I know what some of you are thinking. “OMG! Not ANOTHER virginity post!” but it’s not about debating it, losing it or keeping it, it’s about going to the girlie doctor. I want to see if I’m the only one this happens to.
Whenever I go to the GYN, I go through the exam and question routine just fine. The doctors are personable and professional up until the two questions that make the visit awkward/unpleasant. Which are these:
“Is sex for you ok? Nothing painful during intercourse?” and “Do you want to get tested for STDs today?”
Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not embarrassed at being a virgin because it’s by choice… but I hate the reactions I get from the doctor. I tell them no thank you, they ask me if I’m sure and I say, “Yes, because I don’t have sex”. Then I get this incredulous look before they flip to the front of the chart to check my birthday. After that I get this nice talk about how they aren’t here to judge me or make me feel bad, which is nice to know but seriously, it’s by choice that I’m a virgin!
I realize being in my early 20s it’s amazing to some doctors to see a virgin at that age but why assume just because I’m young, I’m automatically sexually active? I know statistic wise I’m a rarity but I don’t think it’s fair to assume every woman who goes to the GYN for her annual exam is sexually active. They should ask the question, take down the answers and; leave it at that, not make me feel like a mutant about my choices or flat out assume I’m lying. I’m not mad about them doing their job; I just hate how they act after I give the answers.
I do nothing to expose myself to an STD so I don’t need to waste exam time or equipment on them. I think they’re probably so conditioned to doing it on every exam, they think it’s incredible someone doesn’t need the testing. Obviously if I was active, I would get the full panel because for one thing, many diseases and; disorders have little to no symptoms in women and; men don’t always get infected but can spread them after having the disease for years. I would NEVER put my health at risk to spare a moment of embarrassment or make myself look better to a stranger.
Has this ever happened to any of you ladies before you became sexually active? Or for the guys, have you ever gotten that kind of reaction from the doctor if you declined STD testing based on your virginity/abstinence?