Lovelyish

That is absolutely abominable.

That’s extremely heartbreaking. It’s something that I can’t understand someone wanting to do, the faking the identity part. I’ve met two guys through social networking (not Facebook, but Canada’s Nexopia) and dated both in-person, one being long-distance and the other semi-long-distance. It’s terrible to think that someone I’ve met online could have faked their identity the whole time. It’s painful enough to learn that someone you’ve known in-person pretended to be someone they weren’t and then it leading to a dissolution of the relationship, but to find out that someone was basically playing a game with a stranger in which such a tragic outcome occurred is infinitely worse. Especially with the phone calls and bringing in other characters into it. It’s a shame that this kid was so distraught as to choose to do something so reckless instead of just cutting off ties with the person. What’s even sadder is that, had he been a few years older, there’s a chance he wouldn’t have done what he did in response to all of this (thinking more clearly with age, taking more time to think things through in general). 

This is so sad.  Its sad that someone would play a joke like this and it is sad someone would be this distraught over a relationship.  It hurts, but relationships end, they are never worth your life.

This happened very close to where I live. They met on plentyoffish.com and he didn’t intend to die.  I read the full version of this story, and it made me SO angry that someone would be pathetic and bored enough to create a fake person, upload a fake photo, make phone calls, make up a whole family, add his whole family to facebook, and lead him on to the point where this happened. Obviously she didn’t kill him, and he’s the one who took the pills.. but it could have definitely been prevented if this girl hadn’t led him on and tormented him.

So sad.  :(

This is the same crap my ex pulled on the woman he “dated” before me. He had an online relationship with this sweet sort of naive 27 year old woman who had recently been divorced. He was my age, yet she somehow believed he was actually 30,  believed he had a sister named Lorie and a Nephew named zack. He had multiple accounts to communicate with her as his other family members. They actually met in real life, his facial hair makes him look older I guess. She was madly in-love with him and would even send him private pictures. He had her completely controlled, he absolutely forbade her from speaking with her ex husband and would verbally and mentally abuse her when she would not do what she asked. When he broke up with her he threatened to send private pictures to her work to get her fired simple for talking with her ex husband. To this day she doesn’t know who he truly was.

Dispicable? Yes, and yeah he really is my ex. Ex for a very good reason mind you. If that was with her, imagine dealing with him in person for almost 3 years. One word to describe him. HELL!

I feel so bad for this guys family.  Who does that kind off thing?  Is there any other information on the Real girl?

Everyone should read this. Everyone should realize that there are people like this out there and unless you’ve met the person face to face you can’t be sure they’re who they say they are. Even after you meet them you still need to be cautious. People can lie to you face to face too. It’s tragic that this young man threw away his life for someone who didn’t even care about him at all. I know of at least two more cases where something similar has happened thankfully without anyone having to die to put a stop to it.

So some chick faked her life and her whole family to some guy who she had some online relationship with, they plan to meet and she cancels because she obviously isn’t who she says she is and he overdoses? That is crazy. Who is the real woman behind this?

So sad and heartbreaking prayers for the family <3

The person behind this sick operation should be charged with a certain degree of murder.. Although he technically committed his own suicide, she lead him to believe a nonexistent person he thought he knew/loved was dead, enough to distraught him to end his own life. Absolutely horrible… There is some real morbid fucks out there.

It’s great that you mentioned the movie Catfish, that movie was so heartbreaking and almost sickening to watch. There was some controversy about how real the story was, but with more stories like this happening, it’s easy to believe. Catfish came out a a few months after I met my boyfriend through a social networking site and after seeing the movie, I became incredibly paranoid. But I also thought, that could and would never happen to me. Luckily, it didn’t, but it’s so sad to think that this sick form of cyberbullying is happening more often.

Jesus. This is why I refuse to get involved with someone I have never met before. It’s awful that he committed suicide because of some twisted bitch. But, come on. Suicide because she cancelled again?

As loosely as this guy was wired it was only a matter of time before something like this happened. I mean, what if a “real” girlfriend had dumped him? One, that he had lived with or something?

@vivalafangirl@xanga - That movie was fake. You do know that right?

Not to be cold about this but this kind of thing has been happening ever since the internet entered the scene. People would be shocked at how often this happens every day, the only difference is that not all of them get worldly known.

=( This is quite saddening…

That’s terrible on so many levels.
It’s awful to think that the are so many people out there who think they can get away with anything on the internet.
The internet is not a separate entity from reality.

@Cayllesth@xanga - Hell, yet you stayed with him for 3 years? Oh, wait, I bet you were some kind of brain washing “victim” right?

Yes, this is terrible. But obviously it can be concluded that this 19 year old had mental health issues or or life problems before this ‘girlfriend’ came along. She cancelled… so he took pills and drowned himself down with booze? Perhaps it was just the last straw. But it doesn’t add up. A healthy individual wouldn’t do that. I am not blaming him nor judging. I myself suffer from diagnosed depression, so I know what it’s like… All I’m saying is yes, what this person did, making a fake identity and connecting with the boy emotionally was bad…But she isn’t to blame for his suicide. Depression and suicide don’t work like that. 

I feel so bad for that guy. I too was in a relationship that took place online and whilst I was 100% truthful, I found out later that they weren’t and I was so distraught I too attempted to take pills but instead I just drank and was depressed for quite some time. I don’t get why she would get on a computer and have to make up all these identities just to play with someone’s heart, that is so terrible. -.- 

Scary to think there are such sick people out there.
What kind of monster do you have to be to want to torment other people like this?

@lostcauseIam@xanga - I think you mean *Brain-washed* victim since I wouldn’t be the one doing the brain washing. Nope, that’s not the reason why, but nice guess sweetheart. Would you like to try again and see if you figure it out without me telling you, seeing as you make assumptions without having the slightest idea of a situation? The man was bipolar with sociopathic tendencies, unstable and dangerous when provoked. You wouldn’t have the slightest idea since he was one of the most charming, conniving and manipulative people you’ve ever met until he finally had you where he wanted. I was the only one to figure out what happpened with his ex, one of the few that got away from him and managed to completely block him from my life. I’m extremely lucky that I didn’t have much worse happen to me. What I wrote up there, that is child’s play compared to what he could do. I tried to warn and help the friends he still has tangled up, feel sorry for them. Do I regret any of that? Not the slightest bit. It made my personality do a complete 180, taught me to be dependent and a lot of other things. Anymore questions? Cause if not, carry on.

@Cayllesth@xanga - Actually it’s “brain washing victim” as in a victim of “brain washing”. Wow! You might want to know what you’re talking about before you attempt to correct someone. And it looks like the brain washing scrubbed away the majority of your brain cells too.  And yeah, I stand by my original comment despite your sad attempt to articulate your point so…carry on yourself. K? k.

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I can’t begin to imagine how hurt the family of the 19 year old must be.

However, I still don’t quite understand. It seems like this story is more of a cautionary tale about being wary of internet fraud, scams, pranks, and lies than it is about a youth taking his own life.

As awful as it sounds, unless the female perpetrator had the intentions of provoking the young man to the point of suicide I don’t think she should be charged with murder either.

I don’t get why anyone would believe anything on the internet, let alone Facebook. The internet is for fiction, not reality.

Maybe I’m naive or really lacking empathy but I really don’t understand how a situation or “relationship” like this could progress to such a level for an extended period of time? What frame of mind or mental state must a person be in to fall prey to such a malicious scheme? Was this young man living alone and isolated, was there no one monitoring his online activity or even someone to tell him that his online “girlfriend” may not be real? If he really was the type of person who was already so succeptible and vulnerable to such a scheme there should have been so many opportunities for a voice of reason to act or step in. Someone who can make a decision to end a life based on a cancelled date from a supposed girlfriend must have really not been well mentally. And if that’s the case, then he must have been an individual who required close monitoring and proper counseling which he either didn’t get or receive in time.

I guess when told “You can’t believe everything you read/hear on the Internet,” that should be taken seriously.  What is wrong with the person who pretended to be Clarissa?  Was that person that bored and didn’t have anything better to do then to cause someone to be so upset and depressed that he committed suicide?  I guess there is only so much a parent can monitor, but wasn’t his mother concerned about her son’s alcohol and drug consumption?  However, I’d have to say that there must have been something going on in his mind to make him behave this way.  I think over all, this is a sad situation.

@wonderweiss@xanga - I don’t think you were being naive for asking how this could have happened and how no one told him different.  Maybe he did have some mental issues.  In my personal experience, if someone has cancelled on me several times, you better believe that I would have come to conclusion that I should probably invite someone else.

It is a waste that people who love like him die, and loveless people live their life carefree.

awful

what does this 18 year old woman look like? she must have a lot time on her hands to even be doing this

@lostcauseIam@xanga - Oh, wait, I bet you were some kind of brain washing “victim” right?

And you might want to know what you are talking about before you assume what someone’s situation or experience actually was because you obviously must know right? like I already said, nope that was not the reason, which you went on to state a second time when you were told brainwashing had nothing to do with it to begin with, why you’re so concerned with what the reason was to begin with is beyond me. Brain-washed victim is the only term I am familiar with and have come across. English is not my first language, but pardon me if I was wrong. I don’t mind apologizing if I happen to be wrong about something. Again, you make assumptions and felt compelled enough to make sarcastic remarks of a situation you clearly know nothing of when you were never adressed in the first place. Then you resort to personal insults when you receive a response and still claim to be correct in your assumptions. Sad attempt to articulate my point? You adressed me, I responded and that’s that. View it how you like. Now carrying on since I have already wasted enough attention on you.

@wonderweiss@xanga - In the couple situations that I have seen the person has been in a certain kind of mindset and be in a certain emotional state for something like this to be able to happen to them. The woman my ex had dated had clinical depression and PTSD from previous traumatic experiences, hence why she could be manipulated so easily. Other people are just that good at lying and fabricating things. People go through extremes like photoshopping things, creating multiple accounts and false conversations through chats, actually have their friends help them out and lie for them too, using false documents. Did you hear the story a few years back of the woman that made a 13 year old hang herself by doing this same exact thinng? She wasn’t accused of murder but her neighbors made sure to make her life a nightmare

@babybug329@xanga - From what I know of people that have done this, some really are that bored and find enjoyment by taking advatage of other people. I have heard them actually say that’s what causes them enjoyment. Sad, but these people are out there. What’s really sad about the story is that he was so affected to such a point that it drove him to that. There must have been something there much deeper that made this drive him over the edge.

I’m so sorry but I think this is pathetic. Survival of the fittest, he was obviously weak anyway. Killing yourself because your online girlfriend isn’t real? He obviously had a shit ton of personal problems he wasn’t willing to work through and would have just been a burden on society and future friends/partners anyway.

I have no sympathy toward people or situations like this.

I’ve been through worse and havn’t offed myself yet, and I know there are plenty more people out there who have it even harder than I do.

Man the fuck up, people.

People are naive, and it’s sick there are people who take advantage of that!  

Oh my gosh, what the fuck

He overreacted over a lie. A lie that I’m surprised someone could come up with and go through until his end. 

         nice post.i think its a very important issue.people should talk about more about older women dating young boys or young men even after they turn 19 or 18 their still basically just teens.i dont know who killed the boy.but it could of been the womans husband.or something like that.i watch alot of crime tv on tv and crime show like csi ncis law and order etc.so that makes up for it.i know whats wrong about a young relationship with a woman who is old enough to be your mother saw it happen in real life on tv shows.it really pays off to know shows and reality.

One of my friends had a girl friend named nena they never met but always talked on line and texted a lot.

It turned out to his friend he considered to be his sister who was very obsessive over him even though he turned  her many of times.
He loved nena but hated his friend once he found out it was all a lie.

@Cayllesth@xanga - 

The story about the 13 year old girl is sick, but 13 is still a little kid who should be supervised. That was malicious harrassment and bullying.

Yeah I mean, I understand that there ARE people are ARE succeptible to such deception and do not rationally think things through. BUT what I don’t get is HOW it could be allowed to escalate to this stage. I mean, in the case of your friend with the clinical depression and PTSD and for this young man who might have been emotionally or mentally going through some issues, WHERE was the voice of reason or the support system? At 19, its possible to still be living with your family or even if he was in college most people have roommates, counselors, advisors, teachers, supervisors, friends, or family that would AT LEAST be aware enough to say ’Hey, I’m concerned about this person’. So, if you’re aware that a person’s behavior or demeanor is enough to cause you some concern, wouldn’t somebody (perhaps the family or friends) have acted as a mediator? If you know your son or your friend is succeptible to such a thing, wouldn’t you know that that person is incapable to making sound judgement and is therefore an individual who needs monitoring?

- And the same thing goes for the young female who made the false account. While I know that once you are of legal age, your responsible for your own decisions but if either were living with their parents and the family knew that their child was prone to NOT making sound decisions wouldn’t the family think that their child should be supervised or monitored?

Like, if you have a kid and you know that your kid always walks out onto the street if you leave the back gate open – whether your kid is 2 years old or 19, why wouldn’t you monitor or check up on you kid closely?

I know its sad and upsetting because there’s really not much justice for either family. I couldn’t convict the 18 year old female of murder (maybe fraud and criminal mischief, but not murder) any more than I could say that the 19 year old brought this situation upon himself.

@wonderweiss@xanga - Yeah, sad but unfortunately too late for anything to be done. That’s the sad thing about a lot of these cases. You don’t see anyone step in or help when there were clear signs of something going on before hand. It’s kind of like all these cases we see of bullying that end tragically too. There was something that could have been done before hand, or someone saw signs of things happening but did nothing. The 13 year old girl’s parents saw the girl becoming addicted to being online and becoming extremely depressed when she couldn’t talk to the boy online. That was one sick woman. There’s never an excuse to harm a child.

How can someone play with someone’s feeling so much??? Making up several people online just to trick someone…WHAT THE HELL?????I mean…it is just…I don’t even…*shakes head*. I never got why people would make accounts just to troll here, but when you realize someone is taking this seriously, isn’t it time to stop??
My mom was right. Never trust anyone on the internet, it’s full of creepers.

Even though I’m sort of angry at the girl (evidently), I also feel sorry for her, because that is probably not at all what she wanted to happen.
It is not an excuse to go THIS far I think but people use the internet very differently. Some people think that anything you do online isn’t serious anyway, while others just want to make friends with real people.

If you don’t take it so seriously as in don’t let it get to you what people say and don’t intend to ever meet any of them you should be aware of the other group though. If you think that nowadays people don’t build real friendships over the internet you really live under a rock.

This makes me think of that story awhile back about a girl who killed herself because of a boyfriend she met online, when in reality, it was like her neighbour’s mom or something. So sad indeed.. his poor family. May he rest in peace..

I have to admit, I have been in a relationship like this.  I am still questioning if she is real or not. It’s something you wouldn’t understand until you’ve experienced it.  But this story gives me something to think about.

@coolmonkey@xanga - Sorry to hear that–yeah, I had something like that happen once too. It’s weird, still wondering what was true and false.

I do have sympathy for the people involved here, but it’s only sympathy.  The man was obviously unbalanced and unstable for him to off himself due to a canceled date.  The woman is obviously unbalanced and sick for making a fake account.  Both people need Jesus. 

That is really sad that people would go to such great lengths to cause someone pain…