Lovelyish

I like that green dress. *shrugs*

I’m really sorry, but why do we celebrate obesity? It’s not healthy, full-stop. I’m all for accepting your body, but I really don’t understand why people say it’s okay to be a size that’s dangerous for your health. The same goes for glamourising unhealthily underweight people too.

@daydreams_nightmares@xanga - Absolutely agree. “Full-stop” is Australian for “period”, right?

I’m glad she has a positive attitude towards people of various sizes, and that she is comfortable in her own skin.  I also like that she chooses to wear clothes that fit rather than clothes that are too small, or so large it is like wearing a tent.  BUT, I do not encourage others to be heavy, nor do I feel being as heavy as I am is healthy.  I do agree with her that the bullying and criticizing of others for their size should stop.  Size/weight is one of those circumstances in which you should mind yourself.  If others want to lose weight, they will.  But it’ll be on their own terms–when and how it will be done.

Women shouldn’t need a body image hero.  I read through her blog and I think she is an intelligent young woman and I think that it is great that she is coming to terms with loving herself as she is.  I like how she makes her journey just about her, and she doesn’t feel the need to put others down in order to make herself feel better (and she admits to there being a time that she did).  I agree with her, it’s her body and she does not have to justify any of her lifestyle choices to anyone else.  Still, women shouldn’t need a body image hero.  Women shouldn’t have to worry about not being taken seriously because of the way they look.  Honestly, there are bigger things to worry about than the fact that almost no one fits the image of the idealized woman.  There are more interesting things to talk about.

Well, actually… 

About that whole only skinny people can show their stomachs thing. No. See, if a skinny girl put up a picture with exactly what she is wearing, she would be called an attention whore or a skank or whatever. We excuse fat people from that reaction because they are being confident in their own skin. Or we say they are lazy, etc. All reactions are a huge pile of assumptions. Personally, someone else’s body is the least of my worries. 

@WaitingToShrug@xanga - “See, if a skinny girl put up a picture with exactly what she is wearing, she would be called an attention whore or a skank or whatever.” THIS.

Heroes, role models, whatever people want to label her should not be promoting an unhealthy life style in either direction, thick or thin. 

Obesity kills more than smoking and alcohol and I can’t believe taking a mediocre black and white picture in plus size lingerie has turned this girl in to such a heavyweight hero. 

@AchieveThin@xanga - She’s not advertising obesity as an awesome element, she’s advertising the fact that not everybody needs to focus on being thin and needs to be comfortable with themselves. The photo she took wasn’t mediocre, it was simple and honest.

We live in such a shallow society. That is all I have to say.

@daydreams_nightmares@xanga - 

Also, agree. Completely. I do love that dress though. haha

It’s just as ok to be obese as it is to be anorexic or bulimic. We see Pro-Anorexia images as disturbing(and yeah, they are quite disturbing and sad), so why do we see pictures of bigger people who are celebrating what could possibly be an illness(if the person is a compulsive overeater, simply has too much body fat than is healthy-which we assume to be the normal case, or even,yes,bulimic) as a positive thing?

I think as long as this girl is attempting to live a healthy lifestyle now(as she obviously was not at some point- no offense at all, she is a pretty girl and I like the thought behind her idea, but this is the truth), then celebrating her body is fantastic. However, if she is just someone who is continuing to live in an unhealthy way, I don’t see this as positive at all.

Rock on.

I’m not for “celebrating obesity” or poor health, but I am for not making people feel disgusting just because they’re not a certain shape. I don’t think she’s advertising obesity as some sort of good idea, rather she’s advertising SHUT THE FUCK UP AND FOCUS ON YOUR OWN GOD DAMN SELVES YOU SHALLOW PIECES OF SHIT.

I totally don’t have the confidence to take a picture like that.  I can’t even take “sexy” pictures for my fiance’s own personal enjoyment.  The fact that she is that confident is what she’s celebrating.

No one is saying that obesity isn’t a problem. No one is saying that she is physically healthy.  This is like a broken record, really.  It’s her state of mind and her emotional well-being that is what matters to her.  It’s the ability to say “your words can’t hurt me because I like who I am the way I am and you’re not going to change that with some insulting words.”  Not your ability to tell her that she’s unhealthy.  I’m sure she’s intelligent enough to figure that one out for herself.

I am still waiting to see the day when people actually have to DO SOMETHING to get their five minutes… Do you know how many people blog daily about self-acceptance, body-love, etc?! 

Who cares if she was “brave enough” to post a picture? Show me a girl who has worked for a healthy, mind, spirit, AND body who gets off her computer and leads by example – not just talk – to inspire the next generations of ladies not to fall into the grip of self-destructive behaviors and loathing. Not bashing bigger women, not saying that posting that pic probably didn’t take some courage… But seriously, there are more deserving people that should be making headlines. 

@daydreams_nightmares@xanga - This isn’t glorifying shit. This is encouraging people to embrace and love themselves exactly how they are. That’s not encouraging them to be unhealthy, it is encouraging them to have positive, healthy self-esteems. Do you think it is better to shame people who don’t look ‘healthy’ to your unqualified ass?! (unqualified because you know nothing about their lives or their health!) asshole. 

READ THIS you fat-shaming assholes…

http://thebodyloveblog.tumblr.com/post/34237673049/a-few-clarifications

im with comment one…i like her green dress.

Fatties gonna fat

@sas07@xanga - Yes, let’s love ourselves if we’re fat, stupid or what not, rather than trying to improve ourselves.

@npr32486@xanga - I meant to reply not recommend your comment haha, oh well.

You can improve yourself all you want, sweetheart. It, however, is none of your damn business what other people do with their bodies or lives. People who shame others for living their lives differently than them are pathetic. It all points back to some deficiency or insecurity within the shamer. 

@sas07@xanga - Well that sucks.  But, what if what other people do affects others?  Rising healthcare costs etc.?

@npr32486@xanga - So making someone hate themselves is ok if it saves you money in the long run? Ugh, sorry the second comment on this post just got me all in a rage when I need to just calm down and work on my thesis haha. I just wish we could all love and appreciate each other and it frustrates me that people I love have to feel like shit because of the way they look when they are so much better than all the people who spread hate through their keyboards :[

Why does our self worth have to be tied to our looks. We can love who we are and still know we need to improve. Especially here in the US with the obesity problem. We are trying so hard not to shame people, or make them feel bad about how they look when someone needs to say, hey you are an awesome person but you are overweight. It is not an insult. It is truth. Sure be comfortable with who you are, but who we are shouldn’t depend upon our looks. If someone wants to be unhealthy that is fine, but I tend to care about my friends and therefore want them to be healthy. It’s not mean, selfish, or shallow. It’s being honest and looking out for our friends’ best interest. 

It is great this woman feels comfortable in her own skin, but it would be even better if she didn’t feel the need to pose in a bikini to feel validated in her own worth. 

@sas07@xanga - I don’t think we should make them hate themselves, but I also don’t think we should let it be “acceptable,” same as racism etc. isn’t acceptable.  It’s a fine line, but people need to understand that certain lifestyles are unhealthy

You wanna know whom I consider a Body-Image hero?

Gwyneth Paltrow and others like her, who work their fucking asses off to be healthy and prolong their lives, and live in a body they are proud and happy to be in. 

To quote, “The reason that I can be 38 and have two kids and look good in a bikini is because I work my fucking ass off.  It’s not an accident.  It’s not luck, it’s not fairy dust, it’s not good genes.  It’s killing myself for an hour and a half five days a week, but what I get out of it is relative to what I put into it.  That’s what I try to do in all areas of my life.”
Link: http://hehaseyes.files.wordpress.com/2011/12/gwyneth-paltrow.jpg

Now THAT is inspiring.  I hope a year from now when someone asks me how I got into such awesome shape, I can say something similar.

I’m so glad I’m a guy. 

She’s right, it is her body.
So she could have kept it to herself. Clearly she didn’t get the memo.

To be accepted is no reason to become thin…
But to be healthy IS.
I think, if she truly loved her body so much, she would try to take better care of herself. But it’s easier to be “brave” (and thereby get the attention she claims to not want) for posting this, and “accepting” herself than it is to do the work it takes to be healthy. She isn’t fiercely individual, shes the same attention craver the thin girls are, she just found her easy way to get it.

Big girl showing her undressed to say that she also can do this. Well, anybody with a photographer and a body and a connection to internet can do this…

What is the point ?

Next time, we will see a “normal size” women trying to say that even if you are not skinny or fat you can show your body to the entire world ?

stupid.Being proud of your body does not mean to smile, wearing underwear on the internet. Doing this and making a blog about it shows the reverse. You don’t do this if you have not a body image problem.

@daydreams_nightmares@xanga - i don’t think anything is being glamorized here.  the message i’m getting is that no one should be ashamed of their body, ever.  and unless you support fat-shaming, i don’t see how that’s a message you can’t get behind.  

@dancingdoll86@xanga - as someone who struggles with her weight and feels an incredible amount of shame every time i see myself in a mirror, i have to disagree with you.  i’m not nearly as heavy as this girl is, and i hate my body a lot more than she hates hers.  to see her do this is very inspiring.  

@npr32486@xanga - why must someone hate himself/herself in order to seek improvement?  

@flapper_femme_fatale@xanga - Did you not see the part where I gave her some credit?  

I just don’t think she needs to be turned into a hero because I see this ALL THE TIME on Xanga and other blogs. There are people who are working with individuals who have self-image issues in the professional field, who are saving girls from themselves… There are people in medical research trying to find ways to make life easier for them. And there are people who fundraise and volunteer and sit with these girls everyday to try and convince them they are worth something. I think they deserve the headlines. That’s all. If you find her inspiring, then good for you. Also… If you read my bio you’d know that I’m recovering from an eating disorder, so don’t talk to me about shame. 

Has this battle not been going on for YEARS? I’m sorry but I don’t care. If she’s happy being overweight, than cool. But, unfortunately, as proud as she is of her body, it won’t change the fact that her lifestyle will probably end in sleep apnea and diabetes. I’m sick of the fat people making fun of the skinny people and the skinny people making fun of the fat people. WHAT THE HELL DOES IT MATTER? I couldn’t even post a picture of me in a cami and short shorts on facebook without getting a bunch of mean and perverted comments. But this girl gets to stand there almost naked (uh, bra and underwear were never a bikini) and she gets on television shows for it. If she does it it’s empowering. If I do it, it’s indecent and degrading. Sounds like weight prejudice to me…

@nyclegodesi24@xanga - hahaha… best comment on this blog

I think she is beautiful personally.

@daydreams_nightmares@xanga - She’s not “celebrating obesity” she’s celebrating confidence. 

@npr32486@xanga - YOU EQUATE LETTING PEOPLE BE OVERWEIGHT TO LETTING PEOPLE BE RACIST?! Newsflash, hating/wanting to change people who are overweight is a prejudice just like racism is a prejudice. 

It’s not your body!!!!! Go worry about something else like your future or loved ones or people less fortunate than you. 
It’s people who think like this that make me concerned for the world. LOVE, people (plus minding your own damn business when it comes to personal issues like appearance), that’s when things will start getting better.
Also, newsflash number two: being overweight is not a choice!!!! All of the overweight people I love struggle daily. Why can’t you all just WAKE UP and shut up your skinny asses. I’m naturally incredibly thin and I have no problem with other people’s bodies!
Bodies just are. They CANNOT be good or bad. Despite what these evil interwebs tell us!!!!!
PS someone named Hilter wanted everyone to look the same too. GRRRRRRRRRRR.

@sas07@xanga - Would it be better to compare it to smoking, drinking and such?  And yes, being overweight is a choice for many people.  Genetics play a role, certainly, but there are a lot more factors in our control than most people think about.  They’re just too lazy and have an external locus of control.

P.S. – Are you comparing me to Hitler?  Fuck you.  

@npr32486@xanga - Seriously, how do we know YOU’RE not fat. Are you willing to provide us a shirtless picture?

@ShimmerBodyCream@xanga - Even if I did, I wouldn’t be able to prove it’s me.  I guess I am just fat after all

@npr32486@xanga - You don’t seem like a liar to me. Don’t give up so easily, just post them. For science…

@npr32486@xanga - I invoke Godwin’s Law. You win. 

@ShimmerBodyCream@xanga - Maybe you should make a post and ask your subscribers what they think.  

@npr32486@xanga - SOUNDS LIKE A GOOD PLAN, GIVE ME THE PICS.

@npr32486@xanga - No, fuck you. Saying all overweight people are lazy is the most unbelievably ignorant thing to say.

You, and most of the commenters on this blog, are obviously incapable of compassion and so wrapped up in their own self-hatred that they feel the need to control the appearance of others. Wanting a homogeneous society where everyone looks, acts, and thinks the same way is very in line with Nazi thinking (as is telling people they must change or be eliminated if they do not look how you think they should).

@sas07@xanga - Did I say all overweight people are lazy?  Nope.  Learn2read.

Oh yes, I hate myself so much.  Or maybe, I recognize that society’s standards are slipping.  Why shouldn’t we have some accountability?  Or maybe, everyone who’s getting all upset actually realizes that they’re lazy and fat.  Who knows.
Sidenote on homogenous societies:  What do you think America is?  No national language yet people are forced to speak English.  School is mandatory.  Oh look, someone’s actually better than another person?  Nope, not in America, we’re all equal.  But you’re too caught up on fat people to realize that, aren’t you?  Or too busy accusing everyone of being a Nazi; last time I checked, I actually serve in the military and am willing to fight for your freedom to be so ignorant.  What have you done?  

@sas07@xanga - Oh but that’s okay.  Let’s let people be fat.  We all know how WWII and every other war would have ended if a bunch of fatbodies were running the show.  

In my opinion, fat people are fat because they are lazy. Of course, there are exceptions. 

As a medical student I see tons of overweight people who are perfectly healthy, and sometimes healthier than little stick figure models who exercise everyday. So with that said she is beautiful, and im glad that she sees her beauty. Hopefully the judgemental half of the world will learn health or ”risk factors” before judging someone, because the opinion is wrong, in case the skinny bitches didn’t know we all die

What I’m taking from this comment section is that overweight people shouldn’t have good self-esteem. Assholes.

@Saridactyl@xanga - BUT THEN WHO ELSE ARE WE GOING TO TREAT AS SUBHUMAN TO MAKE OURSELVES FEEL BETTER?

Oh right, I had forgotten that the only important thing is how you look on the outside.

Not that she had to post any of the info along with her picture, but she is NOT unhealthy, she has PCOS and is being consistently monitored by a doctor. How judgmental you all are to AUTOMATICALLY assume that overweight=unhealthy and start flapping your gums (fingers?) in relation to that mindset.

It’s sickening to me to know that someone would automatically assume my husband is a horrible person, and a shame and drain on society just because he is overweight. He does not over-eat and he’s perfectly healthy, as monitored by his doctor. He has absolutely no health issues related to his weight, and does not have to take medication of any sort. He is not affecting the healthcare system any worse than the next person. Most of these comments are full of such vile things, and would probably be just as bad if you saw a picture of him, just based on how he looks.
On the other hand, I could post a picture of myself with little to no criticism, just because my size is small, and yet I am not healthy. Skinny does NOT equal healthy and/or fit. I don’t eat properly and I don’t exercise, and yet I would not get half of the snotty, ignorant, shaming and critical remarks as this woman, just because I am genetically thin.
Disgusting.

I’d do her.

I am so happy with her 15 minutes of fame. I wish eveyone else felt the same!

I’m really glad she’s ok with her body. Seriously. Even at 115 pounds, I was not ok with my body, so I really do respect people who can do something so brave as put their body out there for judgment. I mean, I’ve seen skinny people put their pictures up on facebook & get called fat because they have an ounce of fat.. That being said, I do have a huge problem with this “movement”, this skinny vs fat & which is better crap.  & you could argue that they could be overweight because of health problems or whatever but the fact is, not everyone who is obese has a problem losing weight.. In fact, most people’s problem is simply lack of self control. I’m not going to lie, every time I gained weight, it’s because I decided to be lazy, eat like crap & not exercise. I mean, how many obese people do you see running on the streets or at the gym or whatever? I’m not going to say it’s easy to lose weight. In fact, sometimes is does feel downright impossible, but does that really mean we need to throw up our hands & go, “screw this, obesity is beautiful!!”? It doesn’t even make any sense.. I think we should celebrate the bodies we get from exercising regularly & not eating like a pig every day, & it doesn’t mean we have to aspire to be stick thin. It also doesn’t mean you have to feel bad about yourself because you’re doing something to change, to cherish your body & take care of it. I mean, exercising feels amazing. It’s difficult to get into the habit & to find something you love to do every day to burn those calories, but it doesn’t mean we should give up. Laziness is NOT beautiful, no matter what your weight.

@daydreams_nightmares@xanga - Hit the nail on the head.

EDIT: After reading this girl’s blog, I definitely think the OP should have mentioned that she has PCOS, is doing everything possible to keep herself healthy & get down to a good weight for her, & she posted this because; “My message was not saying ‘I’m fat, therefore I don’t care about my health’, it was ‘I’m fat, I’m working on myself, and no one has any right to treat me as less than because of the way I look.’” (from the Body Love Blog). That makes this all even better because she’s not going to advocate being obese, she’s all for being healthy & taking care of herself!

The thing is, being fat is something that you can do something about.  It’s true that not everyone has the same metabolism, and the older you get the harder it is to maintain, but it can be helped, it’s just that it takes more effort for some people than for others.  I don’t think this is admirable at all.  What is admirable is being in great shape because that indicates hard work.  Being fat and proud is just boasting over being slothful.  Showing off being fat is like showing off a messy room, or bragging about being laid off from work for underperformance.  It makes no sense on any level, and yes, most people don’t want to look at all that fat either.

@daydreams_nightmares@xanga - Do we know that she’s obese? I used to look like her before I lost some weight, and according to the BMI, I wasn’t obese. 

*gag* There ought to be a law!

@Ambrosius_Augustus_Rex@xanga - Hear, hear. An intelligent post.

@npr32486@xanga - I’m overweight, and I feel like crap.  I do exercise quite a bit, but I’m on antipsychotics, and they cause me to gain weight.  I’m going to switch to one that doesn’t cause weight gain because this is horrible

I look terrible.

This entire body size acceptance movement is highly overrated and so  fucking stupid. If you are fat you are fat, and apart from some highly specialized medical conditions, and people on hard core antipsychotic  drugs there is always something that can be done about it.

You don’t have lung cancer acceptance movements, or I have a bullet wound don’t help me movement, so why the fuck should we be accepting of people who are fat or obese. They are causing them selves harm, it is always a persons “choice” to do anything about an illness and obesity is no exception.

The green dress looks ugly, and the girl in the picture is either fat or obese. People who say otherwise are ignoring plain facts. Yes she has a medical condition polycystic ovarian syndrome that makes her fat or obese. But just because of this, it doesn’t mean that she should be openly promoting the acceptance of a medical condition with many adverse health effects. 

so many shallow fucking fat shaming bitches on here. NO ONE can LOOK at someone and KNOW what kind of health they are in. Just because a person is thin does NOT mean that they are healthy, just like someone being overweight does NOT mean they are unhealthy. Get the fuck over yourselves you judgmental whores. god damn.

No one is arguing that obesity is awesome or healthy. What Stella & other body-positive people like her are saying is that fatness is NOT a reason for self-hatred – or for societal hatred.