Sunday, 08 March 2009
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Modesty: What It Isn't
What is modesty? Covering up yourself? From some recent blogs it seems that that is what most believe.
The jeans and T-shirt girl is more modest than the mini-skirt girl, the hijab wearing girl is more modest than the jeans and T-shirt girl, and the burka... girl is more modest than the hijab girl.
Hence, the perfect model of modesty is
I'm very sorry, ladies and gentlemen -- and ladies, you're ladies to me whatever you choose to wear -- but modesty means a bit more than how many inches of skin you can cover.
Here is a definition of modesty from dictionary.com:
1. the quality of being modest; freedom from vanity, boastfulness, etc.
2. regard for decency of behavior, speech, dress, etc.
3. simplicity; moderation.
Well, now... let's see... does a burka qualify? Definition 1 doesn't refer to clothing, but behavior, it seems. Ah, definition 2 mentions dress. One point for the Burka. And I'm sorry to say, but a burka can hardly be called simple or moderate (definition 3).
I'm just trying to say there is more to modesty than dress. Please stop acting like modest clothing makes a girl good. Modesty, and decency are much, much more than clothes.
What does make a person modest? Is modesty as big an issue for males? Why is this so?
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You said exactly what needed to be said! Even girls in burkhas can sleep around...they're not that hard to get off. Modesty is a way of life, not clothing and it's always in style; the girls who put out might get the boys, but you'll get the boyfriend.
Exactly. Modesty doesn't have just to do with clothing, but with your personality and how you carry yourself.
precisely.
being modest show through how you act and react. but in today's society everything is about looks.
i'm sure the whole issue with guys is pretty big (i don't really know the reason). it's just that people (mainly females) don't pay attention to that because they have so much going on with them.
Might as well take off the hijab if your behaviour isn't going to be modest, as well.
Thus it is a choice.
Burkas are for the chicks that want to wear them.
Doesn't mean you've got to put them down for wearing them. It's -their- choice. Just like it's the girl in a miniskirt's choice to exploit herself like a prostitute.
But whatever.
Call me opinionated.
Other than that, I agree with you.
i think that girls should just dress how they want to look without having to worry about how they want to be perceived and make their own decisions about sex rather than base it off of what "people will think" about them. men never have to worry about this sort of thing: let's work on making the sexes equal.
@garlicface@xanga - i've seen girls wearing muslim head-scarves with miniskirts. ironic, right?
@gypsybird@xanga - What? For real? Like, without pants under it or anything? That's ridiculous!!
I find it funny when they wear skinny jeans and not even like a tunic top. Like, if you're going to wear skinny jeans and a hijab, at least have the decency to wear a dress-length shirt over it. Sheesh.
@garlicface@xanga - leggings, but really those are nothing but colours upon the skin.
I completely agree with you!
Your right modesty is more then just clothing. However, clothing becomes the center of modesty, because it is the most outward showing of modesty.
Exactly --- modesty is an attitude!!! You can wear a potato sack and being immodest due to the way you act.
Good thoughts!
ah, such a good point :3
I usually think of it as an attitude, unless it's specifically paired with some type of clothing. Behavior is extremely emphasized where I live. Boastfulness is shameful to most people (even though the trend is changing now. People confuse conceitedness for confidence. No).
Excellent point :) I'm sick of how people make it seem like because I wear tank tops and my head is uncovered I'm immodest. Trust me, what I'm wearing has NOTHING to do with my lifestyle lol. Its just whats comfortable.
I agree. It's what's in your heart that determines things.
I feellllllllll u.
I think modesty goes hand and hand with humility, which is very important to me. Forget the clothes.
Modesty is about the swagger, not the clothes.
Their behaviour and clothes....just like the definitions state.
Oftentimes though, what one wears is a reflection of what is going on inside. Modesty is an attitude and behavior, first and foremost. If you really strive to be modest, it will reflect in what you wear. Sidenote: modest does not have to be synonymous with dowdy or unattractive.
You know when you run into a person who is modest. You know it not because of what they're wearing, but what is apart of their conversation, behavior, and.. yes, it does have to do a little with their clothes. Whatever is inside of your mind/heart will flow to your outward clothes.
I don't think men really strive to be modest.. I guess it's an attribute of a Gentleman. That and you don't go around thinking "Wow... that man was so modest!"
Modesty is a daily battle of wills.... not so much of the closets.
Great point! I have seen a lot of blogs from women who wear skirts for "religious reasons" thinking that they are better than women who wear pants because they are being "modest". Just wearing a certain type of clothes does not make one modest. A prostitute could dress in long skirts and still be immodest because of her actions and profession. Modesty is not "clothes-deep". :)
What does make a person modest?
Attitude, more than anything.
Is modesty as big an issue for males? Why is this so?
Judging by all the guys who go around in the summer flashing their "man-boobs", I'd say it's not.
Mhm.