Lovelyish

I love you.

I had someone tell me a week after dating that he loved me. That is a little too soon for me. On average, it was a month before someone said “I love you” in my previous relationships. I didn’t even say it to my last ex until about a month after he told me.

I don’t think someone should say it until he/she is ready. Now, will people become in love a week after dating? I don’t know. I only know what I need in a relationship. I tend to need some time.

I can’t really say when it’s too early to say “I love you” because I fell head over heels for my one and only the very first day I met him. (five months later he asked me out) It was a month after we started dating that we finally said those three words to each other. He said them first, and I was so shocked that it took a couple minutes to register that he meant it, and of course I said it back whole-heartedly. He’s my best friend though, so I guess when it’s meant to be things just fall into place naturally. Shouldn’t worry about when it’s too soon to say “I love you”, like you said…you should say it when you’re ready and when it feels natural to you. If the person can’t handle that you said it after a week, a month, a year…then you aren’t meant to be (not yet anyway). Simple. 

There is no such thing as “too soon”.

Say it when you feel it.

I’d like to say a week or a month or whatever but I knew I loved my husband about three days after we were talking. Of course having been hurt previously I decided to wait until he’d told me he loved me.

I generally don’t say it until after a few months, because it’s so easy to confuse lust with love (even though everyone claims to know the difference). I once had a guy say it to me and we weren’t even together. I FREAKED out and apparently “broke his heart” but he was so clingy -_- we weren’t even a couple!

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My husband I said it to each other after about 7 to 8 months of dating.

When my sister (who is 19) asked me this question this is what I told her….”Don’t even think about saying it until you’ve had a serious argument with this guy…I’m not talking, he said something some way you didn’t like…I’m talking…you’re so pissed, you’re to a point where you could see yourself ending the relationship.”

Why? Because relationships…especially the good ones….are tested under those kinds of conditions. Seems extreme, but it’s the truth. Love is so much more than a feeling… it is a truly unselfish devotion to another person….(in essence when you say love, you’re saying “WE are more important that I.”)…and if you and your partner both get to that point, and then come together, apologetically to make it work, then I’ve got serious respect for you both.

People say “I love you” too soon. Most of the time when it is said, it isn’t sincere or it is based on a fleeting emotion. 

Man, I’ve always been told first and it’s usually within 1-2months of being official. I’m really feeling my current guy, but we’re just dating..but I’m soooo feeling it =.=

I think it also depends on your relationship with the person pervious to official relationship. I mean if you’ve been friends for like ever and always had a thing for each other I would think immediately wouldn’t be that suprising.

A few days, a week…. *guilty*… LOL.

Saying I love you is like having sex. Doing it too soon is not good for your relationship, but not doing it at all is not gonna help either.

too soon is when you’re not ready. its different for everyone.

my view is……….you can feel love or be in love when ever… maybe even the moment you see that person. choosing to tell them as soon as you find out yourself that you’re in love may be a little risque. why not let the emotion set and resonate a little before you go around shouting it? you could potentially change your mind the next day. so sit, enjoy the feeling, and wait a little to see if it remains consistent or grows greater. from there, read the person and see where they are w u in the relationship. if you feel yo two are in a good place, whether it’s a week or 2 months, even 2 years in, say it!!! say it when you know it’s a for sureeee feeling.

How interesting… I dated my ex boyfriend for a total of about five and a half years. We didn’t say I love you until about a year after officially bf/gf dating and a year and a half of knowing each other (and in general having feelings for each other). 

I found the exact connection I was looking for my whole life.  I knew it the day after we first met.  He said it o me in the middle of sex so I thought it was the sex and tequila talking, 2 months of being sober later, we got married and I’m sitting beside him 2 years later watching our daughter play.  I still feel basically the same I did 2 years ago when we met only stronger.  You know it when within hours, days, weeks, months, whatever.  It’s different for everyone but I subscribe to the 1 soul 2 bodies separated, 1 person who is your exact match who you’ll be with forever. We met in middle school, he had a crush on me and I moved.  We never ran into each other until 8 years later.  Fate will do that.  That’s my sleep deprived belief.  

Dah fuq

I’d known my boyfriend from 6th grade so saying “I love you” in 11th grade was what kind of started the relationship for us. I’ve only dated one person so this is the only opinion I have hahah. But I guess for people that actually date like a month or more seems appropriate. 

I only started saying it after 3 months. My family has never been very affectionate ‘words’ wise so I was never used to saying those 3 words. My culture also plays a part in this hesitancy. The bf kind of prompted me to say it subtly. He laughed when I did because he could sense the hesitation/difficulty I had of getting it out of me. Luckily he understands where I’m coming from and is very patient and doesn’t make a big deal out of it. Although I still don’t say it often, at least I am more comfortable expressing my love through words compared to before!

My husband and I said “I love you” after three days of dating I believe. Then again, we’d known each other since our freshmen year in high school and I’d actively pursued him all four years.

         If someone walks up and says “X xx_x Xxx” ~someone who has never, been interduced or interduced themself, even if they do, It can set them back to (never or almost never) In my book. Because it’s like being flashed… I, Myself never said “X xx_x Xxx” until I was married, for 6 months, seriously true. My husband said it everyday, sometimes twice.. One day he asked me, why I have never say ”X xx_x Xxx”!  My defense, my parents never said those words. At least I never heard them, and I did not feel the words had meaning, other then to manipulate a situation.  Now I can say those words within 2 years of being in a relationship.   

It’s different for every couple, really. I’m not the type to jump into the I love you’s but with my significant other now, I knew I was in love the day we met. We both said it a couple of weeks later. The connection was just unreal.

Before you love them is too soon to say that you love them.

My boyfriend said I love you 4 months after officially going out, I wasnt ready and thats ok! I am starting to feel it , but im not ready to say it just yet and weve been dating all together officially and non about a year. we’re in our 20′s

I think if you had known the person for awhile before as a good friend, and then started dating, a few days or weeks isn’t that soon. But if it’s someone you met recently, I would wait a few months. I know there are exceptions, but these are the rules I try to stick to. I fall head-over-heels for someone quick, so I have to remind myself that the first few weeks/months are usually just “puppy” love, not real love. Also, there is a difference between loving someone and being

IN

love with them. 

Wow, only ten days? Hm..I’m just the type of person that probably wouldn’t really say it at all..lol. It’s terrible, I know.

I’ve never been in love but I have had three guys tell me they love me. I have had strong emotions for a guy but I don’t want to get strong feelings mixed with thinking Im “in love.” I feel like when I finally do love someone it will be the person I can see myself with for the rest of my life… not just someone I plan on seeing in the meantime. 

I do think that some people ( especially younger ones) get caught up in the overwhelming feeling of having and caring so much for someone in their lives, so they rush to say I love you. 
I admit there is no time limit, everyone is different… and I bet it feels great to be in love, can’t wait  

I don’t think it should matter how soon or not soon it is, it should be about how they actually FEEL. If they feel like it’s the right time to say it, then say it, if not, then don’t. 

Oh, when it’s right to say it you’ll know be it an hour after you met, a month, or three decades. 

I think it’s different for everyone. My boyfriend and I waited until a couple months after we were official/about 6 after we first started dating. I mean I sure as heck wanted to say it much sooner than that. I wanted to hear him say it first, though. And waiting to hear him say it was so worth it. It’s a moment that I will never forget.

Say it when you feel it whether it be 3 weeks, 3 months or 3 years.

Before you love them is too soon.

Say it whenever you feel it but if it’s after a week don’t be surprised when they suddenly disappear. :<

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Whenever they won’t reply back, “I love you too.”