Lovelyish

I love secret crushes like this! I had a few when I was in a big summer physics course. My advice is that you should continue on having an awesome crush. You could pursue it if you like, but don’t expect the magic to last when you get to know him (who knows, it just might, but chances are it won’t).

Talk to him. You’ll always regret it if you don’t find out. Oh….don’t tell him about the journal. Who knows what you’ll find out! He may be single.

Good Luck!

This is totally creeping me out, what if he isn’t single?!  Because I would hate for some girl to be thinking like that about my boyfriend!
Ever see the movie “Obsessed” with Beyonce?  Doesn’t end well for the creeper chick.

Say hi to him

What kind of nonsense is this? You go to college to study, not for relationships which can potentially change your life and create a network of career opportunities for you! Talking to people may open up possibilities and offer you advantages in your social, educational, and professional future – and we can’t have that. Go focus on your studies Obsessed.

lol.  oh! the 20s. it’s simple, talk to him.  say hello.  ask to see his notes.  ask him if he understood x,y, z thing that the professor was talking about Even if he says no, you can pretend like you understand part of it and want to share notes to see if the two of you can figure it out together you kind of have to go with the flow and see where it goes from there.  

Don’t talk to him! If you talk to you, you’ll likely be disappointed, especially because at this point, you’ve built him up in your head. If you don’t talk to him, he can be whoever you want him to be. 

This is erotomania, go to a psychiatrist.

Nothing ventured,nothing gained, go for it. Really what have you to lose? Sure you may regret it if you do but you might regret it more if you don’t!

I know how you feel. Some crushes are stronger than others for me too and I’ve never talked to most of them, lol. #StoryOfMyLife

I used to get crushes like this too.  People who are calling you psychotic are just being rude.  It’s not erotomania or anything like that, it’s just an obsessive crush.  If you had built a shrine to the guy in your dorm room with candid shots of him and toenail clippings or something, THAT would be creepy.  But just thinking about someone a lot is not inherently creepy.  I think people who are quiet are the most intriguing too; most crushes I’ve had are on guys that you can’t figure out right away, probably because I’m the same way myself.

One the one hand, if you don’t talk to him, you can make up whatever backstory you want.  However, if you don’t talk to him you’ll also never know if he was worth obsessing over.  Have you tried finding him on Facebook?  That’s a good sort of passively casual way to scope out the situation.  Friend request him and see what happens.  Or talk to him about something class-related and from there decide if you want to pursue it further.  But don’t tell him about the journal, that would probably freak him out

No advice, but oohh my god I’m in the same boat. I’ve had a crush on a guy (don’t even know his name) at my gym for like 2 years. I watch him whenever I’m working out. Creepy maybe, but I can’t control how I feel about someone. Doesn’t help that I think he’s interested – you’d think it would help but because we constantly make eye contact it just makes it harder to make a move. The same happened in junior high, although I was in almost all the same classes with him and we’d actually talk to each other sometimes. Pretty sure he liked me too. Never did anything. I’m socially awkward and stinted. 

For the record, I don’t think you’re crazy or creepy.  There’s nothing wrong with thinking about someone.  But anyway, you might as well talk to him.  Just sit by him in class and say hi.  Or keep things the way that they are, because now that you’ve built him up in your mind, you might be disappointed by him.  But then you’d get over it.  So… your choice.  

This is actually the story of my life. Don’t feel weird even though everyone’s being dismissive about your situation, you are not alone.I go through crushes like this all the time( dating back to freshman year of high school)  to the point where i had to make a conscious decision to stop it.

The crush never gets anywhere coz im too shy and socially awkward to make a move. The crushes on the other hand never do anything coz they never even notice that i exist. In the end you just continue to obsessively think about them while wondering “‘what  if” and daydreaming about you two together while they continue to live their life unphased.

 Its SOO not productive, unless you wanna do something about it. If you’re not shy like me then i TOTALLY suggest talking to him coz it sucks to not be able to do anything about your crushes and still thinking fondly about them years later. TRUST ME. Also @hot_metalhead@xanga‘s advice is pretty good so you can try her tips.

good luck.

@MoonFaeEyryan@xanga - Actually, erotomania is the disorder where one believes that the object of affection is reciprocating the feeling and has fallen in love back.

just talk to him

  I think you should go up to him and strike up a conversation : ] Who knows, there’s a possibility he feels a connection to you as well!! You have to put yourself out there, or else you’ll always wonder about what could have been! Take a chance, love!

♥L
-SM

This isn’t creepy.  Don’t listen to those that say otherwise. 
A crush is a crush.   Think of it as good chemistry with the guy.

Talk to him and see if the chemistry works on more than a physical level.
If not, you’ll stop seeing him through rose-colored glasses, and move on with your life.

I know what you’re going through. I’ve experienced this for a boy I never talked to in high school. I thought he was amazing, misunderstood and beautiful, yet I’ve exchanged at most 3 lines with him hahhaah.
It is easy to idolize someone when you have barely talked to them at all. You build up an idealized image of that person in your head and the mystery just works with whatever you want the other person to be. It is a self gratification process where you let yourself indulge in decoding a persona that you ultimately have full control over. If you actually starts to talk to the person, that mystery is shattered because 99% of the time their personality will not be what you thought it was.

Honestly, this exact situation just happened to me, but with a coworker. I saw him walking around, not interacting with anyone really, always keeping to himself. He was cute and I fell. I became obsessed with the notion that he was just like me; shy, reserved, and just waiting for that perfect person to bring me out of my shell. After a while I even added him on facebook, to which he accepted, and I rejoiced for days. But that’s where it all went downhill. I then became obsessed with having to let him know how I felt, believing he would feel the same way, or at least feel something. So I, without having spoken to him in person (other than him going through my till once months before), decided to send him a nonchalant message on Facebook about how “I don’t expect anything, but I like you”. It was pretty bad. I stayed up for hours that night contemplating his possible reaction. The next day, however, I noticed he’d added a picture to facebook; him and two others girls sticking their tongues out in a very ‘na na na na na’ fashion. It was a very specific situation, but I desperately wish I hadn’t done anything, at least not before having a good conversation with him. He was a dick, but maybe this guy isn’t. 

@Shadowrunner81@xanga - i want to know if guys would be obsessed with girls they don’t know, if so, what would they do.
i have the exact experience now:(  and it seems weird if i just go and talk to him. we are in the same class for over a year now and we only chatted a few times. i want to know if he feels the way i do!

Hahahaha, go up and talk to him, or you’ll never find out would could have been. I mean, really, there’s only a couple of things that could happen, you guys start talking, and he’s as great as you think he is and move from there, or second you guys start talking, you’ll get a reality check and find out he’s nothing you’d expected/hoped him to be, and you can move one.

@wytsoi31@xanga - Well I can’t answer for all guys, but I can answer from my personal perspective. When I was in college there was a girl in my plant biology class who would wait outside in the hallway with me(well not with me but near me) and I just always wondered who she was and if she was single. But for most of the quarter(yeah we were on quarters not semesters) I didn’t do anything. She probably had no clue how I felt. Then Valentine’s Day came and i decided it was time to act. So I bought a rose and a card and wrote in it a short message letting her know I liked her and if she was interested we could meet for coffee/bagels/whatever at a starbucks-type shop near the plant biology building. So I saw her on the steps and went up to her and asked her what her name was. She was like, “Molly?” And then I said, “Molly these are for you.” I then went to the bagel place(called Brenan’s actually) and waited to see if she would show up. She didn’t. My major mistake is that the only time I could have done that was before class so I was basically asking her to skip a class and meet a guy she didn’t know at Brenan’s. I never found out how she felt but I’m glad I did something about my feelings.

That’s about as close as I’ve come to being obsessed. Ah Molly…..

I totally have that with my handsome boss we’ve barely had the chance to talk-not business talk, but I mean casual personal conversation, which I know isn’t encouraged at work due to the strict business environment (and he’s married. d’oh!) he makes me so nervous that I can’t even utter his name when I greet him (probably because I’m resisting the urge to giggle like a silly schoolgirl right before I’m about to merely say hi to him) some people are so handsome that I’m just speechless I act like he doesn’t exist when I’m around him though; partly due to nervousness and partly because I’m trying to be professional and not cross boundaries. I haven’t written a journal but when I saw him talking on his cell phone, I’ve fantasized about him talking dirty to me using his sexy foreign accent and I wish that the person he was talking to was me I wonder if he checks out my butt and sleek legs when I walk past him he is the reason that I look forward to work and yeah, I wonder if he looks forward to see me, too and whether or not he secretly giggles in delight afterwards when I’m out of sight, so that I don’t see him blushing I’m giggling as I’m typing this while I’m thinking about all of this-how silly I hate my bitchy drama queen coworkers and I have a crush on a guy. I’m in high school all over again; similar situation but with a different set of people.

I agree talk to him. It’s not creepy, I don’t don’t now what peoples problem is. People crush on celebrities all the time, or they do believe in love at first siht when really they are expiriencing nothing different from what you expirience. You have nothing to lose.

Talk to him and you’ll find out he’s not as great as you made up in your head… and tada.. the obsession goes away.

@P0RCELA1N_D0LL@xanga - hahaha I have that with a married guy at work too but I obviously can’t and won’t do anything about it….he is sooo cute and funny. I’m like in love with him haha but he’s also 15 years older than me at least.

@Shadowrunner81@xanga - awww, thats so sad but sweet!!

I feel the same exact way. There’s a guy who has study hall at the same period as I do. I never talked to him before, all I know is his name and that he hates chocolate. I wish I had the nerve to talk to him but I’m afraid I’d get disappointed once I talk to him. He’s so quiet just as I am. I completely understand what you are going through. 

I found this because I was googling for people who are in my same situation. In my case, hes someone who I just see around a lot — I’ve been too shy to speak, though we make eye contact when we’re passing. I see him in his natural habitat a lot, and I have learned quite a lot about his personality this way. At this point though, I don’t know if losing the fantasy is worth talking to him — I have the -best- time pleasuring myself, thinking about him. ; D

I know you posted this a while back, and you might be dating this guy by now, but I actually found this looking for advice. I have the same problem. There’s this guy at my church who I have a huge crush on. I’ve had a crush on him for 3 years now. At the beginning he used to look at me all the time in church, but now we don’t see each other as often. This past winter he was a ref for my brother’s basketball and I could’ve sworn that he was looking at me and trying to protect me from getting hit by the basketball. One time the basketball rolled up to my feet while I was sitting down and I said, “oops!” and our eyes locked for a split second. I’m obsessed with this guy, and I just found out from my friend who knows him that him and I won’t be going to the same highschool Now, I’m so depressed when I see him that I don’t even look at him anymore, so he probably doesn’t think I’m interested in him if he still looks at me. 

IF ANYONE CAN GIVE ME SOME ADVICE ABOUT WHAT TO DO NOW TO SHOW HIM I’M INTERESTED PLEASE HELP!!!
By the way, I hope that you two are going out now

Oh. And by the way my friend doesn’t know this kid personally. Her sister goes to school with him, and she wouldn’t try to get us together. 

Same here! I have a crush on this boy in my grade but we never spoke to each other before. We’re not in the same classes though. I should do something random like fall down in front of him every time I walk pass him and say “why did u trip me?”

Yeah. How long have you liked this guy? Like I said i’ve liked this guy for 3 years. 

I am in the same situation right here, the only problem is that classes are done. I found him on twitter and I don’t know if I should follow him, I am too shy and usually do not express my feelings I’m afraid that he thinks I am weird for looking him up since we have no common friends…. what should I do? Should I just follow him?- Thanks

i am in the exact same situation, and i know he’s interested because of a couple of “coincidences” that have happened before. He’s gonna graduate high school next year, and i know i am going to be so depressed when he leaves. i don’t think ill be able to forgive myself for a while (until i get over him, if ever) if i dont talk to him. he’s not in any of my classes and i dont have a fb account…

i dont have a clue of how im supposed to get over him, if i never end up talking to him

~~thanks!!