Sunday, 04 January 2009
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QOTD: What Makes Someone Feminine?
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Submitted by Betsy_chen"Hysterical women are more feminine than other women. They have transitory and vivid feelings, mobile and brilliant imaginations and, with it all, the inability to control, through reason and judgement, these feelings and imaginations." - Paul Virilio in The Aesthetics of Disappearance
What do you think makes someone feminine?
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I have no idea. It's a tough concept to pin down.
The standard of femininity, to one person, can wholly differ in another person's eyes. It really depends, and nowadays, I think the majority of people consider the media's portrayal of femininity to be the norm.
In my background, what I was always told was feminine was: being quiet, demure, cute, wear a lot of floral and pink, etc., don't be too aggressive, don't ask too many questions, be submissive and docile, be helpful at all times, be good at cleaning/cooking/sewing, etc., don't be too physical instead be fragile, listen to the men, be good with children, etc.
Gaawwwdd no wonder I like red & black, skulls, screaming, and swear like a damn sailor.
I think femininity is a combination of how we behave and dress, as well as an innate ability of women to have a certain type of grace. The small swivel of a girls hips when she walk, the flow of her hair, the way she holds her head up, or moves her hand, all of them should be graceful and flowing. These things are what add up to make a girl or woman feminine. I think it's the ability of a woman to convince anyone that she is graceful, beautiful and confident with simple movements and glances.
It is the essence of woman. When we try to deny that nature, we become unfeminine.
That is a very good question. I think it's a women's ability to just be herself without trying too hard. Grace and poise in the presence of others. I think too it is a rising above what people say you should be and understanding who you are.
It differs with every person.
It's not limited to appearance for sure. My best friend in high school was accused of being a male. Some people think being feminine means having noticeable breasts/curves, a distinctive style/fashion sense, long or tame hair, being giggly/fragile, having grace or whatever. To me, she was barely androgynous<font size=
i think thats like saying what makes a person beautiful. all in the eyes of the beholder.
I did went around asking my guy colleagues the above question.
Answers: Feminine woman must
1) soft spoken
2) carry their handbags on their hands
3) wear dress
4) hold their bf elbow
5) must giv "face" to their bf infront of his frends
6) muz also care for her bf's frends (pass them tissue after a meal. blah blah blah)
7) no big action when talking
8) smile instead of luagh loudly (or at least cannot see the teeth)
EYELASHES!!!
I'm not going to attempt to define it, but that quote seems like bullshit. oops, that wasn't a very feminine remark, was it? ha ha
It's hard for me to put into words. I tend to view alot of things by energy or "flavor"...feminitity is a feeling you can get from people.
To claim any traits are more "feminine"...tends to be proven false...so I don't do that.
Some ladies just FEEL like LADIES, you know?
You just walk by them and without looking at them you can feel tht they're girls. You know?
...see, I'm not describing this very well lol.
It's interesting and awesome in my view.
It's just an air some people give off. Even guys can give off this air...and there's no real specific formula that makes this a given.
I don't even know if it's something that some people feel when they see me and are around me, really 'cause it's not something I usually get about myself.
And considering how everyone's perception is different...I'm not even sure that someone I recognize as feminine would be recognized as feminine by someone else.
@SeitekiChibiNeko@xanga - I'm in the same boat, and damnnnn do i love it!
I think you're feminine if you accept and love yourself as a woman and never get down on yourself because of it. I don't think it has anything to do with appearance or personality.
I think it's more of a state of mind. For one thing, women tend to be more concerned about feelings, not only their own but also the feelings of others. I remember reading somewhere about some study that was made of young boys versus young girls. When a group of boys were playing a game and one of the boys got hurt or didn't want to play anymore, the rest would want to continue and finish the game. But in a group of girls, if the same thing happened, the girls would stop the game and do something else so everyone would be happy. Interesting!
As a guy who has been labeled/described as having a touch of femininity, I'd say probably:
- a sense of style, consciousness of oneself and how you are to others
- compassion, sensitivity to other's emotions, regard of their opinion
- Being gentle, caring
- Expressing emotions frequently, honestly
But honestly, who's to call that femininity as opposed to just being humble, and nice?
Like, take women who are defined as "masculine". They're a tad aggressive, and have confidence, determination, direction, and they're focused. They're strong, and more sexual. However, who's to call that "masculine", as opposed to just... believing in yourself, loving yourself, and being a strong girl who's also feminine?
I don't really think personality traits have genders.
One is not born a woman, but becomes one.
Simone de Beauvoir
Thats my thoughts. =)
Im not going to let society put me into a box of masculine or feminine. Ill be who I am and let them decide what they want to call me
@urmyMIRACLE@xanga - What is give "face"? At first I thought it would be a blow job, but that can't be right.
I wish I knew what makes someone feminine because I would like to be considered feminine. But that may be impossible if everyones definition of it is different.