One Lovely writes:
My boyfriend and I have a lot in common, including our love for hockey. Today, he decided to take me to the NHL practice with his CHICK friend. I’m not much of the jealous type, but for some reason lately I have been, but not too much. So he came to pick me up with her (lets call her Sarah).
Sarah seemed nice, but the entire time all they talked about inside jokes, people I don’t know and my boyfriend acts totally different (for example he told me he’d never get drunk and doesn’t get why people do, yet he talked about it with her on multiple occasions). I felt extremely awkward and out of place the entire time. I really feel upset right now.
I guess my question is, what should I say, if I should say anything at all?
Even though the general consensus is that guys and girls can be friends without romantic interest, sometimes it’s hard to realize that when your guy is the one who has a gal pal. But the first step is reminding yourself that, yes, members of the opposite sex can be just buddies. It happens. A lot.
Picture Sarah as a dude, and then picture “him” interacting with your boyfriend at hockey practice. Would you think that most of his actions were strange? You can’t know everything about your boyfriend’s life, and it’s probably fun for him to talk to someone about things you’re out of the loop on. Just try and get to know his friends better, and then you’ll feel less clueless! You should also gently let him know that you felt left out; hopefully he’ll take that as a clue to discuss a broader range of topics next time.
One thing that does concern me, however, is his changing stance on drinking. Whether or not you decide to drink, telling people different things about your views on it seems strange, and this is definitely an issue to bring up. Why would he lie about it to you, her or both? If there’s one thing you don’t need in your life, it’s a dishonest man!
What do you think this reader should do, Lovelies?
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