Ever feel like your boyfriend or significant other doesn’t compliment you enough? Maybe he’s tried, and you didn’t accept the compliment the way he wished you would have. He says, “Your hair looks nice.” And you say, “Ugh. No it doesn’t. I’m having a bad hair day.” I’ve been there plenty of times.
A lot of my friends who are in relationships want their boyfriends/fiances to shower them with compliments and tell them they look nice, their hair is cute, they smell nice, etc. But sometimes guys (my guy in particular) give us girls these compliments and we don’t respond the way they want us to. Or they are just afraid to compliment us.
In the beginning, my guy thought that girls expected compliments to be over-the-top with extravagant words and whatnot. In reality, I just wanted to be noticed by him. But still, guys sometimes decide not to compliment us because they’re afraid their compliment won’t be worthy. My guy fit that category, especially when we first got together.
For the guys who do like complimenting us ladies, they sometimes get mixed signals. If we’re having a bad day, we might just brush off a compliment. (I do this constantly. It’s terrible.) Or if you’ve been with the same guy for a long time, his compliments might seem overdone or boring if you’ve heard them oh say, a hundred times. My fiance will compliment me, and I won’t make a big deal out of it. But if someone I don’t know compliments me, I get so excited.
I love getting compliments, especially when I feel like I look like a million bucks. It’s easy to accept compliments when I feel great. Sometimes it’s not so easy to accept compliments when I’m having an off day.
My advice for guys is to compliment us ladies when you do notice something you like about us. And don’t try too hard. A simple “you look nice” is always great to hear. My advice for you ladies: accept a compliment no matter how bad you think you look. Show him you care when he compliments you so that he will continue to compliment you.
And here’s a trick: If you want him to compliment you, smile at him and ask, “What do you think?” He’ll get the hint!
Do you like to get compliments? What is your favorite compliment to hear?