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I don’t know.  I did it once and it turned into a nightmare.  It wasn’t worth it.  I didn’t like the religion or what it made of me.  He didn’t fall in love with that person either.  It’s a never again thing for me.  If some people can find happiness in doing such an extreme thing, then more power to them!  But I think it’s a pretty dumb reason to convert, fake faith, and not something its reasonable to expect of a loved one.

Converting isn’t the same as believing. If it was important to them, I’d have no problem going to their religious ceremonies or whatever, but I’m not sure I could make myself actually

believe

what they believe… 

 If they can’t agree on religions, all of which believe in God, and each says one religion is better than another, and they are basing that on their friendship, then they don’t deserve to be together.

I’m sorry – that’s what makes atheism such an easy thing to understand. There is no hypocrisy or jealousy of same faiths.

First off, doesn’t this sort of stuff belong on Datingish?

Anyway.

Religion is a very important thing for me. I’ve thought about this question many times. I’m open to many faiths so I think that I could convert. Maybe I would personally (silently) believe what I believe but participate in my husband’s faith’s traditions. It would depend on what faith he is (I myself am Lutheran) and how strongly he feels about his faith. I would hope that we could compromise or equally respect each other’s faiths. …. I don’t know; I guess I wouldn’t know until (if) I am in this situation. It’s a very good and important question to consider. But I will say this – I don’t think I could marry an atheist. I almost dated one and it was very tough, even at that stage.

I would never convert. I believe what I believe for a reason. Especially since my boyfriend is Agnostic while I’m a Catholic. My parents  are in a happy marriage, and my mom is Catholic while my dad is Methodist. So I don’t think conversion is necessary(:

if I had to choose the lesser of the two evils, I’d rather date a smoker than a religious person. I normally wouldn’t date either, but don’t make me choose!

@TheMushyPear – agreed. I don’t think personal faith is like jewelry, you can’t just switch it out & change your views. Two separate faiths can coexist in a marriage if people agree to be respectful & agree to expose the kids to both faiths & let them decide what they want. I’ve see many kids celebrate two faiths & come out fine.

I wouldn’t convert, but that’s because I’d be outwardly one thing, but inwardly still believing in my faith (I’m Catholic btw).

I would date/marry outside my religion, but they’d have to be tolerant (and not condescending) about mine.  Catholics are also supposed to raise their kids Catholic, so they would have to be okay with that as well.  I think it’s easier when you’re both the same religion, but I think it can be done if you’re not.  A relationship/marriage is more than just religion, although if both could grow in faith with one another, that’s amazing

I’m not religious and I would get into a serious relationship with someone who was. I have no problem with religious people at all, but I don’t want a religious wedding, I don’t want to get married in a church and I don’t want to raise my children to believe in God, so it just wouldn’t work unless my partner was atheist too.

No, I wouldn’t. I spent too much of my life having to pretend I was a faith I was not and attend church when I am a Wiccan. If someone doesn’t want to be with me because of my religion is different than there’s, I’m not going to convert. Not to say I wouldn’t get married in a religious ceremony, but it definitely would have to be alternated/accommodating. I wouldn’t mind my partner taking my kids to church, but I’d probably take it upon myself to teach them about other religions, including my own. Most religions encourage the same basic moral standards. I don’t care what religion my future child(ren) are, as long as they are good people. 

I don’t understand why Katie would enroll Suri in a Catholic school when she didn’t want Tom putting her in a Scientology school. 

I’m a Texas atheist… not a state where my belief system is appreciated or popular. My initial plans for marriage literally included moving to either Portand Oregon, the US mecca for atheists (most likely), Israel (insane requirements to move there) or whatever place in Europe had the lowest standards because those are places where atheists are more likely to be found and where I could find an atheist spouse. I dated a lapsed Catholic for two years and that ended badly. I won’t say how badly…

Then I met my husband who is die-hard Lutheran which, after meeting him, I found out is some kind of Christian. I really didn’t care. We married at the courthouse because I refused to have a ceremony with religious overtones and he refused to have one without (also because his family are white Yankee bikers and mine are black southern gangsters so we were rather certain that we’d have to have a gun drop at the front entrance and a sign requesting no hate crimes during the reception… really not joking about that.) All was well and good until we started thinking about children.
I agreed to the Baptism. I agreed to church on Sundays. He agreed to non-religious belief teaching every day that wasn’t Sunday as long as I didn’t intentionally mock the Church. I agreed to Vacation Bible School. He refused to agree to Humanist camp (the only camp in Texas that wasn’t religious) or CampQuest (agnostic camp in Oklahoma). We fought like dogs over  Christmas, Easter and other “Christian” holidays represented by Pagan entities. 
To date we still haven’t had the child but we’re very pissed off about it. 

I wasn’t brought up with much emphasis on religion.  My husband was, even went to a private school, but he doesn’t practice any longer.  So, I am glad this isn’t an issue to us.  However, I believe 2 faiths can exist in a relationship as long as they agree on the aspects of life instead of their faith.  But then again, faith is life for some people.  I suppose it depends on the couple.  I don’t think I will suddenly become religious because my significant other is.  I will only consider converting if I believe the religion will be beneficial to me.  As for our future children, I hope to explored religious houses and let them choose for themselves.  I feel religion is a highly personal thing, and each individual should have the right to choose for him/herself.

On a side note: I have trouble accepting Scientology as a legitimate religion…but that is neither here nor there.

I’m not religious and neither is my girlfriend. I wouldn’t mind if she did become religious, so far as she didn’t push it on me and respected my space.

Evangelizing and trying to constantly convert me would go over rather poorly.

I grew up a devout Catholic and I would never convert even if the man I love with everything I have has different religious beliefs from me.

I think if both are willing to keep an open mind and not downplay the other person’s religion or continuously try to convince the other to convert a harmonious marriage can exist. If one person is willing to convert, as well, then that should be fine as well.

I don’t see why two religions couldn’t be in the same house.  If you love each other enough, you should be able to compromise, or at least respect each other enough to let them worship as they see fit.

I’m an atheist.  My husband is Catholic.  We do just fine.

I don’t know if convert is  quite the right term but I would be open to joining a christian denomination other than the one I was raised in. Also, as far as I understand I couldn’t be both Christian and Jewish but I’d open to becoming Jewish if someone convinced me otherwise. 

If you take faith seriously at all, you won’t be able to be with someone of a different faith. If it’s a part of your life, but nothing more, then it probably wouldn’t be all that difficult to compromise.
As for me…I don’t think it’s worth believing in something unless you can do it wholeheartedly. I would never convert for someone, no matter how much I loved them. Sometimes there are things even bigger than human relationships. If there weren’t, those relationships wouldn’t even matter. Nothing would matter.

I stand strong for my religion, so I would NEVER convert for love. I’m Catholic, and the guy I love follows Taoism. If we were ever married, I would demand that my religion is the dominant one (and he therefore has to adhere to my condition of letting our children be Catholics). 

With that said, however, if I feel that we can’t compromise on such simple thing as that, I would refuse to get married in the first place.

I wouldn’t. If my lover can’t handle my religious preference, they will not be my husband or wife.

I couldn’t convert.  I’m an atheist through and through.