Weddings are supposed to be fun, joyous occasions, especially for the people involved in them. I’ve never had the privilege of being a bridesmaid, but I think it would be fun to help the bride prep for her big day (even if it means buying an ugly dress). But we’ve all heard stories of the infamous “bridezillas:” women who run wedding plans with an iron, menacing fist. While it’s understandable that a woman would be stressed about her wedding, these brides go overboard…like the one who wrote this crazy email to her bridesmaids:
A few girls live out of town so if there is going to be a problem with coming to either one then I need to know now because after this week I don’t want to be surprised. I would like everyone to send me any dates they are going away or planning to go away after February so if your going away in January I don’t care. I want any dates from February to the day of our wedding in August, that way we know not to plan something when your away. But after this week the dates are set in stone. Also if money is tight and you cant afford to contribute to say the bachelorette party or wont be able to afford a dress etc then L— and Myself don’t have time to deal with that, I’m sorry. This includes flights as well, everyone knows the states where the parties are going to be held so if you wont be able to afford a flight then that means you cant make a party which ultimately means I cant have you as a bridesmaid. Obviously we’ll get the best deals and were not gonna books flights for $1000 and shit that’s why were doing this in advance, that goes for bridesmaids dresses as well everything will be affordable but if you think by affordable its going to be a $25 forever 21 dress then your going to the wrong wedding.
And that’s not all, folks: you can read the letter in its entirety over at Gawker. I think I would just skip out on this wedding and use the money I saved to…hm, maybe buy a bunch of $25 dresses.
What do you think of this letter? Have you been to any disaster weddings?
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I wouldn’t have a problem politely telling that chick to fuck herself by mailing her a dildo and some xanax and hopefully she would get that meant I am not saving the date(s).
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She definitely could have put it a nicer way, especially if she’s not paying for dresses and flights and stuff. I mean realistically weddings are expensive so it’s understandable, but don’t be a bitch about it.
cherry blossom / 44 posts
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That’s terrible and it made me a little sad because my bridesmaids wore Forever 21 dresses.
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@ItsAll_A_LoveWar@xanga - Pssh I love Forever 21! They’re awesome
Good choice. Got any pics?
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@SHEERROSE@xanga - I do.
I thought my bridesmaid dresses were adorable, but every time I say that there’s always someone going, “well, every bride says that.”
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I wouldn’t want to be her bridesmaid anyway.
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@ItsAll_A_LoveWar@xanga - :((
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lol!! i read the whole email. is she for real???
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It’s obvious you’ve never been a bridesmaid, even if you didn’t say it… I have to say it is the EXACT opposite of “fun”.
No one in the bridal party has fun for 2/3rds of the wedding/reception. I absolutely hated being a bridesmaid, and I will NEVER EVER do it again for ANYONE. @.@
If this bride had asked me to be in her bridal party and then sent me this, I would send a message back asking if her fiancee knew how much of a stingy, selfish bitch she was, and if he was really sure he wanted to marry someone like that. Forwarding him the email would be a good idea. Just so he knows what he’s diving into. Lol.
xX Ame ~*~ Hana Xx
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If my friend sends me that email, I would have to politely decline. Being someone’s bridesmaid is a favor not an honor. In fact, if I could do it all over again, I would probably forgo the bridesmaids. They would still be invited, but it would be way more fun for them to have just been guests. But seriously, how did this bride find TEN friends to ask to be her bridesmaids with all her demands? I mean, it is not customary for the bride/groom to pay for their attire/hair/makeup and travel fees, but at the same time, no one is obligated to be someone’s bridesmaid/groomsman, especially if he/she cannot afford to.
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Ya for $25 dresses!!!
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I would tell her to go fuck herself.
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I’m going to be a bridesmaid and my friend who is getting married is not at all like this. Plus we got our dresses from TJ Maxx, beautiful gowns for fifteen bucks!
If I ever receive an email like that, I will definitely reply with loads of sarcasm and italicized words as my response. Probably not only would I want to be her bridesmaid, but I wouldn’t even want to be her guest or her friend. XD
orchid / 105 posts
I hope her fiance is ready to ride that crazy train!
sunflower / 300 posts
@misswheeler - If he’s marrying her, chances are he’s a big ol’ dose of crazy himself!
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I think I would reevaluate my friendship with this person if they ever acted like that toward me. Yikes! I get it, its your big day, but this bride is obviously going all-out if she expects people from other states to just revolve around her schedule.
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wow. someone needs to get fuucking laid.
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When she was talking about the dates about important things being done, I was like, “Okay, so she wants to make sure there’s no scheduling conflicts. I don’t see what’s so bridezilla about that. The only thing I see wrong with this is her glaring lack of grammar.”
But then I finished reading.
Yeah.
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I don’t know why the grooms go through with marrying these bridezillas. I honestly don’t. And if they’re like this about their wedding? Picture them as pregnant, or better yet in labor.
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Well the first part about requesting any dates they may be away seems logical to me, I don’t know why that is bolded. She doesn’t want to plan anything on dates where her bridesmaids already have vacations planned.
The only thing that is out of line is saying she’s going to dump her bridesmaids for every little thing, like not showing up to a party or not emailing back quickly enough.
But really, this just sounds like someone who has had a wedding before and has had to deal with unreliable bridesmaids, so she’s being straight forward about things that she’s just not going to deal with. I get that. I was fully aware of how difficult bridesmaids can make things for you, so I paid for everything for my bridesmaids and only gave my bridesmaids one job: Find blue jewelery to wear for the wedding. They forgot. I’m just glad I didn’t ask them to do anything else.
peony / 4 posts
i thought wedding were suppose to be happy.. and by the way forever 21 dresses are bueatiful and if that is all they can afford then go with them and see if the dress looks a million dollars without being a million dollars.
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I have been a bridesmaid and it was wonderful. My friend was so relaxed and happy to be with everyone…the only thing she really cared about was her own dress. There were only 5 bridesmaids and we agreed on a dress super quickly and just had fun the rest of the time. I can’t imagine how the chick who wrote this e-mail can be okay with herself…