Everyone’s had that moment— you do something for your mother/partner/friend, and their face just lights up. You’ve given them exactly what they needed, without even trying. How did that happen? One psychologist proposes that you might have just spoken their love language.
There’s a modern psychological concept called love languages, which are different ways that people can express affection for each other. You may feel your partner’s love most when they give you a surprise gift, but they might feel your affection through physical touch (oh yes, that’s one!). Your mom might appreciate acts of service best (when’s the last time you made your bed?). Your friend might appreciate words of affirmation after a long day at work. And your little sister may feel most loved when you take time out of your busy day to watch Peter Pan with her.
Keep in mind: People don’t have to speak just one language. And there are varying degrees of each! I took the test to see which one I “spoke” (I took the one designed for wives, but I think they’re fairly flexible), and my results were mixed. Out of 12 possible points for each, I scored:
|5||Words of Affirmation|
|6||Acts of Service|
So I’m a mixed bag. But it’s all good! This is just a tool, designed to help people communicate with each other a little bit better. And if it ends up being pure psychobabble, whatever. It’s still fun to take online quizzes, right?
What love language (or languages) do you speak, Lovelies?