Lovelyish

Although this is gross, it is also a little insensitive to write this post right now. I mean, her mom just died, so maybe we can wait a couple weeks before we bad mouth the poor girl. wtf Lovelyish?

the only reason why dating a brother is gross is the higher possibility of mutations that show up in a child from re-producing with someone you are genetically related to. I don’t understand why this is gross. would dating a childhood friend be “gross”? 

hmmmm… so baby sis = girlfriend? I guess lovelyish accounts for all types of love.

@JoeytheGenie@xanga - That suggests that adopted siblings don’t still love each other as just siblings. As someone whose parent was adopted, I take offense to your statement because yes, if one of my mother’s siblings wanted to date her it would still be wrong and according to state laws it would legally be incest. The only thing that makes this story different is that he wasn’t legally adopted and they didn’t know each other until they were older. 

Blaaah! that is very wrong. 

@JoeytheGenie@xanga - Exactly. I agree.

It’s the mixing of genes between family members that classify a relationship as incest. I don’t really see what’s wrong with it. He’s her childhood friend and has been “like a brother” and “like a son” to Whitney, and in no way, not even by legal document, IS a brother or son. So you can’t even really argue the circumstances as incest in any way. However, I do find the brother/sister nicknames to be awfully odd if they are indeed fuckin.

perhaps its just me but i don’t see anything really wrong with it. their not blood. 

I’m also not seeing anything gross or wrong with this, since they are not actual siblings in any legal or blood sense. And I mean, step siblings may sometimes fall for each other – is it wrong to date a step sibling just because they happen to be the child of your step parent?

And I’ve seen friends of mine refer to people they’ve dated as a brother or sister before they started dating. It’s sometimes just used as a means of expressing the closeness of a relationship, not the way in which two people are related. 

So? They essentially just grew up together. They’re not blood related,(which is why incest is “wrong”) they’re not even legally related (by marriage or adoption) and they just lived together from the age of 12. That’s not disgusting. Lots of people end up dating (and marrying) the childhood best friend they grew up with. The only difference here is they lived in the same house. 

Also, really? Right after her mother’s death? I’m sorry, but that’s really insensitive. Get a grip, Lovelyish.

Too soon, lovelyish. Waaaaay too damn soon.

And aside from that, it may be a little weird at first, but they aren’t blood. They grew up together, lived together, knowing each other and becoming close to one another. If they found love & comfort in one another ESPECIALLY at this time of sorrow for both of them especially Bobbi Kristina, why knock it down? There’s nothing really out of the norm in this situation.

So “EW” at this post!

Unless they’re blood related I have no idea what would make this gross. If they even have romantic feelings for each other in the first place. Love isn’t just split between feelings for family, friends and a spouse. There are things in between as well. Plus when your own mother has died you need support and you feel vulnerable. He is there for her, in whatever kind of way. I have no place to judge such a situation. 

I am not seeing what’s so gross about this.  They are not related legally or genetically.  

Once again lovelyish is classless. The didn’t know each other until they were 12, that’s almost like they met in middle school. They aren’t related genetically or legally. And also, the woman who raised both of them JUST DIED. This post is both offensive and insensitive. 

There is absolutely nothing wrong with this, not even a little bit.

I don’t find them dating wrong, I mean they aren’t blood & technically, since he’s not legally adopted, they’re not even legally siblings. What I find kind of strange is that they’re drawing attention to themselves by calling each other big brother & baby sis & then making out in public.

Where I come from they would call this wincest

I don’t see anything wrong with it. They’re not related by blood, or legal paperwork. She just was lucky enough to end up with her best friend. Plus they’ve lived together for so long, they already know they’re compatible. I wish them happiness, and hope they don’t listen to people that think something is wrong with this. The bro/sis nicknames are really weird though. 

Not an appropriate post right now.

@Ms_Lola_Mae@xanga - I cannot agree with you more.

They aren’t blood and you do fall in love with those you are around the most… but yea, a little weird! Wait till we know 100% facts!

well the odd thing is that they see themselves as both brother and sister AND boyfriend and girlfriend.
But then again, the boundaries we set to love are unnatural anyway.

The only disgusting thing is that somebody wrote an article about it.  Who cares?  They aren’t blood related.  There are more issues to worry about.  

They’re not blood related or related in any way. It’s like falling in love with your best friend  

Two people can grow up together, have his mom treat her like a daughter and her mom treat him like him like a son, etc, but when they come of age, they realize they’re mutual feelings grew from platonic to romantic. No biggie. 

Besides, Hollywood made Clueless, with the main character falling for her (legal/official/actual) stepbrother and no one saw a problem with it. This sounds no different. 

@Ms_Lola_Mae@xanga -  I agree completely, this post is kinda insensitive.

I also agree with silent_thunder@xanga. Its sounds the same as if they were close friends, grew up and had stronger feelings. Especially since the adoption wasn’t official. 

I don’t really see how this is gross considering that they are not related by blood or legal paperwork.  What is the difference if he lived in the same house since they were 12, or if they were next-door neighbor best buddies?  I do find the brother/sister pet names a bit odd though.  I also agree with the other Lovelyish readers, too soon.  Geez, her mother just died!

A little too soon…

It may be a bit weird, but I wouldn’t say it’s gross.

I agree with everyone else saying that there is nothing wrong with this. They aren’t really related. They make it seem gross by calling each other as siblings, but really… There’s not a thing the matter with it. They didn’t really grow up together, as they were adolescent when he moved in. So….

childhood sweethearts. Whatever.

They’re genetically different so it’s not incest. But they lived and grew up together in the same house which I think it is weird a lot. It’s like for me personally I wouldn’t even fall in love with my cousin.

They aren’t biologically related and they aren’t legally brother and sister. How is this different from dating a childhood friend? 

@silent_thunder@xanga - But in Clueless it was her “ex” stepbrother since her father had divorced his mother, lol.  But I agree with you, nothing wrong with this situation.  

I heard this girl has a beautiful singing voice.  Given time, I’d love to hear it.  Her mother’s voice was wondrous.  Having said that, with all the money in the world, why on earth didn’t her mother put the cocaine down long enough to have braces put on that child?  She’d never eventually need to spend a million Hollywood dollars on her mouth if she had.  I feel very sad for what she must be going through, and feel a sense of perhaps her going down the same road?  I really hope not.  I don’t think her dad’s fathering is special enough to keep her from trying the drugs.

@Ms_Lola_Mae@xanga - He wasn’t legally adopted, he’s an ‘unofficial adopted brother’ of hers. So it was never legalized nor announced. In this case, it makes the situation to be not an incest situation.

First question that comes into my head, who are we to judge them or categorize this to be incest, disgusting, or anything whatsoever, when their ‘mother’ didn’t mind abt it? Yes, it is wrong in every words that is possible to describe this, but how do we know what is wrong or right? They’re not blood related, not legally related either, their mother didn’t mind or bulged regarding their closeness when she was alive (RIP), & they’re only brother and sister by words at this moment. So who cares.

@snoopygurl071@xanga - I just said what I said, because it sounded like JoeytheGenie was saying that it would only matter if they were blood related. Therefore saying that it wouldn’t even matter if they were legally adopted brother and sister. That offended me because my mom is an adoptee. That is what I was offended by. He wasn’t legally adopted and they didn’t know each other until they were older, so I don’t think it is incest. I do think that it is a little gross though IF they think of each other as brother and sister but still have romantic feelings for each other though. 

Awkward…very awkward.

It can’t count as incest if they’re not related, right? Although it would be weird that she sees him as her brother as well as her boyfriend..

this is weird.