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I always feel awkward about compliments, both boys and girls. Idk why really but even it feels nice to get ‘em it always trigger some anxiety response on my side.

i dont all compliments are equal to me. i think its about 50-50 but maybe more girls just because my school has more girls. also i kind of disagree with the beginning part– guys can give specific, genuine compliments. if they know you they will, if they dont its probably just some guy on the street.

I value compliments from men a lot more actually. Women tell me I look nice all the time, but I don’t often get a compliment from a man.

The compliments are definitely different when coming from a guy versus a girl. I was hit on by a girl at a bar a few months ago and was actually really flattered more than if it had been a guy. I told her so, too. You know for the most part that when a guy is hitting on you in a bar that he usually wants sex. There’s exceptions obviously and I’ve met a few, but for the most part they want sex or someone to hook up with in some way or another. It was interesting how different her approach was to coming up to me compared to how guys have come up to me. It also took way more balls since she had no idea if I even was interested in girls, which I’m not. She seemed 100% more genuine with her compliments than any guy that has come up to me in that same setting though. I appreciate compliments from anyone. It is always really nice to be complimented. 

I appreciate all compliments, as long as they’re not backhanded.  However, I am a little uneasy receiving compliments in general, but when someone means it, it’s nice to receive them.  Personally, I will compliment a person (male or female) only when I genuinely like something.  I don’t compliment just because, I feel that de-values the concept of complimenting.

I’ve never gotten a catty compliment or a compliment with ulterior motives. Be it from a man or a woman, from someone my age or older/younger, they’ve always been simple passing compliments much like you’d say “it sure is a nice day today,” and then the conversation would move forward. 

Hmm, I see where you’re coming from, but I still prefer compliments from men. I don’t always trust women when they compliment me. I used to get compliments about my newly dyed hair from this one girl at my college, but then I found out she kept complimenting me because she thought it looked hideous and really just wanted to sabotage my chances with the men folk. :/ Some women can be so awful.

I like when everyone compliments me. And I react the same way, I blush and say thanks. 

I actually feel better when girls compliment me too lol. For a guy it’s so easy to just say OH HAY GURL. U FINE. (exaggerated, but relevant), but to compliment another female can sometimes be like complimenting the competition haha.

I find that girls pay more attention to detail, especially on other women. I know I do. It’s easy to zoom in on things like “man, are her lashes natural?” etc. I don’t take the compliments and the following questions as ulterior motives, because obviously if one likes something, they’d want to know how to get it too. For instance most of my compliments are about my hair styles and colors, if they didn’t legitimately like it, then they wouldn’t want to know what I do.

I just say thank you no matter who gives the compliment.  I don’t assume a woman cares where I got my bag or shoes or anything else unless she asks.  Seriously, sometimes another woman may just like your skirt.

It simply depends on the person not so much the gender I think.
Yeah, sometimes compliments seem as if the person wants to achieve something with it. I feel like when it’s a guy it’s typically sex or just attention, when it’s a girl it’s typically “dragging you to her side” for her cat fights agaist other girls. But that’s just generalizing obviously.
I’m always careful when people compliment very quickly or effusively, but I when I know a person already I do like them. I like them best from my close friends, because I know they’d also tell me when they find something ugly.

Uh I never give it much thought lol. I get compliments from both genders. ::shrug::

Hmm..I do wonder how sincere other people’s compliments are. When I compliment a girl though, it’s definitely for real lol. And I do it somewhat often…it’s not rare for me to compliment a girl. And it’s just because I actually do like whatever she has and I want her to know that I like it.

I’m not sure if I act differently when girls compliment me. I don’t really like being complimented usually because I don’t know how to react. Besides saying thank you. It just makes me slightly uncomfortable (don’t ask why). But that doesn’t mean I don’t *want* compliments lol. I’m just more comfortable not receiving them. Because I guess then I feel like I owe them? I have noo idea.

I prefer compliments from women because I don’t feel like I have to worry about whether or not they’re hitting on me.  I can never tell with guys and sometimes it makes me uncomfortable.  Women also usually know how much work goes into applying makeup well or picking out clothes that fit properly.  I feel like, if a woman compliments my eyeshadow blend or whatever, she appreciates what went into it more than a man would (unless it’s a stereotypical gay man).

I appreciate compliments from both genders for different reasons.

From men, it’s just nice to know people find me attractive. I’m engaged and very happy with him, but it’s always nice to feel pretty. I just don’t like that most guys hit on you because they expect more, which leads me to smile, say thanks and point to my engagement ring.

With women it’s different because I don’t wear makeup or put a whole lot of time in my appearance. I wear the same jewelry daily (things that are important to me or I really like), etc. But most times a girl will say something about my earrings, my necklace or my engagement ring. It makes me feel good because these are things a guy would never notice and if they did, they’d never comment on it. It makes me feel good when someone compliments me on jewelry I’m wearing and I’m thinking it’s from my fiance.. I’m glad you can tell how great he is!  And it’s also different because they genuinely mean it…. they aren’t trying to sleep with me…

I’m ridiculously oblivious to being hit on, so I enjoy compliments from both genders. Age factors in more for me–when I worked at a home improvement store, older men were always complimenting me. It was really nice, even though I’m still not sure if they were hitting on me or not. My boyfriend’s compliments mean the most to me, though. 

The idea of liking compliments  from girls more because they’re normally so catty is a bit silly, imo.
Because half the time girls are giving you compliments to BE catty!

The favorite past time of the bitchy girl is to compliment some poor, unfortunately dressed girl… and then laughing about it with their friends.

I normally compliment people when they look like they aren’t having a good day.  It’s nice to make somebody smile.

@lttlegel -   Lol, I’ve been shown a few engagement rings before, I normally respond by showing them my wedding ring and mentioning I was being honest/nice.

@xsimplepleasuresx@xanga - lol well, when you’re being hit on by 50 year old men and you’re 23 but look 16, I don’t exactly take it as just nice.. creepy is more like it. 

I get a lot of compliments from women about my clothes and hair. I like getting those kinds of compliments and we usually start but a conversation about where I got my clothes. Guys compliment me a lot too. They usually ask me what my ethnicity is and they tell me I’m beautiful I handle compliments a lot better than I used to.

@lttlegel - In that situation, I think being creeped out is perfectly acceptable.  I’m sure a majority of the time, the guys are hoping to get a date or something more.

@lttlegel - haha I’m 22 but look young. When creepy guys hit on me I tell them I’m 14 :p

LOL I feel happy too when I get a compliment but in the back of my mind, this scene from Mean Girls plays:

Regina: Oh my God, I love your skirt! Where did you get it?

Girl :It was my mom’s in the ’80s.

Regina:  Vintage, so adorable.

Girl: Thanks.

Regina to Cady: That is the ugliest effing skirt I’ve ever seen.

@ceresa - my thoughts exactly!

Hence I don’t like getting compliments in general except from my bestest of friends who 100% tell me like it is.

A compliment is a compliment…

I don’t really care who compliments me. If someone has something nice to say, that is good enough no matter what gender.

@xXxlovelylollipop@xanga - I don’t take compliments well, either.  I try really hard to accept them graciously, but they usually just make me nervous lol

I tend to prefer comments from women over men because they notice more.

For instance, my boy will say, “You’re cute.”and all I’m thinking is, cute describes a small child or a puppy. I’m not either of those.
At work, a woman will compliment me: “Hey! You look so good today. Is your face tanner? No, you’re using a new blush! It looks great! And did you get a hair cut? Just a bang trim, really? And look at your outfit! You look so nice today! Everything about you is spot-on! Your eyebrows are so groomed, too…” And the list goes on.
Women will notice the attention to detail you put into getting ready, where men will not. My boy would never notice if I wore no foundation, or bypassed blush for a day, or if my hair was unstyled, or if my bangs were shorter. He wouldn’t notice a new outfit or if I’d lost five pounds. My (98% female) coworkers would notice these things within a minute.

compliments from girls are usually empty and false…

I gotta learn to take compliments without blushing. That’s going to take some work.

um, hate to tell you this, but many girls give fake, over-exaggerated reactions. I trust what my man says on most days, as long as I know he isn’t trying to rush me along and saying what he thinks is the right thing to say lol

I prefer compliments that are genuine, and not just “Oh you complimented me so I have to compliment you” or “I have nothing else to say” type compliments. When I see something about on someone, like a nice pair of shoes, smile, what have you, I always will let them know because I think its great to maybe brighten someone else’s day by hinting you think they’re pretty cool!

A little tip from Tess:

Say thank you. (and nothing else)

Take it as a grain of salt no matter where it (the compliment) comes from. Be comfortable in your skin, clothes, hair, make up, accessories, whatever. 

You be you,  Be cute 4 you!  Know that you are blessed and WORK IT!

Being complimented by other women means more. Another female saying, “That’s a nice dress.” is a compliment for your dress, the fact that you choose a dress that complimented your shape, your hair, your accessories… everything you put into that outfit is being evaluated and found with enough approval that she decided to say something.  A male saying, “You have a nice dress.” is likely a compliment on your breasts or backside.