At some point, most of us have worn a too-tall shoe, skinny jeans we had to lie down to put on or a dress that disallowed any form of cake consumption while zipped up. Sometimes, gorgeous fashion comes with a cramped, ill-fitting price. However, I’m pretty anti-ouch when it comes to most clothing choices. For one thing, I literally get sick to my stomach if I wear something that’s tight around my torso but on the other hand, I just don’t think that there’s much of a point to wearing uncomfortable clothes if you’re off trying to have a good time. When I remember a concert, I’d like to think, “The band was amazing and I had fun dancing.” It would be unfortunate to just remember trying not to fall down or move around too much in order to preserve the appearance of my outfit. Anything that will tear my attention away from the pursuit of fun sounds counterproductive, regardless of how great it looks.
That said, I think 5 inch heels can make a person’s legs look incredible and when I’ve worn them, albeit not recently, I get pretty excited when I look in the mirror. Although I’m 5’7″, I’ve always wanted to be taller so I enjoy the height addition as well as how tall shoes can compliment fancy dresses. However, I’ve had many experiences like Joanna Popper’s; I’ve purchased a gorgeous pair of shoes, loved how they looked, bought them and then halfway through wearing them, severely regretted my choice. It doesn’t matter how many Dr. Scholl’s I shove in there. My feet will cry for slippers.
Wild heels, unbreathable dresses, anti-dance jeans… are they worth it? I used to believe that for particularly in the case of a special occasion, they totally were. That when you want to look your absolute best, it’s okay to maybe where something a bit less roomy than the normal get up. For example, a Christmas party. I used to always wear something very tight and very tall. And then I realized I looked silly in photos because I couldn”t stand properly — due to both my excess of heel and my excess of eggnog — which made the party less fun. Verdict: Not worth it.
But what about the realm of the most traditionally formal of occasions, weddings? Considering the striking number of shoes dedicated to getting brides in shape for their oh-so-perfect dress, including Bridalplasty — which is more about wanting to look like a borderline different person, but I digress — I’ve sort of assumed for a while that the popular opinion is that you’re supposed to go through a certain amount of discomfort in order to look just right on your big day. But more and more brides seem to be opting for looser, less-tight gowns that allow them to move, walk, eat and breathe easier. Others have chosen removable skirts or a reception dress, one that is more conducive to dancing all night. I know pictures last a lifetime, but so do memories. And wouldn’t you want yours to involve a boatload of dancing and running up to hug people and happily grinning — not painfully grimacing — in all the candid photos?
But this is all a matter of personal choice. Some people love looking glamorous even when it hurts. I personally love that glamour too; I just can’t justify the “ouch” that comes with it once in a while. Plus, there are tons of choices for gowns, shoes and other clothing that are really comfortable that look incredible. And then there’s everything in between that is only mildly uncomfortable yet looks wonderful, too.
Of course, all this does not apply to people who are just naturally amazing at walking in sky high heels and simply don’t feel pain when it comes to tight clothes. I envy you people. I wish to absorb your powers.
Lovelies, do you regular choose comfort over style? Or does looking good trump feeling good (or are they one in the same)?
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No, I can’t justify having pain for clothes or accessories just so that I can look good.
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I rather be comfortable than really stylish, but there are ways of combining style with (relative) comfort. It is one thing to eat well and exercise before your wedding to get in shape, but a whole different thing to do drastic surgical enhancements, much like that show “The Swan.” I wouldn’t be against wearing Spanx, or high heels up to 3″, 4″ if they have a small platform in the front. Personally, I love the look of heels, but not all heels. Heels, like the ones pictured above, or ridiculously high are a bit much for me. I’ve tried on a lot of high heeled shoes, and some are more comfortable than others, depending on the way your foot is shaped and how the arches are engineered in the design of the shoe.
For our wedding, I didn’t have anything surgically altered. I did have a corset-back closure on my dress so the fit varied, depending on how tightly it was laced. After the ceremony I changed to wedge heels that were easier on my feet, and I had a Chinese cheongsam which was fitted but it was custom made to fit me properly. To sum it up, sometimes it is worth a little discomfort.
sunflower / 291 posts
You know, all of the wedding dresses I tried on were pretty comfortable, I was pretty surprised actually.
sunflower / 413 posts
I usually opt for comfort but there are cases when I feel like less that comfy clothes are necessary for the occasion. Like weddings. I wouldn’t be caught dead in flats and a frumpy dress to just be comfortable when attending a wedding. And I’m a business major so professional attire is a must for me. I feel like I look more professional and put together when I wear heels vs. flats.
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It’s possible to dress comfortably while still being fashionable
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No. You can do both.
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Having seen my grandmother’s crooked back, and hips that were misaligned from wearing heels everyday, I caught on rather early that I didn’t want to live like that. You can be fashionable without having to be uncomfortable, or, trying to look like someone in Hollywood. It’s weird walking in the mall in my walking shoes, passing at a rapid rate someone slugging along in stilettos. I mean, they look so funny after walking for so long, what’s the point?
daisy / 603 posts
I love the simple wedidng dress picture you posted. Actually, I would love to wear it at my wedding. Any idea where I can buy it?
sunflower / 300 posts
@lttlegel - Actually, yes! And for a wedding dress, it’s quite inexpensive: http://www.dinobridal.com/discount-store-2012-comfortable-princess-balloon-cute-sweetheart-ruched-with-beading-waist-cocktail-dress-swd114-p-711.html
I wish you the best on your wedding!
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As a male, I have no idea why women cause themselves physical pain, and discomfort all in the name of looking fashionable. Surely wedding dresses if bespoke made would be comfortable and not uncomfortable. Women wearing heels everyday while looking nice, I am sure they are causing themselves all sorts of foot damage, and as another person said back and hip damage. Indeed I am sure it is possible for a women to feel comfortable in the clothes she wears and still be fashionable. The worst thing males have to wear are stupid ties, to me it feels like a miniature noose around my neck, and all day I am tugging at it trying to make it more loose fitting.
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Beauty is pain for me… On the rare occasion that I do dress up or opt for heels, I go hard or go home. Since it’s only a fraction of the day that I’m dressed up, I dont feel the hurt until I’m already undressing, and by that time I’m home and comfy. Since I’m always carrying a small-medium sized bag, I always bring flats, just in case the night carries on a little too long.
Since I don’t dress up too often, I also miss out on a few things that normal people can attend on a whim (who are always in business casual attire for work). Some times I envy the girls who are always dressed up and go to HHr and look so pretty. Im usually in jeans and dont want to embarrass my bf when he invites me places with his co-workers.
Choices, choices. Better to be comfy on the regular, so when I do sacrifice comfort, it’s not too damaging.
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sometimes those uncomfortable what-evers are what allow you to look, and therefore feel good…and let you have a good time.
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only in reasonable measures. I mean, I don’t go shopping in pajamas or sweatpants, and on special occasions I dress special. I wear high heels in which I can walk well, but I tak ballet flats wih me too when the night gets long.
I am very thankful that leggins are wearable nowadays, and I prefer tights or leggins plus skirt or dress over jeans. Jeggins are cool too. No one notices when you wear a long jacket. since I would not be able to walk in anything hiher than a 4 inch heel, I assume they look better on me too.
I’d choose the weddingdress on the right, but I really just find it prettier. When it comes to confort, I often heard that when a bride wears a dress that reaches the floor she wear comfortable shoes underneath, lol.
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I’m the type girl who cannot go out of the house in sweats and with my hair in a bun without feeling insecure, but I wish I was! I have to, have to be wearing makeup and my hair has to be done in some sort of manner, I can’t bring myself to even go to the store without putting on some jeans (even though it’d be so much more confortable). More power to the girls that don’t care all the time about what people think, let go and give into some comfort outside of home! <3
sunflower / 405 posts
even if it just feels weird, i’m not wearing it
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I refused to still wear high heels even though I have like 3 pair.