I am so lucky to have stayed close to my best friends since I was 7 years old. Age difference, distance, and boyfriends have not broken us apart and I feel pretty safe to say that my best friend from when I was 7 will be my best friend when I am 87. According to a new study, a long term friendship like this is very rare!
A new study released by Oxford researcher suggusts that best friends are not forever…well, at least according to phone records. According to a new study of phone records, a woman’s number one contact during her twenties is usually a man, not her best friend. And by the time a woman turns 45, she calls her kids most often, usually her daughter.
Well, if friendships are based on phone records, I have no friends since I am terrible at keeping my phone near me!
How long have you known your best friend?
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12 years, since we were 7.
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Twenty one years. We met in nursery school when we were two.
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i have multiple best friends you could say. earliest one was when i was 7, then 11, then 15. i’m still friends with all 4 of them and plan on staying friends with them forever. and now in college i’ve made more possible best friends. we’ll see. thats sad that this is considered rare though =/
hydrangea / 56 posts
Other than the love of my life who I’ve only known three years, I have known my best friend since I was 7 and she was 5. We will be celebrating our 19th year anniversary when we celebrate our birthdays in February.
Nothing has ever kept distance between us even though we live on opposite sides of the states, and soon opposite sides of the world when she moves to Japan. We are extremely close, we have never fought once and I am very thankful for her. She has become like family to me, and even went to my families Thanksgiving dinners as a kid, and me to her house for Christmas! We have completely opposite beliefs but we have so much fun together that people often wonder what we are laughing about. Regardless of opposite beliefs in religion and politics, we have never argued. Friendships like these are so hard to come by and I’m so happy to have not only her, but also have found the love of my life three years ago too. Hang on to friends like these! People come and go all the time, but when you truly click with someone they’re there for life.
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One of my best friends I’ve know for nearly 40 years.
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I have like three bestfriends lol and I’ve known one for 8 years and another for 5 years and another one for about 6 years
peony / 3 posts
2 months. Haha! And it’s a guy
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I’m a little bit jealous of people who knew their best friend since they were in grade school. When I was 8 my family moved to the US, but I found a best friend pretty quickly, but the next school year she moved. I got another that year, her family moved back to Texas the next year. Then I got two the next year, we ended growing apart. Then I got another one, her dad got a job in Chicago. Then in high school I got another one, she moved to Michigan for school.
But I think I might have set a world record for “most best friends in a lifetime.” 
daisy / 603 posts
20 years since we were in kindergarten.
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I have two best friends since we were five. I’m 22 now.
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Six years. We plan on being like the song “Old Friends” by Simon and Garfunkel. I just love him!
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I’ve known my best friend basically my whole life due to my parents knowing each other before either of us were born.
I think we have a lot of disagreements and misunderstandings, just like anybody else, but we always come through because we accept each other for the differences. We look out for the other’s best interest. We are forgiving, and most importantly we are there for each other when things are tough.
Recently though I haven’t felt as close to her as I use to be. Sometimes I think her sister gets in the way of our friendship because her sister dislikes me (and quite honestly I dislike her too).
I thought I had another best friend (whom I known since I was 7), but she has been quite selfish and immature and I actually recently just cut her off. I don’t have any hateful feelings toward her, but I felt like forcing ourselves to be friends based on the amount of time we’ve known each other was pointless when we couldn’t even do the basic things that friends are suppose to do. She was dishonest, gossipy, and selfish; and I just couldn’t get myself to care for her anymore. I think this friendship had a long time coming to fall apart anyways. I honestly don’t feel like I’m missing anything by cutting her out of the picture, which says a lot.
Basing friendship on number of phone calls seems like an inaccurate way to “measure friendship.”
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21 years! We are irrationally fond of each other. Never a real fight or disagreement in all those years. We now live 1,200 miles apart, but still have contact either on here or on Facebook just about every day. I have 2 great loves of my life: my husband and my best friend.
orchid / 154 posts
15 years
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I’ve known my two best friends for three years.
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8 years.
daisy / 727 posts
My sister is probably my best friend and that’s 22 years now. I won’t count her though because that isn’t really fair. My actual best friend is a girl I met while working at a water park when I was 15 and she was 14. So it’s been 7 years. We have ups and downs, but even though we live on different ends of our state now we still talk everyday for hours. I don’t think phone records is a good way to keep track. My bestie and I text a lot, but we im each other on aim for the most part since we are both on our computers a lot for school. I’ve had a lot of best friends though out elementary school through college because I mesh really well with people and get along really great with them, but things usually end up happening. Kay and I have been best friends the longest continuously for me. She has best friends though that she’s had longer than me. I think she has two or three other best friends besides me, but we get along on a level that she doesn’t with them. Maybe that’s why some people don’t last that long as best friends. Maybe things are just missing.
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9 years.
The study seems pretty spot on haha. My boyfriend is my current (male) best friend.
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I met my best friend on the first day of high school while standing in the lunch line.
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14 years, since kindergarten
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5 years.
cherry blossom / 38 posts
My best friend and I have been friends since we were 3 years old, the first day of pre-school. She was crying because she didn’t want her mom to leave, so I walked over to her, grabbed her hand and brought her to the sandbox. We’ve been best friends ever since, despite me moving across the country when we were 12, and now she’s going to be in my wedding this December. We’re 24 now.
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My best girl friend and I were best friends for 8 years until she turned into a crazy, toxic person. So I no longer see or speak to her anymore. I guess you just never really know who is secretly insane. I would consider one of my oldest guy friends(known him for about 5-6 years) and my boyfriend(known him for about 2 years) to be best friends of mine too though.
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i have two best friends, one i met at college 4 years ago, and another i met at work 2 years ago. to be honest, all the friends i had during my childhood have moved on now, and i rarely keep in contact with them.
orchid / 119 posts
We’ve actually known each other for almost eleven years (when we were 10 in grade six) I think. We absolutely hated each othere for the longest time, though. We just had mutual friends and put up with each. I don’t think it was until we were fifteen/sixteen that we actually liked each other. We actually bonded because we discovered we hated a lot of the same things, hahahah. We were all bullied in school so it was a lot of, “yeah, I hate him/her too!” over people who were mean/beat us up.
She moved away for school and it’s become hard, but I still consider her my best friend. It’s crazy to imagine me actually having a best friend because it used to be so hard for me to even have just normal friends. I just love not seeing her for months and being able to pick back up where we started, and knowing what to expect from each other.
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My best friend and I have been friends since before kindergarten. We’re both seniors in high school now. We’ve had our fights but we’ve always came back closer than before. I know distance won’t be an issue for us if either of us were to move. We tell each other everything and we both know things about the other that we can’t tell anyone else. <3 I would do anything for her, as she would for me.
Though it’s pretty sad that a friendship like this is rare. Because I have about 3 other best friend’s exactly like her, just less intense. And I plan on keeping my friends close.
We’re all a huge circle. Take one, and you take all.
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So you really want me to feel ancient? My best friend and I go back to 8th grade, 62 years ago. She once reported over the phone that her husband just shook his head and said, “They’re at it again!” But it doesn’t end there. High school graduation in a small town found 11 of us on stage and we’re observing our 58th anniversary of that event on June 2nd. Five of us started first grade together. In my scrapbook is the invitation to my oldest buddy’s 5th birthday party when I was 3½. It’s been one swell trip!
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4 of my closest friends and I have known each other now for 10 years. Since we were Freshman in high school. We are all turning 25 this year. Oh how time flies!
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8th grade but she wasn’t best freind status until 9th grade. We broke up1st semester of sophmore year of college but have been back together since three months later. I don’t have any kids, but I am married, but she’s not. Maybe I should chase men away from her just kidding
tulip / 22 posts
My best friend and I just turned 30. We’ve known each other since we were two months old and our mothers joined a baby play group together. We now live less than a mile apart.
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10 years. Since middle school and now up through undergrad, though I wouldn’t have always called him my best friend, and now the term doesn’t sit so well with me in general.
But if you go by phone records then we’re not friends at all. I’d be closer with the lady who cuts my hair. Obviously a problematic criteria, especially now when us young folk generally rely on a mix of texting and social networking sites to communicate with friends when separated.
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I had a bestfriend from when i was 7 till 18. She slept with my boyfriend, along with being a horrible friend.
So, that ended.
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18 years and counting, we met when we were just toddlers. love her to death :]
peony / 1 posts
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Twenty two years. We met in the second grade. She passed away yesterday. I feel like part of me died with her.
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Im 21 my best friend and I were friends since we were 5, we are in kind of a tiff right now though. :/
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About 12 years
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i wouldn’t say i have a “best friend” per say. i have a few really close friends from different circles whom i consider my “best friends”, and i think i like it that way. though i guess having one best friend might be nice. but i’ve mostly grown apart from old friends. i think long friendships are so rare because we change so much in our lives. i know that’s been my deal.
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… my life is complicated…
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Two semesters if we’re speaking female. Then the next down the list I’ve known for 4 years. Five years if we’re speaking male. Maybe that sounds stupid to some people that they’re my best friends after such short amounts of time, but when you meet your best friend and start hanging out with them a few times, it’s kind of like the chemistry with a guy: you just know.