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In my culture we use both our dad’s last name and our mom’s. Since my relationship with dad is nil, I’ll use my husband’s and then mom’s.

Yes!

People constantly get my last name wrong and people absolutely love butchering it.
Very annoying and kind of insulting and disrespectful, I think.
I plan on taking my future-husbands last name, both to get rid of mine, but also because of tradition.

Ha, is your user name your last name? ’cause that’s nothin’, if so. My first middle and last name are about 35 letters total, then I hyphenated when I got married and added a couple more.

I changed my last name several months after I got married.  No one pronounces either my maiden or married name incorrectly, however no one could spell my first or maiden name correctly when I told them my name is and they had to write it down for whatever reason.  I guess I am traditional.  I don’t really care what my name is, one should dazzle others with your personality, demeanor and skills, not your name.

My last name is so uncommon, I show up on the first page of Google when I enter even just my last name. :/

If my boyfriend of three years wants to get married, I would be thrilled to take Martin. No more spelling my name for literally everybody! Sounds nice.

If I get married I will definitely take my spouse’s last name. I will also keep my own last name. Really, I just want to have a lot of names.

I took my husband’s last name when we got married. Why? I wanted to. Because it meant that I wasn’t just his spouse…his wife, the person he was married to, his roommate…it meant that I was his family. That’s why it was important to me. Had nothing to do with any problem I had with my own last name. 

@positivelyunsure@xanga - yeah, that’s why I want to change my name too

i’m taking my  bf’s name when we get married. i will miss my last name,  its part of you, half of your heritage, but i think if your willing to share your life with someone it would make sense to be willing to share a name with them too, after all it will be half of your childrens heritage (should you have children). i think it makes a more traditional family unit too, which can make things easier on kids growing up…..it does get old having to explain “yes my parents are married….yes penner is my dads name….no my mom is brown…..yes i’m sure they’re married.”

Where I’m from the women traditionally keep their last names…hence there being so many last names in my family lol. I’m in the states now where it’s tradition to take your husband’s last name, but I love my unique/cultural last name. I’ll definitely keep my last name….unless I marry a Kennedy, Trump or Rockefeller.

If I marry my current bf, I have a feeling we’ll take my last name…even though that’s nearly unheard of here.

I’ll be happy to take my fiance’s last name. I don’t have much of an attachment to mine… it’s uncommon, misspelled and pronounced wrong all the time. His name isn”t too common either, but at least it sounds like it looks.

Pluss, I love the idea of being his family more than just his wife.. I want to share everything with him:)

My maiden name is “Wise.”  I love my maiden name….

But, when I got married I couldn’t imagine NOT taking my husbands last name.  I went from being reluctant to ever change my name, to….I HAVE TO CHANGE IT NOW!

My last name now is much more uncommon, and people frequently mispronounce or misspell it….but it’s mine….and I love it

My last name is fifteen letters long, but no. We don’t do that in my culture. We take our fathers first name and add son or daughter accordingly and keep it that way.

I don’t really have a problem with my last name but I do with  my first name. Sadly, not only the spelling but the pronunciation too. About changing my last name to my husband’s-to-be, I think I’ll just add it up to mine hehe

Mispronounce or misspell? Nope. It’s one of the simplest names around.

However, I wouldn’t want to take my future spouse’s last name because my first and last name flow so well together; I would hate to lose that.

I have the most common last name ever.  Can’t wait to change it.

Nope.

When I get married, I’m taking her name. I’ve got such a boring second name.

In high school, two other girls had the same second name. People were constantly confusing the three of us. One was called Amy, I’m Emma (I tend to spell it ‘Emmä’ now though, but that’s a long story) and the other girl was Gabi. Amy and Emma are pretty similar names and since we ended up together in everything alphabetical, I think we grew to really hate each other haha.

My fiancée’s second name is Ramsay. Instead of my entire name being a mere eight letters, I’ll have a little more substance. Maybe I’ll be taken seriously, haha.

Yup… I know exactly what you mean. I can’t wait to have my name changed when I’m getting married this year!

I have such a love/hate relationship with my last name. I’m not sure if I’ll change it when & if I get married. That’ll be a huge decision, that’s for sure.

My decision to change my last name is based on what my future husbands last name will be. If I like it, I’ll change it. If I’m just ok with it, I might hyphenate. If I hate it I am not going near it. I will have to totally hate it though because I know what a pain in the ass it is to have your mom and dad have different last names. It was very confusing for teachers and such. I also recall in high school when my mom let me borrow her debit card to go shopping, they asked to see my ID. I told them it was my mother’s card but they didn’t believe me because my ID and her card had different names. 

Though I’d never say anything, I really don’t like my boyfriend’s last name. He was picked on for it when he was younger and people still say things, even though he’s 27. It’s immaturity on their part and he tells me, “You don’t have to take my last name when we get married. I promise, I won’t be offended.” You know what, though? I will be taking his last name, even if I hyphenate it with mine now. Personally, I view it as being faithful and supporting him and standing up proudly beside him. So, even if I don’t like it, I’m taking it for those reasons… and because I’m traditional.

Keeping my maiden name will depend on how long my future husband’s last name is…currently my full name is 25 characters already…but I would prefer to have my husbands and my maiden name (hyphenated)

I’m keeping my name.  

i love my last name and don’t understand why i have to change a fundamental part of my identity, my name, while he changes nothing.  so no.

I used to be all gung-ho about having my future wife take my last name, but now I wouldn’t really care if she wanted to keep her maiden name. I’m not taking hers under any circumstances however nor am I hyphenating. My last name would look really really stupid if it was hyphenated. 

@positivelyunsure@xanga - I love the way you said this. That’s why I’m going to take my boyfriend’s last name when we get married. And I can’t wait until I can use his last name as my last name!

my last name is 8 letters, pretty long, with the 3rd letter capital and I keep having to remind people of it and that there’s no space, its one word…

but my boyfriend is Chinese, so if we got married and I changed my last name to his I feel like it might be confusing.. and hyphenating the two might be weird… good thing I have awhile to think about it, I guess!

I’m actually afraid of my first name not meshing well with whoever I marry because it’s uncommon outside of Argentina so I’m definitely keeping my last name and hyphenating (as is customary in Argentine culture anyway)

I’d change my last name in a heartbeat and may change it before I even bother with the idea of getting married.

I like my last name more than his, but I can’t see myself not taking his last name. I think I don’t like “Black” because it’s so short. My last name is two syllables, so the monosyllabic “Black” sounds…just wrong.

Oh gosh, my last name is terrible! It’s German so everyone is like “uhhh” and I’m all “the ‘o’ is silent!” I’ve had kobear, koblear, curber, kober, kerbear. And then my first name is terrible as well [Jaclyn]. I’ve been called Jacelynn, Jackalyn, Jaqueline, and more. Most people call me Jay now xD

My current boyfriend has a simple and common last name, Williams. I definitely will take his name if we get married. But I will still have to deal with that pesky first name of mine xD

I don’t like the ring that my last name has to it. I’m not fond of my family either. I hope I’ll find someone to marry one day

While I love my last name, I’m taking my future husband’s name because it’s tradition and signifies unity and family. And, if I marry in the country in which I want to live, I get an additional -ova to my last name. I think it’s a beautiful name tradition. 

I personally never understood why women would hyphenate or keep their last name, because when the couple has children I don’t know what their last name is and what happens when they eventually marry lol.

My very Persian last name is mispronounced and misspelled all the time so I know how you feel.  And although I’m only 17 and I might change my mind in a few years, I think it would be really cute to take on my future husband’s name.. And hey, hyphenated last names are super cool too!

@emptyabyss@xanga - What is your culture? I’m curious.

@WaitingToShrug@xanga - I’m Icelandic.

I will take his last name. My initials will stay the same and I sort of like his last name better. No one ever mispronounces it. I never thought my last name was that complicated til I got in the college/working world.

in the asian culture, women do not change their last names. however, the public calls her by her husband’s last name.

I prefer my maiden name but mostly I am too lazy to get my name changed on all the documents required so I kept my name!  My sons have my husband’s last name.  I understand people changing their last name for tradition, but I never understood the argument of unity because it is almost always the woman changing for the man; it is not so much unity as the tradition argument in disguise. 

Now that we are planning on moving to a small town I might change it just so people do not talk especially since I have not replaced my wedding ring since it was flushed down the toilet by a toddler.

Here in Mexico, the common thing to do is to keep your last name and add your spouse’s at the end, with a “de” before it… for example, if I were to marry my current boyfriend, I would become, as society would want me to, Garza de Treviño. That literally means “Garza of Treviño” and it was used in the olden days to signify that you belonged to a certain family… you became the possession of that family. It is because of that I do not want to become “Garza de Treviño”.
I’ve talked about this with my boyfriend and he is okay with me hyphenating my last name, so as to become Garza-Treviño.

People always spelled and pronounced my maiden name incorrectly. It got to the point where it was just normal for me to say it then just start spelling it without prompting. My husband’s last name is less than half the letters in my last name, and although I do miss having such an unusual last name it’s nice to not have to answer to only my first name and a confused stare.

@schmeeglee@xanga - I had the same issue- my maiden name was 3 syllables and my husband’s is one. My name just doesn’t sound right so now I call myself by my full first name, which is 4 syllables to go along with my husband’s one syllable last name! Ha

I think I want to keep my last name but maybe use it with certain things.

My last name gets misspelled occasionally, and so do my first and middle (not that it is relevant very often). People misspelling my last name is a little weird, though, because I’m quite pale and obviously not black (there’s a “white” way to spell it and a “black” way to spell it).
My husband took my last name. He disowned his parents years ago, so keeping their name didn’t make sense, especially when he is so much a part of my family now.

I took my husbands last name. I just think it makes sense. If we are going to share our lives and everything together, we might as well share names too. Plus I like his last name better than mine; it’s more common sounding. I would have hyphenated, but my maiden name was 8 letters and his last name is 9 and, especially with my first name also being 8 letters, I didn’t wan to have to write out that many letters every time I sign my name.