I feel like housewives (no, I don’t mean the ones on Bravo — I’m talking more of the “stay at home with the children” kind) get a bad rep. In today’s world, if people think you don’t pull your own weight they label you as lazy. Many stay-at-home moms and housewives are attacked for not “making a positive contribution to society.” However, I believe that these accusations are unfounded and unfair.
I myself am a gal with some pretty traditional (maybe old-fashioned) ideals. My dream life consists of me having a career, making my own life with my own money, getting married, having kids and staying home to raise them, just like my mom stayed home with me and my siblings. Whenever I’ve (or someone else, believe me, I’m not alone on this) expressed this idea, I’m usually greeted with a barrage of, “Why would you want to do that? Do you want to have to rely on a man? Don’t you want equal opportunities? People like you are the reason why the feminism movement is going backwards. Don’t be lazy and make a positive contribution to society!” This is upsetting, mainly because it isn’t true.
I am a firm believer that women should be able to achieve the same status and opportunities as men do in the workforce. I believe that a woman should get equal pay for equal work. I believe that a woman should be able to go back to work after she has a baby. I believe that women should not be oppressed. l work. I don’t believe that “a woman’s place is in the kitchen” or that it is the duty of all women to have a family. However, I do believe that it is perfectly okay for a woman to choose whichever lifestyle she wants.
Just because a woman chooses to be a housewife does not mean she wants to be oppressed. It doesn’t mean she doesn’t want to work. It doesn’t mean she doesn’t want equal rights and opportunities. All it means is that she wants to lead a “traditional” family life. It means that she wants to take care of her children herself and it means she wants to take care of her home. It means that she wants to cook and clean…not that she’s doing it because a man told her that’s what she has to do. Housewife does not equate to subservient.
Also, the housewife is making positive contribution to society. They are playing an essential role in the raising of good citizens — the leaders of tomorrow. They are working hard to make sure that their children are raised in the way she sees fit. She is making sure that they live in a clean, healthy and loving environment. While some moms do all this and go to work, the housewife believes that her skill set is best utilized at home, and really, no one can blame her for that. As for being lazy, anyone who knows a housewife can attest that they are far from lazy. Being a housewife or a stay-at-home mom is hard work and their job really doesn’t end. She can’t just clock out at 5. She may not be directly contributing to the economy (except she probably is as a consumer), but she is working hard to contribute to society.
It might be far away in my future, but if my economic situation permits it, this is the lifestyle I want to live eventually. This does not make any woman less strong or less of a feminist, just because the way they live is not what the stereotypical “feminist” lifestyle is. I don’t think that this type of woman should be judged because of their decision, just as the working mom, or the single mom, or woman who is neither a mom nor a wife should not. We’re all working towards the same goal, just in different ways, and that should be a decision that is respected by all.
Lovelies, what is your opinion on the housewife?