Lovelyish

I’d consider it if I were in a serious committed relash.

No.  I don’t need a ring to make my commitment to anyone feel real or have any kind of meaning.  If I were ever single again, and I meet someone that wanted to do it, I would, but it isn’t anything that I would ask anyone to do. I also don’t see myself ever dating anyone that sappy (and I really am sorry but gag).

I think it’s a sweet way to make your commitment even more solid. Though couples should commit to each other seriously. The rings just make it even more pronounced. Yes I think promise rings are really cute.

This comes from a girl who does not even wear jewelry lol. So you know I really mean what I said.

It looks like just another product for a consumer culture to me.

I really like that ring with the infinity symbol. That’s super cool and very pretty. 

If I had not HAD to legally marry my husband in order to live with him, I don’t think we would have gotten technically married. I don’t believe that the state should have any power to marry people. I would still have had a ceremony, and I guess instead of a wedding it would have been a commitment ceremony. But I disagree with the order that you’re placing it in- commitment, then promise, then engagement, then wedding. I think a commitment ring would be the same level of serious (forever) as a wedding ring. 

@Erika_Steele@xanga - Haha, I totally hear ya. I know it’s sappy as heck, and that it IS one more thing we can buy. I gotta say though, having a ring also helped me feel more connected to my partner too. It helped me feel like I had the strength to commit to HIM. So I think it’s one of those things that can mean whatever you want.

I would totally wear one. I don’t see why they have to be so gosh darn expensive, but I would. I enjoy romance, including these kinds of romantic gestures. I’d wear it so I know we were serious, & I’d wear it so other people knew, too. ;P

I’ve got one on now with the Alpha and Omega symbols on it. I’ll be getting another soon, probably engraved with “We’ll be alright.”

sounds like a guy’s invention to appear to be more committed in a relationship without any actual work

girl:” I think we’re ready to move in together”

guy:” I’m not ready for that just yet, but here’s a commitment ring, so you won’t be pissed off at me”

I had a promise ring, not a commitment ring (though I personally don’t see much of a difference), and we still broke up. At the time, I was skeptical of the idea, but it was a really nice ring and I loved my then-bf so I accepted it and took it for what it was supposed to be, a promise that some day it would be an engagement ring. And, like I said, we still broke up. Now I think the whole thing is complete bologna. If you want to commit that fully, actually commit. Get the real ring. Not that that is even a promise of commitment, either – you still have broken engagements and divorces. But I feel like my ex would have been more apt to try to make it work if we were engaged rather than just “promised” or whatever.

I had a promise ring – if he could get his shit together within two years, we would get engaged. Two years later, we got engagement rings. Two years after that, we exchanged wedding bands. I think sex was our “commitment ring”, if that makes sense.
As it is, where the hell would I wear another ring? I’m already having to eventually get my promise ring re-sized to wear on my pinky. I’ve quit wearing it but I still don’t really feel right about that. Wedding band left ring finger. Engagement ring right ring finger. I think that’s more than enough rings for me.

Wouldn’t a commitment ring be the same as a wedding ring, only non-legal?

One of my friends had a promise ring… turns out the guy was using her for sex. Don’t think lesser rings mean as much to most guys as they may to most girls.

I wear a ring on my ring finger on my left hand. My partner/fiance/whatever and I are waiting to get legally married because of some immigration issues. But we share finances, live together, have 2 kids together, plan to be together until death do us part, etc. And he always introduces me as his wife. We just can’t legally do it cause of his immigration status. So…I consider it more of a wedding band than a “commitment” band, but in a technical sense it’s not a wedding band.

I see any ring you wear on that finger as just a sing of being “taken” to whatever degree. Like, a red light on sexual or romantic advances. So whatever you call it, that’s basically what it does, in a day-to-day sense. Sends the signal that you’re off the market in a serious way. When you both want to send that signal in a relationship is really up to you, in my opinion.

That being said, for some reason I DO think promise rings are dumb. Maybe because they seem juvenile?

I always think of a commitment ring as something that is for a couple who, for one reason or another, can’t get married – and instead have a commitment ceremony (such as gays, or older people who may lose their health insurance or pensions if they remarry.)

I don’t even want a engagement/wedding ring… I can’t imagine having to wear more than one. >< Can’t I just get engaged/married without the stupid annoying-as-fuck ring on my finger??  @.@

I dislike jewelry, and all I ever wear is my locket… rings are the WORST. I feel like my fingers are incapacitated when I’m wearing them. I made it clear to my boyfriend not to get me an expensive or extravagent ring, if he plans to get me one… (which he does) because I will not be wearing it after the ceremony/wedding night. It will piss me off more than it will make me happy. Lmao.

I’m also not that pretty, so I won’t have the problem of getting hit on when I’m not wearing it. No one else has ever seen anything in me except him. Which is why just knowing that we are a “package deal” will make me happy.

xX Ame ~*~ Hana Xx

The first couple of relationships I had I wore them. The first lasted almost two years and the second was approaching four. After that I haven’t worn any. I’ve secretly wanted to but felt like it was something childish.