I don’t know about you, but when I’m home working at my job while my friends are out traveling the world, I can get a little jealous. Okay, very jealous. And there’s a word for how I and probably everyone can sometimes feel when hearing about another person’s trip: travel envy.
Let’s face it: Other people’s trips often seem super-exciting and wonderful compared to whatever you’re up to at the time you hear about them. I certainly know how I feel whenever I see pictures on Facebook from my friend’s cross-country road trip, taking place during the same summer I’m painting apartments for only a bit more than minimum wage…
But as this blogger points out, travel envy can sometimes be totally unfounded. You have to remember the adventures you’ve had, and try to find the value in what you’re doing now. Sure, I’m jealous of my friend who is currently traveling across the United States, but right now I’m working to earn money for my post-graduation future. That’s certainly important right now. And I was in Ireland four months ago, what am I complaining about?
Also, it’s often important to keep in mind that a lot of what you hear about someone’s vacation is a prettified version of reality. Sure, you’ll probably tell people about your spring break in Cancun. But will you spend a lot of time telling them about how your plane home was delayed for six hours? Or how you were afraid to drink too much water because you didn’t want to overspill your on-the-verge-of-being-too-tight bikini? Probably not. And you’ll probably post only the cute, perfectly posed pictures on Facebook, too.
Oh you know that one of them was ticked off because their swimsuits were the same. But these girls may have only wanted the world to see the fun sides of their vacation and not the ugly parts. We might not be so envious of people who travel if we knew that they fought with their family the whole time, or maybe one of their friends hooked up with a cute guy and left them alone most of the time. We often just assume that everything was perfect. See how crazy this is?
I guess the point I’m trying to make is that vacations are never 100% of what people say they are. The best we can do is take care of ourselves, and plan for an adventure that we’re guaranteed to take enormous pleasure in. Even if no one else is envious of us!
Though I personally think the Superman Celebration in Metropolis, Illinois would be a lot of fun to attend…
Do you sometimes get friends and family when they travel? What do you do to cope with these feelings?
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I hate traveling.
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I guess because I am a military kid, I don’t get that feeling. I also remind myself that one day I will have the time and money to travel myself. By that time, my little guy will be old enough to remember and appreciate our travels.
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I don’t envy people, who travel to have girls gone wild parties or similar, because you can have drunk parties anywhere like at your backyard. I like travel pics where the person actually appreciates the unique scenery and captures them. people travel for different reasons and enjoy different things, so yeah. I’m one of those tourists, who take pics of everything and I’m not in nearly every single picture, because when I travel, the attention isn’t all about me, but all about the place that I’m going and seeing
there’s the national geographic traveler and then there’s the how many sexy poses can I do for this pic “traveler”
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I definitely have problem with travel envy. With still being in school and super busy with volunteer work, church, and theatre there is no way I would have the time or ability to travel and I don’t even want to talk about money. It is nice to remember that no trip is going to be 100% perfect and that I will be traveling on my own at some point even if it is far off. This post made me feel quite a bit better about hearing of everyone’s traveling this summer while I spend my time in daycares and lofts.
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I normally just enjoy looking at pictures and hearing stories of my friends. The only people I have travel envy of are people I don’t like, especially if they are going somewhere new every damn vacation. You’d think I’d just unfriend them.
I also get super annoyed when someone I know complains about traveling. My one ex once was like “meh, my parents are making me go on vacation to London and Paris with them” and I wanted to punch him. It’s called knowing your audience, which would not be your broke, travel-lusting girlfriend.
daisy / 603 posts
I def have travel envy. It seems like when I meet people for the first time and we’re doing some sort of icebreakers they always mention that they are going to or just came back from a beautiful country.
I’ve only been out of the country once and I don’t have money or time to travel much – within or outside of the U.S. However, I just got a new job making twice what I was making and my fiance and I are getting married in Bermuda, so I’ll be the ones giving people travel envy soon!
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Just before I looked at this article, I was looking at my friend’s pictures from Mexico with envy. Which I shouldn’t. I spend two months in Cape Cod every summer. I am incredibly lucky. However I still get travel envy quite easily as I have yet to go out of the country.
ranunculus / 3457 posts
I turned my travel envy into actual travels.
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@MoonFaeEyryan@xanga - ME TOOO!!! at least i try to.
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I had travel envy, horrible travel envy actually, so I started traveling. I would work 80+ hour weeks for three or four months, put all the extra pay in savings then take myself somewhere awesome. My work schedule allows for four day vacations every few months without taking time off so I would fly somewhere in the US, stay in a hostel and walk the streets of wherever I was.
I’ve traveled outside the country “twice”, off the continent once, was having a blast and then I got married. I hate hate hate hate being away from my husband. I go through withdrawal at work! It’s pretty bad. He’s going to school for the next year and between work, school and clinicals, he has no time off so I’m torn between traveling and staying with him. When I haven’t seen him in several days I start thinking about the adventures I could be saving for and wondering why I got married. Then I see him and I realize why.
He’s promised an epic vacation when he’s out of school. I’m still trying to convince him to go backpacking across Africa and South America with me for our 30th birthday (a month apart, I wanted to make a six month trip of it).
sunflower / 487 posts
I love traveling, but if you read my last post, I did not prettify it hahahaha