Saturday, 27 June 2009
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The Best Kind of Beautiful
There are so many beautiful women on this earth. If we were to narrow it down to Xanga, there are many beautiful women on here. And if you know me well, you'd know that I am all for inner beauty because outer beauty fades, in time, no matter how much you take care of yourself physically.
But now I am going to write about outer beauty. You don't have to look very far or very hard to see that there are scores of beautiful ladies. I have several friends who have perfect faces, hair and bodies. If you were to pass them by on the street, you'd definitely do a double take. They fit society's and the media's definition of beauty. And guess what?They know it. They know that people think they are gorgeous. They're not overtly vain, but you can tell from the way they dress and the way they move that the knowledge of them being beautiful is very present in their minds.
In my humble opinion, however, the best kind of beautiful are the women that are beautiful, but don't know it. Meaning, they either don't care that they're beautiful or they are politely disbelieving when someone tells them they are good-looking. I don't mean false modesty or those who pretend to not know. And I have several friends who are of the not-knowing-they-are-beautiful type.These girls fit the society's and media's definition of beauty as well, but you will see them not always dressed to the nines. You will see them without makeup and not having good hair days. They are very comfortable with themselves, even though they may not be decked out in the latest fashions or hairstyles.
And that, dear readers, just really endears me to them. To me, this attitude, just makes them even more beautiful because they have outer beauty and inner beauty. Unfortunately, they are so hard to find. You will find more beautiful women who know they are beautiful, than those who are beautiful and don't know that they are. And guess what? I miss the second category of women very much.What are your feelings on inner and outer beauty? Which do you value more? Do you respect women who are aware of their beauty or those who are more modest about their appearances?
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i choose the latter, better not be wrapped up in the personal appearance.
there's something in this that just hits me wrong. I agree with you that the girls who don'tk now they're beautiful are more likeable. but why? what's wrong with a girl being able to say, "Damn, I look hot today"? why is that kind of self-assertiveness so off-putting to a lot of people? There's so many mixed messages out there. "Inner beauty is the most important".Accept yourself, no matter how you look- "you are beautiful". "Real women have curves". There's even a country song devoted to your post- "she don't know she's beautiful". what if she DOES, and as long as she's not a cocky b*tch about it (because vanity isn't appealing to anyone), does it matter? or rather...why does it matter.
especially because- and this is the way that i see it. I feel like...a body is just a body. It's really nothing to be proud of- you didn't work hard to look a certain way- and it's nothing to be ashamed of. It just...is. So what's wrong with appreciating yourself and loving your body?
*steps off soapbox* lol
The most beautiful women are the ones who are extremely confident about themselves... In other words, the ones who are extremely comfortable when they are naked. No makeup, no clothes, nothing. :).
@coldfaceblush@xanga - I agree.
No one likes a beautiful girl who will SWEAR she's not attractive.. it just gets annoying. Accept yourself as you are - take compliments when they come, dish them out too. Just live and be thankful for what you have. Appreciate what other people have as well. Beauty is a gift - be thankful. Everyone has their own 'type' of beauty. Learn to appreciate it all.
I like pretty faces.
I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels sheepish when anybody compliments me.
As for not wearing makeup, it isn't really because I am keeping in mind my own beauty or, is it my disbelief in my own beauty?
I don't wear makeup on an everyday basis because 1] I don't know how, 2] it's expensive, and 3] it's a bit of a hassle.
Was that confusing or what?
i think you mean women who don't regard outer beauty as an attribute of great importance. outer beauty is great. but it's just another aspect of life, and not the only worthwhile aspect. there's nothing wrong with knowing one is beautiful; (honest) knowledge of oneself is wonderful.
@xperlerare@xanga - Yay!!! I totally agree with this!!! If you neeeed the makeup to be pretty and get guys or whatever than forget you...not beautiful
most of the time i don't feel like i'm ;pretty. i'm just pretty weird looking, but guys seem to beg to differ. So I try to wear nice clothes sometimes and wear makeup, so i can at least try to feel it.
Inner > Outer, always.
I value those who are modest, and don't know how beautiful they are... because only then you can tell that they are beautiful. They don't TRY to "fit in", they do it without even knowing. Naturally.
i dont see nothing wrong with taking care of your outer beauty, makeup,cloth enhances beauty, then why not? and when so many people tell you that you are beautiful, it's hard to ignore it. women who walk around feeling beautiful are actually the confident types. your sentence "they either don't care that they're beautiful or they are politely disbelieving when someone tells them they are good-looking. " that actually shows insecurity. you gotta know you are beautiful and good looking in every single way.
i don't believe outer beauty ever fades as long as the inner doesn't fade first.
I can see both sides of this argument. Obviously, inner beauty should be celebrated... but there's something to be said for outer beauty as well. Personally, I find all life beautiful. We as a species are especially adept at this concept. We have an artistic quality unrivaled in the animal kingdom (in my opinion). I believe we all have the potential for this "beauty complex" by incorporating a number of different means (confidence being the greatest of which). There's nothing wrong with knowing you're beautiful because it indicates a sense of self-awareness. Letting such fact go to your head should really be the only percievable sin.
I'd say that there's a pretty fine line between polite disbelief and false modesty. If there's one at all, it kind of strikes me as being more a difference between self-confidence, and lack of it. If we're supposed to accept and feel good about ourselves, no matter what we look like, then I guess there's absolutely nothing wrong with a woman accepting that she's good looking, and that others think so. And that knowledge, or the fact that she carrys herself with confidence because of it, and tries her best to enhance and maintain it by the way she dresses and takes care of herself, does not lessen her beauty - inner or outer.
@lissaplosion - nicely said! :D
...it takes physical attraction to start something, but the pair needs to get along as friends when attraction fades in and out.
-starting with friendship and THEN injecting physical attraction usually doesn't work.
-starting with physical attraction and THEN rolling the dice on the friendship factor is always a shot in the dark, but this is better than option 1
So case in point, girls should take note of their looks. Sure you can approach this with all the morals/standards/ethics/beliefs/class (mesbc) you want but guys are hard wired to appearances FIRST. Keep that in mind after this discourse is done.
And I don't blame girls that are sometimes mean if they have the looks to justify it. I have seen girls that are always courteous and nice, but their strong look physical side makes men misinterpret things ESPECIALLY with that nice personality. Men have walked all over such girls, and these girls will always be hurt until they figure out they need to be more direct and strong in personality. Courteous, but strong.
There is nothing wrong with knowing that you are pretty and then taking more effort to dress better. It's a kind of self-respect. People respect you more when you know how to take care of yourself.
id call those natural beauty
i am beautiful. :p
this doesn't have any link to the questions right? lol. btw i am in none of your category. i think i'm the one that hardly anyone says i'm pretty but i like calling myself pretty.
I agree. Especially with guys. When a guy doesn't know he's attractive, it's oh so cute =)
the latter..
you see..if your beautiful inside it radiates out.
i don't wear make-up because i have confidence in my natural beauty. however i do dress very nicely all the time (lilly, vineyard vines, j.crew) and prefer this way better to not caring!
The reason there is a shortage of people who don't know they're beautiful is because most people will tell pretty people they are pretty. Most will be in disbelief at first because they haven't really thought about it. Then when they get more compliments, they don't brush it off and actually think about it. And plus society is pretty vain. <-- haha pretty vain....
modesty is the key :)