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Unless they are going to also tie it into a campaign promoting awareness of domestic abuse, and list resources for both victims to get help and others to HELP victims, this is not even remotely ok.  Domestic abuse should never – EVER – be glamorized.  It tears apart a person’s mind, soul, and often, body.  

I am an attorney that only takes clients who are victims of domestic abuse.  Having seen how domestic violence affects individuals and families, this sickens me on so many levels. I am actually on the verge of vomiting.

I think it can be promoting awareness…when I look at the images, domestic violence is in no way glorified – quite the opposite. Although I do feel like it’s been  a little over-done as edgy photography/art but definitely not as promoting awareness. 

Awareness?  Is there still a human on the planet who isn’t aware that sometimes people do crappy things to women? 

Eh. Not in good taste but honest about abuse?

@ZepBlueEyedGirl@xanga - Avon did a campaign to promote awareness, they were also selling necklaces  I bought one for all my friends and my mom. My father was abusive, so was a boyfriend of mine. I’d be interested to read the captions that will accompany these photos

Take the graphic nature of these photos and then imagine them as little girls and boys instead.  You have human trafficking.

I’d be interested in seeing what the article was actually about. Glamorizing abuse is never okay, but I’d be interested to see if they did anything about awareness or help.

Im a victim of abuse & i find this to be very offending. I can see the glitter in the makeup they used for the “black eye” in no way was getting punched in the face glamourous nor could i evn cover it to hide it with my cheap makeup. I wore sunglasses & felt very ugly no matter how muchi tried to primp myself my sel esteem dropped down & to top it off i found out im pregnant by my abuser on valwntines day. Hes in prison & the thought that ppl are mimicking abuse trying to make these women look glamorous is disgusting, they obviously have no idea how deep abuse.cuts & how much the victims end up suffering.. This in no way shows awareness i had blood & bumps cuts.& bruiaes not glitter & fantasy. Esp the throat one , i was choked & told to die, luckily im alive today but that picture looks fake nd she doesnt look frightened she looks emotionless & that takes away evn more frm the awful scary truth of reality for some of us. Fuck whoever had this idea & these models for sabotaging a true victims feelings!

It might have been more effective if they had toned down the makeup. That said, this was a good reminder for me to stay away from guys I know who do stuff like this, but hopefully not to this extreme.

@Blonde_elegance@xanga - @ZepBlueEyedGirl@xanga - Maybe I’m wrong because I’m really only looking at the pictures up on Xanga and I don’t have to accompanying issue with me or anything, but the title of he shoot makes me feel like y’all kind of missed the boat. 

I think the shoot is about how real and dangerous striving for beauty is, comparing it to domestic abuse so it shows how, even though we don’t always see the damage, it’s just as bad as something we all KNOW is horrible. There was another commentor who said, “Awareness? Is there still a human being on the planet who doesn’t know that sometimes people do crappy things to women?”, and that’s probably why they used domestic violence to portray beautiful destruction.

In a way, it’s saying that women love beauty (as many abuse victims love their abusers) but beauty is volatile and unstable and something women might do to avoid.

this definately seems like it’s beautifying or glorifying abuse. one can learn about domestic violence without really seeing pictures. creating a bruise or slit neck with makeup might be art to some people but it’s nothing that a victim of abuse would ever be proud of or want to sport around. its sending the wrong message.

Honestly if you have been abused or know someone who has…

How many times did they reach for their make up trying to get the most coverage to hide themselves? Not only that most abused women are so silent. You would never know as they strut into the office in new red heels their “man” bought them only to know the reality of home life.

I don’t think there is a way to glorify abuse… it is what it is. It only remains a possibility if you allow it to be one.

As a woman of abuse I am not offended in any way shape or form. This gets a point across… if you think it is about eye shadow… then please do us all a favor…

I digress.

@clumsyandunaware@xanga - Trafficking victims aren’t just children. Honestly, the photo spread made me think of trafficking first.

This isn’t okay. I don’t think so. There is no beauty in abuse.

I’m not sure their actual message is to “glorify” abuse in any way. Though I can see where you are coming from.

And having suffered abuse at the hands of others, both mental AND physical, I can appreciate this if their goal was indeed AWARENESS, and to help those suffering. But like others pointed out…without a number to call/a place of outreach listed, all it is in the end is a dramatic, unnecessary, and horrendous portrayal of someone trying to turn something awful into art photography. And if it serves no purpose in the form of a campaign/outreach program, that is pathetic and sad. Because having been bruised and tossed around before–these turn my stomach–and even if I hadn’t ever experienced this first-hand…even KNOWING these are fake, it STILL breaks my heart knowing that EVERY. DAMN. DAY. someone is going through this kind of horror, or WORSE. :’( I seriously felt sick and shaken when I flipped through these.

I do not find these offensive.

But I do wish they had also included men, who often more silent then women about domestic violence against them. I feel it is also important to raise awareness for them as suffers as well.

My initial reaction is that this is comparing domestic abuse with women’s needs to be artificially beautiful.  If so, I don’t think so, not at all. 

Domestic violence is about abuse, control, violence, and power.

Modern standards of beauty are heinous, but are not an act of violence with the intention to directly cause immediate pain. 

If there is some other point directly related to real domestic violence, then okay.

@xsPoNgEs_go_SQUISHx13@xanga , @TiredSoVeryTired@xanga - - This is an interesting interpretation.  When I read the title, I was a bit put off by the whole concept, because I felt it suggested that beautiful women are more likely to be abused.  The whole idea of rating the danger of abuse by the relative physical attractiveness of a woman is not something that I would find constructive, to say the least.  Should the magazine be equating, as you both suggest, the idea that striving for physical beauty is a physical defacement of self… well, I suppose the publishers are entitled to that opinion, but the possible confusion of the issue would seem to make this at least in very bad taste.

@HerCarelessWhispers@xanga - Oh, I realize that not all victims of trafficking are children.  However, children DO account for over 50% of all forced labor in the world.  I’m actually in the process of choosing a career directed at combating trafficking.  

And you’re right, any abuse of any kind is wrong.  People are people, not objects.  

They did an excellent job on each model! It looks so real!  I have a very soft spot for beating/burn/bruise makeup, and I tend to critique movies where the blood is too red, or when bruises look too fake.

hmm maybe i see this differently i don’t see this as glamorous to me it looks like a version of the truth ..it happens to women out there…although i wish the pictures showed more ‘real’ pictures …but when I look at this I just get reminded of the truth behind it..how it exists and hopefully one day can end..