My worst roommate experience occurred during my first year of college, when I was paired with an…eccentric young woman named “Jane.” Jane was nice enough, but her requests for me to shave her mohawk and keep the window open during the dead of winter were somewhat unnerving. The most uncomfortable incident, however, was when I stepped out of our bathroom in a towel, only to have her corner me and start a half-hour rant about why evolution is false. I actually did end up writing Jane a note about the incident, but it was very sweet and filled with lines like, “I totally respect your views.” Some roomies, however, forego the polite mannerisms and leap straight for nasty notes. Read a few great ones here!
You can read more little messages of frustration at the source!
Have you ever written or received a passive-aggressive roommate note? What’s your worst roommate story?





daisy / 727 posts
hahaha my roommates started to leave me notes like this. Although, it wasn’t because of mess. I was always cleaning up after myself. It was because they decided that I needed to hang out with them more. I wrote a note back telling them if they wanted to pick up my 30 hour work weeks and 18 units of school and/or pay for my existence, I would gladly spend all my free time with them. Neither of these things happened and the notes stopped
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I left a note that said “Fuck you pork beast on a greasy bacon pan I tucked under an ex boyfriends bed sheets.
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The microwave one?
daffodil / 1615 posts
haha i love the pants one
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Haa haa, these are hilarious!
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Ah yes, I’ve been there. I was living with a friend in her condo…she was going to grad school and I was working. I was always quiet and stuff, but she was very passive-aggressive about “house rules.” I was not allowed to have boys over, and she would deliberately keep her bedroom door partway open when she left for the weekend so that if I did have a boy over (GASP, I was fucking 23 years old at the time) she would be able to tell because I would close her door so the boy (who I’m now engaged to) wouldn’t be able to see into her bedroom. She left me a sticky note about it.
Also one weekend I turned the thermostat down because it was hotter than fuck, and then I forgot to turn it back up, and she left a sticky note on it about saving energy and the electric bill and blah blah blah. I moved out very soon after that. The apartment I moved into was sort of a hellhole, but at least it was a hell hole where I could have boys over, smoke on the porch, and listen to music whenever I wanted to. I felt like a teenager moving out of my parents’ house, lol. We are still friends now and have resolved our differences, but it was a rough “breakup,” so to speak.
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LOL at the pants one. And the last one. NASA.
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@hot_metalhead@xanga - why would you have to shut HER door if you had a boy over? I don’t get it.
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@daydreams_nightmares@xanga - Because I figured it would better to close off her room if someone she didn’t know was over so that they couldn’t look at her stuff (not that they would anyway, but just in case). Unfortunately she used the closed door as a way to detect that I had broken the boy rule while she was gone.
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lol the pants one was funny but actually it seems normal to me. I often don’t wear pants at home, haha.
orchid / 119 posts
The microwave one makes me feel better. I don’t have OCD but I think it’s just shows your incredibly lazy and inconsiderate. Hahaha.
Ugh, I made the worst decision of my life and moved across the provience and into an apartment with four people… I never met before. :/ One girl was just wonderful, she cleaned after herself and was nice, one was legit never there, one just hid in his room, but this one 16 year old who didn’t like her mom’s rules just made me want to die. She was loud, dirty, and just a horrible person. I left a few notes like these about various things.
“REALLY. YOU NEEDED TO USE EVERY POT AND PAN IN THE HOUSE LAST NIGHT? JESUS.”
“Please don’t wear your salt covered shoes all over the hardwood, I want my damage deposit back!”
and others.
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The butter one makes me think of one of my college roommates. I have always left the tub of whipped butter out, it’s how my family works. I like having soft butter to spread on my toast, it makes my life just a little easier. It was my own butter and she NEVER used it because she had her own, so I left a very nice note asking that it be left out and she left a very nasty one in return. Then on my birthday, she left a nasty note on the thermostat because she didn’t want me changing it since she liked the AC to blast and leave the windows open (because that makes sense) and would freeze my skinny little ass off. Thank god I don’t speak to her anymore, she drove me nuts!
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I never left notes for any of my roommates. If we needed to chat about something, we did.
hydrangea / 88 posts
@thatkyliegirlx@xanga - I’m curious, why didn’t you speak to your roommate about the stuff that bothered you?
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Little comments left here is like post em notes. Unfortunately we are not like roommates and don’t have to necessarily answer the comments. Let me say that my roommate who talked to himself had a real good excuse, he was a real radio announcer on the college radio and yes I suppose he needed to hear himself speak. Needless to say that guys usually say what they want to say and notes is if you never are around to say it.
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Last year, my roommate made a list of how to clean the bathroom before it even ever got dirty. Apparently she just had no confidence in my abilities. Also disregarding the fact that my bed was always made, my laundry always in the hamper, and my clothes always put away while her room looked like a bomb exploded on a daily basis. I don’t think I was the one who needed lessons in how to clean.
This year, I have written a few passive-aggressive notes. I have talked to my housemates about these issues before, but they continued to ignore me. So I wrote notes. My favorite is the one on my thermostat right now. I have a reptile for a pet that is extremely temperature sensitive and she already has racked up $300 in vet bills this year because our house is always too cold. One night I came home to discover my roommates had turned my thermostat down to 60 degrees F, so I left a lovely note stating that that is completely unacceptable and if they are worried about the heating bill, then they can pay my vet bills. (My lizard does have a heat lamp, but if the room is 60 her tank goes to 75 and she needs it over 80. I don’t think keeping the thermostat at 65 is too much to ask for).
orchid / 119 posts
@berrylipstix@xanga -
Because I never spoke to them. Maybe a hi if we walked past each other, but that was it. I didn’t go downstairs if they were there, and neither did they.
It’s also a lot easier to say what you want to say through a note than just exploding at someone. Passive aggressive may be the cowards way out, but it’s a lot easier.
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@hot_metalhead@xanga - she sounds crazy! But..I don’t get the door rule. Couldn’t you just close it then open it again before she came home? I’d still have boys over anyway haha
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the one about the microwave is rediculous. i could definately see the other stuff, about people being slobs or fully wearing clothes, but the microwave thing is just something to bitch about. clear the numbers yourself.
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Oh, the housemates I have…
Someone keeps putting laundry powder where the fabric softener goes, which clogs everything up… (then I discovered I could remove this part and clean it but it’s really hard to take it off and nothing I want to do every single time I need to wash my clothes)
Any ideas what I could write on a note and put on the machine since I don’t know who’s doing this?
I’ve already tried the simple instructions “Powder here” and “Softener here” but it doesn’t seem to work. xD