One Lovely asks:
My ex and I are still very close, but he has a new girlfriend. Should we limit our communication even though now it’s platonic?
Breaking up is never easy to do, and sometimes it’s even harder when you cut the other person out of your life. Which is why so many failed relationships often turn into friendships…with mixed results. And it all becomes even more complicated when a new guy or girl enters the scene. So is it OK to remain friends with your now-taken ex?
I don’t see anything inherently wrong with being friends with an ex, even if he has a new lady. But just because you’re comfortable with it doesn’t mean that she (or even he) will be. You need to try and be friends with both of them if you want to attempt to make this work. Invite them out as a couple, and hopefully she’ll get to know you and see that you’re not trying to take her guy. (However, if you are, or even if you still have feelings for him, back off. Now.) Maybe you and the new girl will even wind up being friends!
However, if she doesn’t like you keeping in contact with her boyfriend, the respectful thing to do is stop. Even if you think it’s controlling, it’s their relationship, not yours, and you have no right to try and shake it up. Perhaps she’ll come around some day, but in the beginning stages of a relationship, emotions and trust can be fragile. Just don’t be offended, and accept whichever choice they decide is right for them.
What do you think, Lovelies? Is it OK to be friends with a taken ex?
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