Dating someone comes with a lot of perks; those butterflies that suddenly appear in your stomach every time you see that person, your heart beating in your ears whenever your phone lights up with a text message from them. But, it can also come with nerve racking stress. All of the supposed “rules” that you must follow while dating someone so as not to seem desperate or too interested are being followed, but at what cost?
Here are a few outdated dating rules that should be thrown out the window.
Rule #1: Marriage should be your ultimate goal
These days marriages are beginning and ending in less time than it takes so settle the divorce. Just because you date someone does not mean you have to eventually marry them. Part of the fun of being with someone is learning what you want and don’t want in a partner. Make sure that when you marry, it is for the right reasons.
Rule #2: You shouldn’t live together before you are married
Many people still live by this rule and even swear by it, but the truth is, we are not in the 1960′s anymore. Times and relationships have changed and that includes couples’ living situations. This is not to say that you should move in together after only 2 months of dating, but don’t feel guilty for feeling ready to make that step.
Rule #3: The guy should always call first
There is absolutely no reason why a girl should not be able to call a guy first. Women have been working for decades to be men’s equals, but when it comes to romance, women suddenly become scared puppies. Take charge and make the first move! You will feel a good sense of control and your guy will respect you for taking the lead.
Rule #4: You can’t hop in the sack until X number of dates
As long as the both of you feel 100% comfortable with each other, there is no need to stress yourself out with waiting until you’ve been on a certain number of dates to be with them. Always practice safe sex and remember that it is a natural, healthy part of life.
Rule #5: You must be together all the time when dating someone
Have your own life and personality outside of the time with your significant other. Don’t let go of your girl’s nights or daily yoga sessions to be with your mate instead. Eventually, you will lose your identity and possibly resent your guy for it. Keep time in moderation and enjoy your time together as well as apart.
What other dating rules do you feel are completely outdated?