I know that a lot of people are debating about whether college is the right move for people. While it definitely isn’t for everyone, here are the reasons I’m glad I went to a university.
Like I said before, I do believe that college genuinely isn’t for everyone. Earning a degree at a college or university can be a very dehumanizing experience, not least because university culture can put pressure on students to have a very conventional career path. It doesn’t always help you get a job in the current economy. It’s also an environment where a lot of stereotypes are put on you because you study one thing over another. Plus the fact that we’re pretty much spoon-fed ideas about how an American college experience “should” be…
So yes, I admit it. College can really suck sometimes. But for me and my life, it was exactly what I needed. And here’s why:
1. I met a lot more people who were like me.
I was a definite weirdo in my school — always reading, listening to Broadway songs, hardly ever dressing as trendy as the rich girls. In an attempt to fit in, I hid my inner dorkiness. But then I got to college, and found a LOT of people who were like me. They read all the time, played Apples to Apples in peoples’ basements instead of going out drinking, and watched shows like Doctor Who and Frasier. With just the sheer amount of people in my university, I was much more able to find people who were more similar to me. In terms of growing into an adult, it was a very good thing to have happen!
2. I met a lot of people who weren’t like me.
Just as beneficial as it was to find a clan I could belong to, it was just as beneficial for me to interact with people who were very different from myself. I met people who had lived in other countries, had been born in other countries, and had way different upbringings than I could ever imagine. It was so great to step out of my comfort zone and meet people who were far more different than me. We woud end up learning a lot from one another. Without going to college (and without meeting these new people!) I would no doubt be a much less well-rounded person.
3. It forced me to see what I really wanted to do.
When you’re stuck in big classes about subjects you don’t care about, it forces your brain to cope in various ways. I’m not talking about Facebooking during class or texting your friends between classes — I mean when you’re procrastinating the work from one class by doing the work for a completely different class. What’s that second class? Maybe it’s what you’re truly what you’re meant to be doing.
I thought for sure when I first entered college that I wanted to be a pediatrician. But that first General Chemistry class convinced me that I wasn’t — I couldn’t even stand to come to class. I’d check the news, e-mail my grandparents, anything to take my mind off what I was supposed to be learning. It’s like how Franz Kafka worked in the insurance industry for years, but went home every day to write books that are now literary classics. In a way, I’m glad I had to take classes I despised, because it forced my brain to throw tantrums and make me right. These “bad classes” helped me gain conviction.
Which is why I would love to tell Freshman-Age Brit: When you’re blogging and mixing playlists in the wee hours of the night before a midterm, you obviously don’t want to be in that class. Stop kidding yourself.
4. It forced me to learn things (sometimes against my will!)
Some classes in college are difficult, or at least very trying. Some classes consume all your time just because you cannot make yourself understand what they’re trying to tell you! You almost have to pound it into your head with a hammer.
But you have to learn how to pound things into your head in order to succeed in the real world. What if you have to learn something for your job, and you’re absolutely unsure of how to do that? You ask around the office. You find resources elsewhere. You sit and ponder it for a while — whatever works for you! And college, with all its required classes, forces you to learn whatever you need in a hurry. That’s how you pass classes (or even better, succeed in them!). So unless you’re a very diligent and lucky person, college is where a lot of people learn how to teach themselves things in this manner.
5. I learned how to take what I wanted, education-wise.
I’ll be perfectly frank: Not all the classes I took in my college were ultimately useful. But I learned useful skills from them, or else I left. Even the weird Animal Behavior class in sophomore year had something to teach me. And if I couldn’t drop a class I didn’t want to be in, I kept trying to learn things. I reformatted class projects so theat they could be about subjects that interested me. I listened to a lot of TED talks, in addition to other podcasts. I read the news. I tried to surround myself with people who were curious about everything. More than showing me the value of a degree, college reminded me of how much I loved learning. If I hadn’t gone to college, that love would have been forgotten, and maybe would have wilted over time.
So while my college experience definitely wasn’t perfect, I definitely wouldn’t be who I am today withut it. And I like who I am right now, and I’m confident about where I’m going. Isn’t that the point of going to college anyway?
Are you attending/planning to attend college? Or if you’ve already graduated, do you regret your decision?
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I very much regret going to college. For me, it was an unnecessary expense. The field I work in now doesn’t require me to have a college degree. It can be a bit easier to get a job in my field if you have a degree, and they always list it as “preferred” in any job I’ve applied for within my field, but ultimately from what I’ve seen it doesn’t make a hill of beans of difference in whether you get hired or not.
So yeah, wasted 5 years of my life (undergrad + a short stint in grad school, dropped out nine months into the program) in college. If I had to do it all over again, I’d have taken a totally different path.
It sounds as though we had totally different college experiences, though. I never met anyone in college, really. I went to class and that was it. I didn’t do social clubs or anything like that. I kept to myself, didn’t socialize at all. I’ve also since forgotten pretty much all of the useless liberal bullshit I “learned” in college. I only remember bits and pieces of my upper-level math classes (Real Analysis, Abstract Algebra, whatever; I was a math major), and of course the lower-level stuff such as Calc and Linear Algebra, but other than that I’ve forgotten everything. That’s OK though, I don’t use that useless theoretical bullshit at all these days.
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i love college. i thrive in an academic environment. it’s why i want to become a professor
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When I become more financially stable, I am going! I want to enroll in a legit college andn not those career colleges they advertise to hood-rats during the Maury show.
hydrangea / 59 posts
I loved it! I wouldn’t be who I am without those experiences and those classes. And now that I’ve graduated, I miss the hell out of it. Adulthood just isn’t as fun as college was
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A lot of my friends are going to college now and I’m waiting on the military. (or other career jobs I’ve applied to).
Sometimes I wonder if I’m making the right decision or if I should change the path I’m currently on or even where it will lead… But I guess only time and events will tell where I’ll go from here. c:
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Well, for me, the number one reason is because it led me to my current job at an international public accounting firm that I very much like (we’ll see once I start working in October). But I learned a lot of new stuff in my field (I went to business school, which was COMPLETELY out of my comfort zone since I did mostly traditional academic courses in high school, but I enjoyed accounting in high school) and got to explore other intellectual interests through my extra courses. Gave me an opportunity to study abroad in Cairo, Egypt. I went to one of the most diverse colleges in the country, so I learned how to work with people of every background. Went to school in the city of Philadelphia (and now will be working there, what can I say, it grew on me) and it definitely was a change of scenery from my rural town. I could say college was a failure for me socially, but I did make a couple of good friends and learned a lot about myself, and learned to force myself out of my shell.
So even if I didn’t get a job, I can say I’m glad I went to college because I learned so much intellectually, culturally, and about myself. I’m really proud how I pushed myself up and above my comfort zones. And without nearly all the partying and drinking a lot of my peers did.
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There’s a certain day every month where both me and my wallet regret going to college.
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@WhenHateIsTheOnlyOption@xanga - definitely avoid any for-profit university. check out the documentary “College Inc.” and you’ll see what i mean.
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I agree with all these reasons. You really have to like academics or have academic related ambitions to like college. I do not love the monetary expense part of my university but the academic and meeting diverse people including my s.o there is worth it
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@Stephnalamx@xanga - don’t worry. You learn this stuff + more once you join.
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I loved it, but the fees have just tripled in England, and if I was just graduating high school now, I probably wouldn’t bother. I think I’ve learned a lot more “life skills” since I left, though. I work in retail now (thank you, recession!) and I’ve met a much larger variety of people working there than I ever did in college. I’m glad I went, but I wouldn’t have paid anymore than I did for the experience.
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I don’t regret going to college, but if I could do it again, I would rather go part time and pay out of pocket, then do 4 years and have to deal with school loan payments that I am paying now.
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@secretbeerreporter@xanga - I know what you mean. I’m in grad school right now, and I love what I’m learning, but I will not be making enough money (assuming I get a job in my field) to justify the hundreds of thousands of dollars I’m accumulating in student loan debt. It’s a ridiculous waste of money unless you’re going into something like nursing or engineering where there’s actually a big need for those jobs, and you can get by with a 4 year degree.
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I regret parts of it, like getting an undergraduate degree in psychology (utterly worthless). It just costs too much damn money. I feel like back in my grandparents’ day, having a college degree was a guarantee of getting a good job. Now, it’s just a ridiculously expensive piece of paper that might help you get into graduate school which will HOPEFULLY help you get a job after you graduate with THAT degree. I wish that I’d never gone, and that I’d gone to a technical school or something instead which costs way less money, requires a much shorter time commitment and has a much better chance of helping me get a well-paying job. I think that the “university culture” should be putting MORE “pressure on students to have a very conventional career path.” Unless you have money to piss away on something useless, you SHOULD be trying to get on the conventional career path.
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@TheyCallHerEcho88@xanga - That sucks. I didn’t accumulate quite that much college student loan debt (I had about $40K combined undergrad and grad), but it’s still a waste of money for me. That said, I’m well over $100K in debt for flight school (yes, it’s that expensive) but that’s what I’ve wanted to do more than anything.
Could have saved myself $40K had I just gone straight to flight school instead. Oh well, I have a pretty high-paying job now flying corporate charters, and I’m living like a poor man, so I’m paying all that down quickly. Still, could have paid it down a year or two earlier had I not had that college loan debt to deal with.
orchid / 123 posts
@Digital_Angel21@xanga - Wow, congratulations on your job!
I’m glad college worked out for you like that.
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College isn’t for everyone but it’s a good fallback for if your career isn’t shaping up the way you had hoped. I’ve spent three years doing college prep for at risk students and for some people who don’t have the best circumstances, it’s the only way out.
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I don’t regret going to college. I don’t regret the people I met, friends I made, and even don’t regret taking out student loans. I just wish I had found a different school that had themselves together better than my Alma Mater. Maybe I would have cared a bit more. I hated my major but I was already done so I ended up taking a bunch of editing and design classes and ta-da I am a graphic designer instead of a journalist haha.
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@WriterBrit - When you love accounting and want to do taxes for a living, the job market is much kinder to you. I got lucky in my career of choice.
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I am at a point right now in my life where I regret going to college. I got a degree that I knew would require me to go to graduate school, so I guess that was my fault. That said, I had zero interest in engineering or most of the other careers that are possible with just a bachelor’s.
Right now I’m wishing that I’d gone to dental hygiene school right out of high school. It just requires associate’s degree and I could be making more money than I would with a doctorate in my current field. My parents pretty much forced me into college though and, since I had no real direction at 17, I said “Okay,” and just kind of went with it. Oh, how I regret that.
Honestly, in my opinion, most university programs are a scam. For the most part, the humanities are a joke and will get you no where in the real world or in academia (the system is completely over-saturated with humanities Ph.Ds).
I had an undergraduate major of Communication Disorders which is prep for either Audiology or Speech Path. Neither of these fields are rocket science, and yet after FOUR YEARS of undergrad, I still had to put another 2-4 years of tuition money into the university’s pockets for grad school. Makes me wonder what the first four years were for, since I learned essentially nothing about my field during that time.
To anyone thinking about going to college right now, I highly recommend that you explore other options before taking the plunge. Don’t go just because everyone else is doing it.
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it was hard but i loved it! I graduated already and thinking about grad school
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I don’t regret it. To me it was a way to prove to myself – give me the confidence to say yes, I was smart enough and had enough endurance to finish my college degree. It also taught me so much about the real world just by – as you said- being exposed to so many people from such different backgrounds. I know for a fact I will never find a job in my degree – art; yet, I don’t really mind that cause I learned so much more from the experience.
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@lonelystrangergirl@xanga - Aha, I hope so. Nervous about it, especially since I’ve been waiting about a year to actually get a job and now I should be getting one in the next few months… Just nervous.
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If I had a bottomless bank account, I’d probably go to college for… ever… ? I love learning.
But… I had no direction, little money, a car payment, and a jobless boyfriend and self to worry about. So I dropped out after a year of college. Do I regret it? No. With the situation what it was, I made the best decision I could. I do, however, wish the situation had been different.
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@Stephnalamx@xanga - Which one are you hoping for?
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@lonelystrangergirl@xanga - Really, whichever one I can get. I haven’t qualified for a lot of jobs, which is why its taken more than a year, and now I just want one in general.
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You have to have the right major and school to justify the choice. Seriously, choose a major that will actually land you a job and do your research to see if higher degree was necessary. If you like another field that won’t necessarily lead to a job, make it a minor or do a double major. Also, is that expensive private university really a smart investment or will a typical public school do what is necessary? Know the difference between what your heart desires and what is the practical choice.