscles that will keep everything up. For small chests the exercises can make them bigger because the muscle tissue will build up behind the fats, some even help create cleavage or make them rounder.

    You can also find lists online of what foods create more estrogen and which suppress it. For example white rice, tapioca, fruits (except some), onions, and many more, suppress estrogen (this shocked me, because I’m Asian and eat a lot of white rice). While animal flesh, sunflower seeds, papayas, lavender contain more. If you have a small chest because of your size you can also try eating foods with lots of healthy fat to gain weight such as in milk, papayas, or avocados.

    I myself have been starting to do all of these and feel great. I'll tell you if I start to look great too ;) I hope this helped anyone out there who is insecure about their chest size and that not only have I changed your perspectives on it but helped you take to a healthier lifestyle! Have fun and love yourself!

    What do you think of the comments about chest size, both negative and positive, from the people on the forums?  Which ones do you agree with?  Disagree with?

Comments (164)

  • ImperialDoctrinesOfTheNewWorld@xanga

    Amen!!! My older sister has a small chest, and mine is actually rather large-ish. It's so funny though, because I'll tease her about not having any boobs, and she'll tease me about how big mine are. Great post!!!

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  • Mangonese@xanga

    >:[

    I've always been very skinny. It's not something I can really help. I think the 32A measurement I supposedly have is a little too optimistic. I've never had a single bra fit right.

    Recently, they had been getting bigger for some reason or another. I was on Yaz for a few months, and WOW did I like that. Unfortunately, the pills had other side effects my body couldn't cope with and I switched to The Shot. Happy boobs = gone.

    It got even worse over the last week. I was under a lot of stress from travel to a funeral and I lost some weight (I've also been sick with some unknown gastro problem for months, making me incapable of eating a wide variety of foods) from living off of french fries, which were the only things my body would stand to digest.

    I got back home and had a wild day with the boyfriend. Afterward, he looked over at me and told me he was going to make food, what did I want? I said I was fine, but he insisted.

    It turns out he noticed the (3 lb!) weight loss and I guess most of it dropped from my boobs. They're absolutely tiny again. Like smaller than they've been in years.

    I feel like a ten year-old.

  • eternal_relevance@xanga

    I'm considered the 'odd-ball' in my family because of my large chest. (DD38) --The women in my family have all been small-medium chested, with the largest being a C cup.

    You're spot on about all the advantages and disadvantages.
    -The truth is that we're all going to be unhappy about something.
    Chest-ier girls tend to be more curvy. Girls that are more slender tend to have smaller chest sizes.
    **We should just all stop trying to think that we need to have J. Simpsons ideal bod in order to be happy. (Big boobs, small waist)

    We should just face it. Life is a tradeoff. We get pluses and minuses here and there but we're good with what we've got.
    Great post by the way. =)

  • rhea

    I'm a 34A and I love them. I think its easier for me to look thin.. And that's what I like on me. I call them classy. haha. They also don't move around too much when I'm involved in any kind of physical activity. That's good :)

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  • cornyonacob@xanga

    this post mentions nothing about girls who are fat and flat.
    like me. :P

  • just__one__me@xanga

    When I look at other women, I usually notice their weight rather than their breast size.

    I'm a 34C. Depending on your perspective, I could either have a large or a small bust. For my weight though, I guess my breasts are somewhat large. I get lightly teased about how "big" they are, but I don't mind that much.

    Pros:
    I get more attention (positive)
    They balance out my large-ish hips

    Cons:
    Finding tops that fit and are appropriate

    they hurt when I run unless I have on a good sports bra
    I get more attention (negative)

    I would say that the pros outweigh the cons, so I'm glad I'm the size I am!

  • bundleoflisa@xanga

    I guess I'm fine with my petit chest bc I make up for it with my ass. since we're all being honest about it. hahaha

  • irunwithwerewolves@xanga

    i've got decent sized boobs for my age... i'm only 13. :P the smallest woman in my family (on BOTH sides :P) is a C, but of course, she's also 60 some years old and has three kids. i'm kind of afraid of what's coming... :o

  • JoeytheGenie@xanga

    im barely a 32A too!
    and I fully agree there are some pros + cons
    i love the fact i have small boobs b/c they don't get into the way when i run
    i hate the fact i have small boobs b/c i can't really wear strapless dresses b/c they fall off
    im also envious of friends with bigger boobs b/c they can put on some weight yet it doesn't seem noticable b/c they have the boobs to balance it out
    but i have to disagree with what you said about widder hips; i have really narrow hips....

  • methodElevated@xanga

    I prefer small breasts (as a bisexual); C cup or smaller.

  • BelisaAmbrose@xanga
    Well done! :)

    I loved your article.  I am a woman who until now, have had small breasts, and I always thought that having bigger breasts would make me happier.


    Because of a change in lifestyle, I have put on a dress size, and a cup size.  But I'm pretty hour glassed shaped so also a butt/hip size.  I'm not big, I'm now a 2? I think an Aus 8, but the looks I get now are strange.  Before I was a natural size 1 and while I was happy about my body, I constantly got heaps of negative response from the same sex. Jealousy?  Now I don't get the same amount of attitude, but a different sort.  Men are weird around breasts!


    So keeping this short and sweet, you have a beautiful body, enjoy it and the way it looks at every stage of your life.  Appreciate it for the beauty it has at this moment.  And remember if something was bigger/better/smaller, you night think it would rock your world, but maybe like me you'd pine for the days of a B cup and no cellulite/butt/hips.  I know I do.

  • BelisaAmbrose@xanga

    @eternal_relevance@xanga - We could all have J.S boobs @ $12000 a pop!

  • Nina1981@xanga

    Ok, I was always a 34B and quite happy with my size for many years.  I was even a topless dancer for a couple years with my 34B's and I did feel really sexy about my chest.  But for some reasons (not going to get into all that) I decided to get implants.  I then became a very full 34D, and now since having a couple kids and currently nursing I am a 34DDD or in some cases a 34E bra size. 
    They are TOO big for my 5 foot tall 108 pound body!  I look RIDICULOUS!  I really hate it- I can't find ANYTHING that fits right... I can't find any bras, victoria's secret sent me to Frederick's cause they had nothing my size, and Frederick's had one bra in the whole store that fit right. 
    Now yes, I brought this upon myself... but I guess it's true- the grass is always greener.  I am now seriously considering having my implants out when I am done nursing my son.  I just think they make me look so much older and heavier... if you only saw a picture of my top half, I look kinda big... if you see below my chest- I look skinny.
    So anyways- I now have a GREAT appreciation for small boobs!  I am so envious when I see small chested girls- and am now disgusted when I see implants- they look so fake and ridiculous to me, bleh.

    One thing I really don't like is guys who claim real is best, but they go nuts over implants!  So which is it dudes?  I don't think most guys really know how to spot fake boobs. 

    Anyways- big boobs are so 1992... look at most of the famous ladies now- small chested.  Small is in! 

  • StarlitGoodbyes@xanga

    Good points.


    Mine are pretty large.  I'm a runner, so they kind of hurt.. But most of the time, I do love them.

  • GiantUnicorn@xanga

    I'm 6'1" and have a 36A.

    It's very depressing. I'm not petite so a small chest doesn't look good on me. I can't not wear a bra because the lack of chest gets me confused for a guy in drag. No joke. I wrote a blog about getting breast augmentation. And I'm thinking of getting it done. Not because of all the stereotypes and thinking men will like me more or whatever. But because I want to feel like a woman. I don't feel like a woman with a small chest. I feel like everyone was given boobs but me. It's unfair in my eyes.

  • swtaznxtc90@xanga

    I have a 34B and I don't relaly like them...I wish they were a bit bigger
    But, I guess, like some other people said, we'll always be somewhat unhappy with ourselves.

  • phantomFive@xanga

    It's not what you got, it's how you work it.


    Also, askmen.com is a site for boys, not men.
  • filipinaxL0VE@xanga

    This was really helpful! It made me feel better about my small chest. Thanks a lot. At least I have wide hips to make up for my top half. (:

  • xkthily@xanga

    I consider myself lucky to have a bit of boobs and a butt... especially for an Asian. haha =)

  • mewithoutu77@xanga

    i have a bigger chest and sometimes i hate the fact that sometimes i can't wear cute shirts without showing too much.  there are positives on having a bigger bust, but guys are always talking directly to it and not me.  the pros are that i can use it to my advantage.

  • nylondare@xanga

    i`m probably about a 34B , which isn`t too small (: it`s kinda perfect size , IMO . i feel kinda in betweenie , cause i`m not SMALL , but i`m not huge / full :|

  • shes_lump@xanga

    I'm a 34A and I don't care... I just have a small chest and I will not get surgery. Sometimes I wish I had bigger boobs but my boyfriend LOVES them and I am just happy that small shirts fit me and I don't look like I'm revealing too much.

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