Lovelyish

Ask the ugly, fat one. She can tell you a thing or two.

She is a moron.  

I think this woman went about the whole article the wrong way, but I agree with her to a small extent. When I was in high school, I was an ugly duckling, yet everyone seemed to like me as a person, but as I grew older (and I’d like to think more attractive?), women started to dislike me. My personality hasn’t changed at all, but I have far less female friends now than back then. So, I don’t really know what to say. She did kind of bring this on herself though…

Typo. Should actually read “no one is more reviled than an arrogant, egotistical woman.”

But yes, she does look better in the video still (I can’t play Hulu in Canada) than in the original picture, so it’s not like she’s physically ugly. She’s just mentally and emotionally ugly. Which contaminates the view of the exterior if revolting enough. 

BTW. Not related but I came across it through the DM link: Ridiculously Photogenic Guy. You’re welcome.

People don’t hate her for being beautiful, people hate her for being shallow and vain. 

I think if her article had been about something more substantial like donating blood, or caring for the elderly, I would find her more beautiful. However, having read the article my first (and honest response) was “She’s not even that pretty!” Contrast that to an article about something more important and inspiring, I would probably think she’s a beautiful person outside and in. 

@ashleynicole - lol literally just worked up a post on him. crazy!

How can someone be that stupid? My God.

She’s ugly as hell. I’m convinced this is a joke.

@kackie - I literally just spent the last like half hour looking at the memes LOL. God, it’s so addictive! 

She has a point, there are some women who are bitter and jealous and treat women they think are more attractive poorly.  This is just not true for the majority of women.  Most women are not going to be rude to you if you are not rude to them first.  If she is being treated poorly, it her personality. 

Please let this be the last post about this woman.  I’d rather talk about Kim Kardashian’s ass.  At least it has more personality. 

Exactly! I agree with most all the comments before mine. She’s egotistical, shallow, self-centered & vain. She’s not exactly the “looker” she’s made herself out to be & being proud of flirting with men who are her bosses because apparently, “all” women do this or should -_- to advance in their work place is disgusting. Not all girls are going to hate a pretty one, unless she’s parading herself around like this woman. I stand by the fact people dislike her not because she’s pretty, but because she’s so vain & stupid. 

She just projects her feelings of vulnerability and anxiety towards others. Mainly women. She expected them to scorn and hate her, which did happen. Mrs. Brick is shallow and ridiculous in even writing the article. Why write an article attempting to persuade readers of her beauty or lack thereof? It’s not like people are going to treat her any better. So what if she is beautiful? That does not mean we should all kiss her feet and treat her like the queen she thinks she is.

I do think she brought this onto herself.

Though hot guys do not (to my knowledge) experience this kind of dejection as women do. I wonder why.

Well, isn’t she like in her late 40s/early 50s?  If so, she looks outstanding for her age.  Even so, I think her point is spot on.  Some women do indeed treat attractive women poorly.  I’ve seen it time and time again.  It’s usually only a certain type of woman who does this though.  It’s the alpha female who thinks she’s hot stuff and doesn’t like it when men pay any attention to another alpha type female.  It happens all the time! (Not that this woman can’t be off her rocker, I don’t think she’s bad for saying she is beautiful though.  If enough men tell her she is, perhaps she is!)

i guess i’m the minority opinion… but i see her point.

i wouldnt call her shallow

– she doesn’t say or act as if her looks make her better than anyone. she just notes that she gets treated differently – which is true. prettier girls can get treated differently than us normal chicks. it doesnt make me bitter, and it doesnt make them better, but it does say something.

she’s got balls for bringing it up and using herself as an example. people can hate on her all they want, but really, she’s right in saying that they only prove her point.
if a totally normal looking columnist wrote the same article using 3rd person P.O.V, no one would criticize. truly, no one would blink and eye or even bother covering it in the news.
like i said: minority opinion…

wow, I don’t know what to think about this woman honestly. In her first article I was annoyed by her complex issues, the negative vibes off the article were terrible, and although moments where she sounded outright arrogant what she described was like she hated being how she was. She didnt like being beautiful even going as far as saying she would “welcome old age.” The woman is attractive not in all photos though, some just made me wonder. But yea she’s pretty ok. But I hated the self esteem thing there (in the 1st article) now theres like a total different vibe off her 2nd article which honestly I admire a lot. It takes a lot of guts to do what she did especially knowing the consequences. But I think she should stop the dramatics. Its a known fact that women are more vicious towards other women and yea women can be very jealous. But to go as far as to say that no one is more reviled than a pretty woman is wrong. Being hated for being pretty? Probably more preferable than being hated or made fun of for being dark-skinned, Indian, Jewish, Mexican, Christian, ect…. There are worse things in the world. I honestly don’t know wither to say she has self-esteem issues or what. She does come off arrogant sometimes honestly, but at the same time she has some issues to work out with herself. She doesn’t come off as someone who is happy with her appearance. Hell if she wrote that article it’s quite obvious she isn’t. Pretty or not she should just suck it up and say a big F you to the world. It’s sad but this is the way the world is and if your willing to make a controversial statement in front of it you gotta be prepared for the consequences. Because where there is love there is hate and where there is success there is envy. 

@G_re_ta@xanga -  You make a good point. I had a tough time trying to figure this woman out lol cuz while there were moments where she comes off arrogant it doesnt exactly fit either because like you said she’s not acting like shes better than anyone else shes just trying to make a point (she really shouldn’t have used herself as that example though, big mistake) and sadly all the hate shes getting for it is proving her point spot on. Some women, but not all can be very vicious and merciless against other women. But envy and jealousy is everywhere pretty or not. I think there are worst problems in the world. 

Oh my goodness.. This article could not have come at a better time… I
just got a threatening message (via FB, mind you) from one of my
friend’s ex-girlfriends (who I have NEVER talked to) about how I need to
stop talking to my friend (because she believes they’re getting back
together) or she will shut my “disrespectful squinty-eyed f****** face
for you.” This came pretty out of the blue considering they broke up in
February…? Also, I really think she wouldn’t have felt so threatened
had she not been morbidly obese..

As vain and shallow as she is condemned to be, it’s nothing compared to the catty, snide, women like several of you here. I’m quite disturbed by the misogynist attitudes displayed in this thread already.

Anyway, the fact that anyone thinks she’s arrogant is just really stupid. She never said she was better than anyone. She simply pointed out that any decent looking women gets a certain reaction from men and from women, and it’s true.

@MissAshley - We picked up on a different vibe from the articles than you have. Just because we felt arrogance where you did not does not mean that our opinions are stupid or invalid. I’m sure most would still hold such views were the articles void of photographs. If you want to tell us that our interpretations of her character based on how she has presented herself are stupid, then does that mean that we can come right back and state that your neutral or non-negative opinions of the woman are stupid?

One does not need to explicitly state something for that sentiment to be implicitly implied.

This made my night, lol.

She is so average. 

@MissAshley - Not arrogant? You did read the article and the response, right? This woman thinks she shits gold-flecked rose petals.

She is not pretty! She must have some kind of dis-morphia and a massive ego?!

It’s like we’re getting a glimpse at Jenn’s future.

@MoonFaeEyryan@xanga -@ashleynicole -  I think what’s going on is that this article was delivered poorly on her part making it easy for people to understand her point as arrogance. What I got from her initial article was that she happens to be a fairly attractive woman (and she is, by society’s standards) and she gets special treatment by men and a certain amount of cattiness from women, which to me is totally believable because I often receive the same reactions, not from everyone but often enough for me to notice. So her her to admit she also counts herself as attractive is not arrogant. It’s confidence and I think everyone should be able to see themselves that way. She is told by men that she gets special treatment from them because they like the way she looks, and like it or not, that bothers a lot of their wives and other women. On top of all that, the fact that she has gotten such a rise out of women, hissing and swinging their claws at her claims. I also get that whenever I talk about myself that shows me in a flattering light. Just a few minutes ago, I was attacked on a forum for posting my bust, waist, hip measurements…because they are smaller than everyone elses. I didn’t brag, I just said 32, 23, 33 and I got “Get your head out of your ass, you egotistical c***” Women are so jealous and catty so I understand where this woman is coming from. 

She is average looking, but way too concideing..

-__-.

No one reviled more than a pretty woman??  Surely you jest.  I just about peed myself laughing over that one, while looking again, at your average looking picture.  People don’t have issues with pretty women.  They have issues with pretty women who think too highly of their looks, use their looks in flirtatious ways to get ahead at work, or compare themselves to others, assuming they look better than others.  Well, were that the case, the phrase, “Beauty is in the Eye of the Beholder” wouldn’t be more truthful now than ever before.

@MissAshley - And she is assuming that the cattiness and all the behaviours in general are entirely based on her looks. We cannot know why others react in the way they do unless we actually ask them. She is deciding that her interactions, specifically the female ones, are dictated by how other women perceive her appearance and that any ill-treatment is based on her appearance. Ultimately this is not something I buy to be true. As many have pointed out, the far more likely cause of the issues she claims to experience are based on how she interacts with everyone, probably in a manner that makes others put-off by her and thus they will treat her differently. Or like someone else mentioned earlier, if she is of the mindset that every woman will treat her like shit because of her appearance that will affect how she interacts with women and thus she is likely fulfilling her own predictions. Much like if someone thinks “no one is going to talk to me or like me” and you go about the day completely hidden from everyone because of how shy you are and then no one talks to you.. well obviously the way you behaved based on your predictions played a huge role in that. Same for this woman I’d guess. 

I’ve been in situations in which my friend has gotten attention based on how she dresses and acts with men. It’s a very “I want your attention” manner of interaction, whereas I don’t feel comfortable doing that and would rather just act the same with everyone and get the attention from others based on them being interested in that aspect of myself. And yet when my friend would get hit on, the only discomfort I felt was based on the fact that I felt really awkward. I didn’t hate her for it, I actually didn’t have any negative feelings towards her other than “why do you get to get hit on by two strangers when my crush is like 5 feet away and I can’t even say hello?” The difference though is that my friend definitely doesn’t have the attitude that this woman has, and my friend has always been such a sweet and adorable girl. While she dresses in a way that I do not think looks the best on her, I do think she is attractive, especially when not trying hard. I get jealous of women regardless of their physical appearance when they have something that I wish I had, but it doesn’t make me hate them for it. It just makes me wish I had what I wanted. 

There’s nothing wrong with a woman feeling attractive and having that personal feeling show through her actions and interactions. But to actively promote oneself like she (and apparently you I guess) has does come off as arrogant. If someone is asked to talk about it, that’s different. But to blindly bring it up for no apparent reason errs on the side of narcissism. I personally view myself as attractive, and I know that others do as well, and I know that others also don’t view me as attractive. How I feel about myself does affect how I interact with people and how I portray myself. But never would I start talking about my appearance in order to boast and then complain about it. I see no need to share my opinions on my appearance with others when it has not been asked by others because I am confident in my appearance despite the visible flaws I have. Most of the attractive women I know also seem to stay away from publicly sharing their own views of themselves at random. Basically, what this woman is doing reads very much like a person posting their pictures up online and stating how ugly they feel they are and then asking others to validate that opinion in order to get those strangers to actually state how attractive he/she is instead. 

As for your measurements. Was the post even asking people to share their measurements, or did you just see it fit to post them when the venue wasn’t calling for it? Perhaps that person simply dislikes you for your personality as seen through other comments you’ve made and thus reacted like that. I know I’ve gotten very negative reactions from a few people whom I didn’t know based on some of my comments they’d previously read. To assume that a reaction like that would have been based on my appearance would have just been stupid to make on my part. Sounds similar to the person bias actually, assuming that what someone else does occurs because of their personality and not because of situational variables (in your case, situational variables being things like the context of the post, what other comments you’ve posted that others have disliked, or even things in the commenter’s life that you could not possibly know about).

@ashleynicole - I understand what you’re saying, and yeah there’s a chance this Samantha woman is just assuming any negativity she gets from other women is based on her appearance alone, though I do give her the benefit of a doubt that she might have personal evidence that she never revealed to the public. I can safely say that some negative attitudes I have received has been based on jealousy, but I don’t just assume this automatically. These girls have either admitted it to me or acted in such a way that pretty much reveals their own self loathing. Some girls are actually that low. I was recently attacked repeatedly on my blog and my flickr by someone anon who wanted to bring me down and I did nothing to this person because they are some random that found me through another blog. Even if I was a super narcissistic person, wouldn’t give them right to judge me in such a terrible way, stalk, and harass me. And I believe Samantha has been subjected to a lot of unwarranted harassment as well. Egotistical or not, she doesn’t deserves a lot of the comments she has received. If you politely disagree with her assumptions, or just say that you don’t think she’s that pretty…that’s one thing. But I have read a lot of comments that are a big display of why sexism and general hate for women (by not just men, but by women as well) are still big issues in our society. As women, we always try to blame men, media, and society’s standards for the pressure women feel to look and be perfect, but us women are doing a lot of the perpetrating as well.  By saying she’s ugly as hell and saying she’s a fat cow or looks haggard ….is doing a huge disservice to women. I just see no excuse for it either way. 

She’s average looking 

she’s a columnist-that explains it all. she could’ve fibbed some example details to exaggerate things like the free stuff that she gets and this is another ploy for attention. she’s being interviewed on shows now. she’s an attention whore you can’t really blame her because she gets paid a bonus perhaps for bringing more readers to her article and sometimes bad publicity is better than no publicity for desperate people. she could’ve made the entire story up for attention, who really knows.

Oh the woes of being beautiful.  I hate it.  Girls are so mean to me.  Oh my poor life.  
I think she’s overreacting.  Now I have heard of this happening in catty small towns.  One of my old friends is BEAUTIFUL and she supposedly was outcasted because of it.  She was the new girl in town, and she immediately got put on homecoming court.  The popular girls were not happy with this new girl taking their lime light, so they were mean to her.  And we see it all the time on the internet.  Some jealous commenter is always pointing out flaws in the pretty and sweet beauty guru on YouTube.
But this girl kind of seems crazy, not gonna lie.  She needs to come back down to earth a little.

I think that humility comes hand in hand with beauty, which is something she definitely does not have. The fact that she says her friends want her to stay away from their husbands – I wonder if she has or will ever have a husband after being so arrogant in writing about her beauty. 

Apparently she does have a husband who prides himself on his wife having good looks … figures. 

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2124246/Samantha-Brick-downsides-looking-pretty-Why-women-hate-beautiful.html

I hate her breathtakingly gorgeous guts. I’m going to break every mirror in my house now and ask God why He didn’t see fit to make me even a tenth as beautiful as this woman.

Maybe He wanted me to have some character…

How ridiculous of her. I think everyone could predict her response to all of the criticism. If she can’t understand why people can’t stand her in the first place, she never will. First symptom of extreme narcissism: you don’t realize you are and have a false image of yourself.

people don’t like her cuz she’s so stuck up her ass!  she needs to get over herself.

This woman has an enormous ego, and her arrogance is evident through her writing.

No I don’t think that the “pretty” woman is the victim of daily social “condemnation”, however, I do think that she is a victim of her own demisable attitude. It’s good to have a high self esteem, but having too much of it isn’t healthy, just like everything in this life.
 I think that she needs to rent a life…

I don’t think she realizes that most women are just mean for no reason. It happens to pretty women and ugly women alike.