Lovelyish

Why should the reader feel weird? Let her kiss at her own pace. Teens deal with enough peer pressure as it is – no need to aggravate the situation. 

Hahaha, I’m seventeen and I’ve never kissed, I’ve had like two people try and I quickly evaded the situation. (once even going as far as blocking my face with my hands ._. )

Do I think something is wrong with that? Yes.

No, I don’t think it is weird.  Don’t put an age limit on things like this.  Everyone is different.

it happens when it happens. everyone is different. i’m 20 and I’ve never been kissed. it just hasn’t happened yet. I mean, I don’t go around advertising that and it’s not something most people know about me, but there’s definitely nothing wrong with it. 

Don’t feel weird about it! It’s not that the kiss has to be insanely special/life altering/makes-you-see-stars-good, but it does have to be desired by both parties, and if you’re not ready, then it’s not wanted, so don’t do it. When you do end up doing it once you’re comfortable, you’ll be stoked you went at your own pace and nobody else’s.

My brother is 22 and has never had a kiss

Totally nothing weird about it.  As an adult, I find my early experiences with kissing to be “weird”.  The lovelyish reader has a healthy approach to her first kiss.  She shouldn’t do it just because there is some magic age that you are supposed to have your first kiss.

I don’t think 17 is a weird age to not have a first kiss by. I regret having my first kiss at 14 since it was neither special nor with someone I was super into. Granted I thought I was which I guess is enough.

Plenty of people haven’t had their first kiss by 17. You need to do what’s right for you. If that’s waiting for the right person, cool. If it’s just getting it out of the way, that’s cool, too. But just so you know, the first time will probably be a bit awkward no matter who it’s with. I was 24 when I had my first kiss and it was with someone special, but all I could think was, “it’s wet!” I was 27 before I had a kiss I enjoyed, so for three years, I thought something must be terribly wrong with me. But it wasn’t.

I was 17 when I had my first kiss. Honestly, it was awful, and even at that point I wasn’t quite ready. I wish I had waited til I was 18 and with the really good guy I’m currently with. The point is, you’ll know, never settle, just wait til the moment is right. And you will know(: trust me^^

I was 19 when I got my first kiss. Don’t compare yourself to other people. When it’s meant to happen, it will. 

I had my first kiss when I was 13. It was great but the guy turned out to be psycho. But at the other end of the spectrum, I turn 24 next week and I’m still a virgin. 

It’s all about timing and the right guy, but you have to have both! Sometimes it can be the other way around and be the right guy but the wrong time! My high school sweetheart and I ended up waiting a few weeks to kiss just because we kept getting interrupted-it finally happened at a school dance while we were slow dancing to “Angel of Mine”. In other words, PERFECTION. It’ll happen when it’s meant to happen. Don’t stress over it or compare yourself to anyone else-it won’t do anything but stress you out!!

As long as your first kiss is with someone that is special to you it shouldn’t matter how old you are.

My first kiss was at 18 (and some months) and with a boy I really liked. No regrets.  

Do your own thing, girlfriend. 10 years from now, you’ll remember very little about high school so at least make the kiss count.

No, it’s not weird. It’s sad that people have to make others feel weird or uncomfortable because they haven’t kissed someone by a certain age. I was 18 when I had my first real kiss. I was ashamed of it too but not so much anymore. It’s no one’s right to make me feel inferior just because I was older when I had my first kiss.

I’m 22 and still have not had my first kiss. I think, at least for me, once you’ve waited that long you don’t mind waiting even longer. To me a kiss is something special and intimate. Ideally, I hope to only ever kiss one guy, the guy I marry. Lately, I’ve even been thinking of saving my first kiss for my wedding. When the pastor or officiant says “You may now kiss your bride,” it’d be like you’ve waited for this moment and now here it is, go for it! 

If you haven’t been kissed by 5 and have a case of the herps by 15 you ain’t cool.

i really don’t think it is. i was 15 ^^

@theflutegangsta@xanga - exactly. but i’m 23. 

There’s nothing wrong with that or weird about it.
I was 16 when I had my first kiss. No big deal.

Don’t feel weird. I was 18 before my first kiss.

I was 17 when I had my first kiss. Don’t feel weird about it. You should never waste “a first” just to get it over with; it should mean something to you.

good things are worth waiting for 

Not weird at all. My boyfriend didnt have his first kiss until he was 19. And no, it wasn’t with me.

My mother always told me not to rush. She also told me that there’s a time and place for everything. I didn’t always follow that advice but I wish I did because it’s pretty damn wise.

I’m 17 and my first kiss was a few months ago – I do regret it. I didn’t want it to happen, but my boyfriend at the time got offended when I told him so – we were in our school’s parking lot! I wasn’t expecting my first kiss to be under the stars at some romantic getaway, but I didn’t want it to be in my school’s parking lot with the most random timing, either. It was awkward and revolting because I didn’t really want to do it right then, but I felt bad for offending him, so I just let it happen. After about half a second I ended it because I just wasn’t ready for it – had it been a different setting or different timing, it wouldn’t have been so bad. It was forced and awkward, making my first (and only) kiss to date really bad. Honestly, hearing songs about kissing and seeing kiss scenes in movies made me want to gag for a few months!

Moral of my unneeded story: wait until

you’re

ready. I was a junior at the time and had had my freshmen friends joke with me about it, and it did bother me the slightest bit. I didn’t feel pressured to get it done, though I kind of wanted it to happen so I wouldn’t be an outlier in my age group.I really do believe it’s worth it to find a guy you want to share the moment with and not just get it over with for the sake of saying you’ve done it. Good luck with this! May your first kiss not suck. Haha.

I KNOW I’m a weirdo, living through the 60′s and 70′s and somehow still being a virgin when I met my wife at age 33! But… are we talking about a simple kiss on the lips or French passionate kissing? The former you usually do in elementary school. The latter begins in high school. One night I had the idea that this girl I had just met on a holiday trip was going to help me lose my virgin status, but instead we spent the night in bed really enjoying first and second base— but, owwww, I spent the next few days in quite a bit of pain. I don’t know why she politely blocked my hand from 3rd base, but I’m glad she did. It was best for both of us. Thanks, Jane.

I’m 20 and still haven’t been kissed

I’m 22, going on 23 and I’ve never been kissed. Sometimes I’m embarrassed to admit it. Other times I realize it’s because I have just never been with the right guy yet, well in my case, I’ve never been in a relationship. I can sort of relate to you about feeling a bit weird about it. But when I start to think about it, when I meet the right guy and finally have my first kiss, I’m not going to be thinking about how old I am. As everyone else has mentioned above, everyone goes at their own pace. Don’t stress it, girl!

I didn’t have my first kiss until I was 18. Needless to say, it wasn’t cracked up to all the hype. And it wasn’t special. I kinda wished I waited. Oh well. That was part of my past.

Then again, I would recommend waiting and not rushing. And trying not to sweat over the little things in life.

Forget peer pressure! You’re living your life for YOU, not someone else. Don’t rush something as special as a first kiss because other people think it’s weird. Hell, don’t rush any of your life decisions just because other people have hit those “milestones” earlier. Fuck the haters and all that jazz

@QuantumStorm@xanga - Very true. I can still remember a lot of the peer pressure when I was a teenager.

OP:
Why is it weird? Everyone is different. Go at your own pace.

i’m 22 and i just recently had my first kiss. don’t feel so awkward about it. do what’s right for you and don’t give into peer pressure just cause everyone else is.

I was 18 before I had my first kiss. It was super awkward and I put an end to it. There’s not a “magic age;” you just have to have the right situation and a decent partner. If those aren’t there, or if you don’t feel right about it, just wait until later. You’re right that it probably not the most common thing, but who cares?

I was 16. If everything goes right, I’ll be the guy I’m going on a date with tomorrow’s first kiss. We’re gonna be 20 next month.

It’s cute that you’re waiting . There’s no rush for it.

I had my first kiss at 17, close to my 18th birthday. It wasn’t special at all, and it was terrible. It’s not about who you kiss first, it’s about who you kiss last. And like with everything, there’s a learning curve. 

one of my friends wanted to wait until her wedding day to have her first kiss but ended up having sex with her boyfriend within three weeks of meeting him.  i’m not judging her, everyone works at their own pace.  it’s not really cool to make fun of people for anything of that nature.

edit: my friend was 18, almost 19.

I had my first kiss a few weeks before I turned 19…I’d been in small religious schools all my life and hadn’t even had a boyfriend til then. It wasn’t anything special, but your first kiss doesn’t have to be overly special in my opinion. There are other signs of a good relationship that will come from good communication, etc. The physical part is realllly nice of course, but it shouldn’t be made out to be more than it is. That said, wait as long as you want. Life is short…too short to care about petty judgments other people make about you.

ya definitely something wrong with you