We were surprised that so many Lovelies have been accused of lying by their doctor about how many partners you’ve had!
What is with OBs? Mine always treats me like I’m lying about only having had one partner, then she insinuates that he’s probably cheating on me (without even knowing anything about him). They’re cautious to the point of alienating their patients.
3/14/2012 1:34 AM Gorrific
There were so many similar examples in the comments… here are just a few of them:
I had a friend who went to the doctor while she was at field training (she’s in Air Force ROTC) and the on-site physician asked her to take a PREGNANCY TEST (for fear of consequences of medicine he was prescribing), even though she’s a virgin. When she told him she’s a virgin, he scoffed in disbelief. How unprofessional! I was shocked to hear this story.
3/14/2012 12:18 PM bittersweetromantic
My friend totally had this same situation, except she was only 16. Still, the doctor called her a liar. Moreover, she was there because she was worried because she never gets her period since she runs so often. The doctor ended up telling her that because she drinks soda that she needs to work on being more healthy and active. It’s just plain ridiculous.
3/14/2012 12:29 AM Shytooth
This has happened to my last time I saw my OBGYN. I had a yeast infection and got an Pap smear because of my Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome. I also told her that I considered myself bisexual. She insisted that I get a STD test even though I told her repeatedly I was a virgin. I said yes just to shut her up. Wish I didn’t because those damn tests were expensive as hell.
I felt like she thought I was lying too. like someone my age (22) can’t be a virgin. I would know if I had sex damnit. I feel like she insisted also because of my sexual orientation inspite of what I told her.stupid lady.
3/14/2012 12:54 AM deemure
Wow, that’s a lot of very skeptical and accusatory doctors! One Xangan doctor shared a possible reason why doctors do this:
Doctors usually ask twice to make sure that you’re being honest. During my Ob/Gyn rotation, I was told that many patients fear being judged so they lie about their sexual history. I had patients that initially denied being sexually active but subsequently opened up once they knew about confidentiality and my desire of helping them. Your Ob/Gyn was just doing his job in asking more than once.
3/14/2012 3:39 PM MauTimHoaSim
That’s an interesting counterpoint! Still, you’d think there’s perhaps an easier way of conveying that everything is confidential than accusing your patients of lying?
What do you guys think: Are OB/GYN’s doing their job by being skeptical about your sexual history? Or should they trust their patients more and go by what they tell them?