I love Pinterest. It is where I keep track of everything that inspires me: style ideas, quotes to remember, beauty tips and design inspiration. While other people are able to see other pinners’ boards and pins, ultimately, it is a place for the individual to put everything they love in one place. But every now and then, the negative comments appear, and for some reason, sometimes they can really grind my gears.
I know it’s the Internet and it’s easier to speak your mind because you’re behind a keyboard and it doesn’t really seem like the mean-spirited comments will stick to anything. It’s kind of like driving a car; it’s easier to be inconsiderate and rude because you’re not face-to-face with someone. I mean, you wouldn’t pull a bicycle horn out of your purse and honk it at someone taking too long in the post office line, right? (Okay, it’s definitely tempting though, right?) So why do we think it’s okay to be ugly to a complete stranger on the Internet? And Pinterest, of all places?
I’m not saying that I expect people to be smiley and positive all the time. I am certainly guilty of thinking negative thoughts more than I care to admit. But it just seems like such a waste of time. I mean, the time it takes to write a long-winded comment about how a model looks “ugly” or “too skinny” or how those shoes are “hideous,” you could have found something on Pinterest that you love and puts a smile on your face. I’d much rather repin things onto my inspiration boards all day than comment about how everyone is too skinny/fat/ugly on other people’s boards all day. I mean, these are THEIR pins on THEIR boards. I guess maybe it’s like discussing politics or something… but do you really think that you’re going to change anyone else’s mind about anything? You have about an equal chance of changing someone’s mind about something as they do to change yours. Do you think that by commenting that something is “ugly” or “nasty” on someone else’s pin that they’re going to look at it and be like “Yeah, now I think it’s ugly too! You’re totally right!”? It really just makes you look like a really mean person with nothing better to do. It’s harsh, but it’s true.
What really upsets me is that most of these comments seem to just tear down other women’s bodies. Saying that someone “needs a sandwich” and that “they must be anorexic” can be just as hurtful to someone’s body image as saying they’re “too fat.” If someone appears to be underweight or thin, it doesn’t automatically mean that they’re anorexic… just like if someone happens to be overweight, it doesn’t mean that they sit around and eat fast food all day. Come on, ladies! We get so angry when men criticize our bodies, why do we feel like it’s okay to talk the same way about someone else’s? And on someone else’s Pinterest board? Personally, I don’t have room for a ton of negativity in my life. If I don’t like something on someone’s board, I just unfollow the pinner, or just the board that doesn’t share my similar taste.
Honestly, most of the time, I just roll my eyes whenever I see rude and thoughtless comments and keep scrolling throughout my feed… but for some reason, I feel like venting talking about it. I feel like most of you will know exactly what I’m talking about, and I’d love to hear your opinions on the subject. Again, I’m not saying that I expect everyone on the Internet to be on their best behavior and I’m not saying that the Internet should be nothing but LOLcats and rainbows… but that would be pretty freaking amazing. Pinterest is a place where you curate images and ideas that YOU like. It shouldn’t be a place to tear each other down based on our unique tastes. Okay, venting over. Promise.
So what do you think, Lovelies? Are mean comments on Pinterest justified?
dahlia / 2382 posts
I dont think mean, senseless comments are justified anywhere. You can not like something but you dont have to be a bitch when you express your opinions. People do that shit for attention & revel in it when people respond. That’s why I dont post too much pubicly like I used to because of some people’s sheer stupidity. Just because someone is thin doesnt mean they have an eating disorder & just because someone has a fuller figure doesnt mean they overeat or they’re fat for no reason. It’s sad how some people just tear down others to feel better about themselves. And so what if they wear something you dont like, if they like it & feel confident, who cares?
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I agree with the first poster. These people are trolls.
orchid / 105 posts
@Erika_Steele@xanga@Shinbi_Belldandy@xanga - I completely agree! And most of the time, I click on their profile, and they have 10 followers or less… if you’re putting that kind of negativity out there, it’s no surprise people don’t wanna follow someone like that!
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No, those rude comments should never be justified (in any context). If one doesn’t like something they see that someone else has pinned, he/she can just move onto another pin. The whole point of Pinterest is to pin things you LIKE. Why must they say something nasty?
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I think there’s a difference between being mean and honest. In my eyes, if you can’t take the heat, get out of the kitchen. If you don’t want your fashion sense/tattoos/piercings/hairstyles/art/whatever criticised, don’t put it on the internet. That’s not to say people should just be rude for the sake of it, but there’s nothing wrong with stating your opinion.
sunflower / 300 posts
That’s really disappointing and totally not okay. I agree with @daydreams_nightmares@xanga about not putting stuff online if you’re not okay with it getting criticized (though I think it’s still pointless to criticize fellow users’ wardrobes…) but criticizing somebody else’s body is completely different. It’s cruel, it’s unnecessary, it’s absurdly childish…I just don’t get it. What could anybody gain from saying “you’re too skinny” on a silly social media platform? Is it fun? Is it entertaining? Because as far as I can tell, it’s just e-bullying.
orchid / 105 posts
@daydreams_nightmares@xanga - True, there is a difference between being mean and honest, but the comments like the ones that are included in this post are simply childish and rude.
And unfortunately, Pinterest boards don’t have any privacy settings, so if you decide to curate your images and inspiration with Pinterest, you gotta deal with the trolling no matter what. I guess it’s just sad that some of these people ultimately have nothing else better to do.
@samescobar - I think you’re right… you’re criticizing other people’s personal taste! I just unfollow people that post things that aren’t my taste… or I don’t follow them to begin with.
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This is not okay. People think its okay to post their negativity. It’s disgusting.
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@xxfashionfunxx@xanga - but it’s an opinion. Are you saying people can’t post an opinion that might upset someone?
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It’s hard to not comment when we see something not too attractive. It’s hard for me to not say anything because of my age, and the way hollywood dresses people. Going to a movie, to see a fantastic actress, wearing low cut tank tops with no bras just didn’t happen years ago, and I think a lot of young girls are affected by what they see others do in the public eye. I need work on my thoughts and actions, knowing others who dress differently than I are worthy, lovable people. My daughter-in-law has a rack the size of 36-EEE, and wears tanks with no bra. Sometimes the nipple shows, but I’ve never said anything to her in 3 years. I just think she could do better with job interviews and so forth if she dressed differently. But I still love her, think she’s a wonderful mom to my grandson, and since my son has no issue with it, why do I? What is it about my thoughts that drags someone down, in my way of thinking about them? What does anyone out there suggest as far as my opinions, since they have nothing to do actually with the person herself?
orchid / 105 posts
@daydreams_nightmares@xanga - i think there’s a fine line between posting an opinion and being rude. the pinterest comments that are included in this post are simply rude and hurtful… especially the comments about someone else’s body. someone’s opinion is their personal view and they’re free to express it, but these are people’s personal boards. they probably weren’t created for the masses. these are just boards with curated images of things that that person likes. it is mean-spirited to troll someone else’s board, calling things “ugly” and “hideous.” that’s what your own board is for… to pin things that YOU like! i don’t wanna get on pinterest to troll other people’s inspiration boards, i wanna get on there and find things i like! just seems like a lot of people are missing out on what pinterest can actually do for them.
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@daydreams_nightmares – no opinions matter. But there are some things some people say that they shouldnt. If you have nothing nice I say DON’T say it at all.
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@daydreams_nightmares – like you said it’s easier to be stronger behind a computer screen ecause they are not face to face with you. I love pinterest too and I look at it as an inspiration and to think people need to write these nasty comments upsets me. It doesn’t make them any better at all.
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@misswheeler – agreed!!!
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I’ve had my fair share of “eat a sandwich” comments. I’ve finally just learned that people are usually just jealous (not to sound conceited) or think it’s funny when they say these things. I don’t hold it against them…but I do think that people in general should be more careful about what they say on the internet.
I know I’m as fit as I can be at this moment in time (I eat very well and do the p90X!), and I wouldn’t exchange my health for positive comments on my physique.
However, if you’re gonna move to a different climate, you’d better be ready for the weather.
peony / 1 posts
If you feel you have to be all snarky and rude to look cool, you are NOT. You are merely shallow.
orchid / 205 posts
I can’t take any of them seriously when the poster
1. TYPES IN ALL CAPS.
2. doesnt use punctuation and makes it impossible to understand the flow of the sentence you know.
3. Doesn’t know how to spell “hideous”
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People are so eager to bitch about stuff nowadays.
And, as if it wasn’t already easy enough just sitting on your ass bitching, the internet made it even easier.
We’re all a bunch of entitled pieces of shit with no passion for anything, but we hate the stuff we hate so much that we mistake it as expressing passion for the stuff we do appreciate. Imagine how much more awesome the internet would be if we spent more time actually talking about the stuff we appreciate, instead of making the same damned snarky comment about Justin Bieber looking like a girl or Kristen Stewart having no expression and being a whore, etc. The internet would be awesome. Instead, it’s a black hole sucking in the worst of our personalities, leaving just enough of it left to reproduce and replenish itself.