Who would’ve thought I’d grow up to write about my period for a popular online blog with thousands of readers? If my 13-year-old self had any idea that this was her future, I’m pretty sure she would’ve jumped in front of the next school bus. And, yet, here I am. Writing about my period. For thousands of readers.
Like a lot of women, I have a love-hate relationship with “Aunt Flo” (as my mom oh-so cleverly calls it) — but who am I kidding, it leans toward hate most months. In fact, I grew up loathing, hiding and even being ashamed of this indisputable, biological, monthly fact. Pretty sad, considering all the reasons I appreciate it today!
1. What it means now
There’s nothing like missing your period for four months to make you really appreciate it when it shows back up again. I still don’t know where it went (summer vacation? into hiding?), but I suspect it had to do with stress. And I’ll go out on a limb and say that the multiple pregnancy tests didn’t help in the stress department.
But I digress. Each month, that annoying cycle means one special thing: no little Lindsays will be running around any time soon! And at this point in my life, that is good.
2. What it means for the future
It means the same as in #1, except…the opposite. More eloquently, I love my period because it means, one day (if everything else goes right) I can make little Lindsays. If I decide that’s what I want.
3. It brings the girls together
Yeah, yeah…our menstrual cycles are supposed to make us all sorts of cranky and catty, especially towards each other. But in my crew, we love talking about periods. I guess it’s weird, but when we go out it’s all we end up talking about (sorry boys!). And even when we do start rolling our eyes and grumbling at each other, it’s nothing a good happy hour couldn’t fix. It’s just nice to know you’re the only one with throbbing uterus and a purse full of super-plus’s.
4. It helps me read my body
It’s taken a full 10 years of menstruation to feel like I understand the way my body works, and I owe all the credit to my ovaries. It’s really nice to be able to attribute my monthly cravings, anger and clumsiness to menstrual changes in my body. It tells me more important things, too. How else would I have known that I was overworking myself as a server? I could ignore all the other signs of chronic stress, but the amenorrhea was a huge wake-up call.
5. It reminds me that I’m extremely lucky
As much as I curse the cramps and inconvenience that periods cause each month, I’m lucky to have what I have. Four freak months aside, my cycle is reliable and relatively normal. I know many women with endometriosis, ovarian cysts, or no menstruation at all (among many other issues) who experience more pain and worry than I do every single month. I applaud you ladies. And I’m grateful for where I’m at.
So, thanks Aunt Flo! I wouldn’t be who I am today without you. And sorry for hating you so much when I was younger…I was so naive!
Any of you Lovelies wanna express love for your periods as well? (Please? I feel awkward standing up here alone!)
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I have a bony butt. Sometimes pads make hard chairs more comfortable….
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Dafuq?
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I hate my period, ha. I mean, it’s great to know I’m not pregnant, I get really bad PMS and awful cramps and back pain EVERY month without fail. Birth control makes me emotional and cranky 24/7, so it’s really not an option. But being knocked out of doing anything for several days a month because I’m being sick/feeing sick/incapable of walking because my back is so sore just isn’t fun at all. Maybe mother nature could just text me and tell me I’m not pregnant? Someone should work on that.
daffodil / 1615 posts
I like that I get an excuse to indulge my cravings once a month and not feel guilty about wearing comfy clothes to school for a straight week. And that I’m not pregnant.
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My period wouldn’t be so bad if it wasn’t for the extremely painful cramps and the insane amount of blood. So tmi, I know.
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I like my period too.
peony / 2 posts
I love this post! I thought I was the only 20something chick left who enjoyed having a regular period. I’ve been off birth control for 6 months and couldn’t be happier to feel my body and my emotions working they way they should. I think birth control that makes you not have a period is freaky…
daisy / 626 posts
Hehe this post cracks me up Lindsay! Especially the photo of the girls leaping in the air!
I wouldn’t have appreciated this post when I was a teenager but I totally appreciate it now after dealing with hormone issues, polycystic ovary syndrome and infertility for years.
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Periods are a bitch, even if I’m lucky that I only get bad cramps for two days.
I avoid caffeine and chocolate/sweets like the plague on my period as they make my cramps worse, so it’s not a fun week being away from those tasty goodies haha. And seeing that I haven’t had to worry about being pregnant for almost two years, that “oh yes, I’m not pregnant!!!” thought never occurs hahaha.
So… yeah, no praises for the period from me yet haha
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I feel ya! I absolutely love being a woman and periods are just a part of that.
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I don’t look forward to getting my period each month. At the same time, I know I’m not pregnant and that my body is healthy. I don’t like the bad cramping. Sometimes, I get the sweats and/or shivers. Not the most pleasant of symptoms. Which is annoying when I have stuff to do, and somewhere to be. That and all the blood. TMI, I know…
hydrangea / 59 posts
What a great post, and topic that I have never seen on Xanga before! Ohhh “lady time” (as I call it)…
Also a timely post with an upcoming lady doctor appointment for me on Friday, I have already tossed around the idea of switching to Seasonique with my friends, and the only thing holding me back is the love-hate relationship with the period. I love knowing the the birth control is working with that monthly reminder, but that reminder is rarely friendly. After reading this post I guess I still have a lot of thinking to do…

sunflower / 300 posts
I get horrible cramps (I went to the hospital three times as a kid because my parents and the school nurse just assumed I had appendicitis), fevers, chills, vomiting, etc. when I get my period, but dammit, I still love it. It’s what will hopefully allow me to have a child biologically some day if stuff improves and, all physical pain aside, it’s really not so bad in general.
Basically, I love this post and I’m glad you wrote it =)
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I hate my period. Yeah, it’s great I’m not pregnant but fuck all the blood.
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I hate my period. I am in so much pain when I get it for the first day that I can’t move for hours. I have to lie in a horrible position in bed until the pain edges away enough for me to try to eat something so I can down some pain killers. I feel like the pain I get must be similar to a guy getting kicked in the balls because it is excruciating as well as nauseating. Birth cannot be as bad as my periods.
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I don’t mind it too much…the only time that I get my panties in a twist over it is when I start and I am out and about without any supplies and the occasional “accidents” that ruins panties. ”She’s” been around for nearly 18 years now, I am pretty used to it. The cramps are minimal and headaches manageable, and it happens like clockwork, except for a couple times it was late due to stress. The only other thing that I can do with is the tender breasts. I could be fully dressed but the wind blows a little, it can get incredibly uncomfortable. It happens often but not every month.
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Yah, I mean, who doesn’t love gettin’ hit by a truck for 1/4 of their life? Okay, I realize I got screwed in the genetic department regarding womanhood, but cripes. Give me a freakin’ hysterectomy and let me be done with it all.
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It’s a crime scene.
sunflower / 300 posts
@SexyTall@xanga - Whenever boyfriends have asked me how it feels when I’m doubled over, I always just say, “Imagine you have the flu and food poisoning, then somebody kicks you in the balls. For a week.” Guh.
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@samescobar - Exactly!!
lily / 5148 posts
@alwaysxloved@xanga - Exactly. And all the cramps too. Horrible horrible cramps.
dahlia / 2382 posts
@TakingxOverxMe@xanga - I feel your pain….well felt. I’m pregnant now so I get a vacation from the blood but I have like quadtriple the hormones! haha.
I liked my period most when I had swim class. Free pass for a week! (they didnt have to know you only had it 3-4 days a week). The best part was I had a male teacher who was cool about it. He said just to wink & point to the bleachers & he got the idea. That was so we didnt have to mention it to everyone.
hydrangea / 59 posts
@RachelR@ireallylikefood - uggh BC is such a double-edged sword! I’ve only been off it for 2 months and I feel a thousand times more normal!
@WhenHateIsTheOnlyOption@xanga - ahaha, it always reminds me of Carrie. you know, with the pig’s blood. and all the death & destruction.
all these comments are literally the best thing in the world. thanks guys! <3
hydrangea / 59 posts
@blonde_vampire@xanga - good luck with that appointment (I’m SO scared of going…!)
Let us know if you do give Seasonique a try! ‘Cause I’ve yet to find a BC that doesn’t make me want to kill everything in my path…
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@alwaysxloved@xanga - i learned that it’s actually not that much blood. i forgot the exact amount.. maybe like 2 tablespoonful.. but it’s not a lot. the pad just spreads it out and makes it look like a lot lol
peony / 1 posts
@SexyTall@xanga - actually labor and the first day of a bad period are very very similar. Something to look forward too!!! After each of my children my monthly cycle has changed. So as it is now I have a heavy month followed by a light one. I prefer the light one. I’m looking forward to Menapause but at the same time i’m not. Kind of the same love hate thing going on. Love being young and fertal not looking forward to getting old and shriveled.
magnolia / 1054 posts
I’m lucky enough to say that I never have had cramps before. I only like my period because then, I know that I’m not pregnant
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I hate my period for one reason. I only get it at most twice a year (without birth control) and when I do get it, it usually lasts for almost two months, and I get anemic and miserable. The last one I had (about a month ago) lasted 53 days of extreme heaviness and I was so anemic that I was in the hospital.
But, the doctors decided to give me Mirena, and so far.. I don’t like it much. Constant cramps, and I’m on my period yet again with maybe only a two week break from the last one. *sigh*
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i’m only grateful for my period because it tells me i’m not pregnant. i wish they only lasted a day, because that’s all i need to know that i’m not pregnant.