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I’d like to say that I don’t, but I do.  However, I’d am glad to say that I get over them more quickly then I used to.  I had to lower my standards of what I expect of others and depend less on others but made the standards higher when deciding how friendly I am with someone new I meet.

Always.

I had a grudge against some girl who has literally pushed me out of the way and cockblocked me (and her own friends) multiple times.  Well, my current boyfriend knows her and drunkenly brought it up to her.  She played dumb like she has no idea who I am (at this point, I don’t care if she’s faking or what), but I was so mad at my boyfriend.  He told me I had to get over it, and it was true.  I couldn’t hold a grudge anymore because he had put it out in the open and holding a grudge about all the past bullshit wasn’t fun anymore.  So, I got over it, and I smile when she gives me my drink at the bar.  BUT, she has no idea how to give you back change so that you tip well and not $1.50 on a $2.50 beer so fuck her, she sucks and needs to find a new job  So I guess I’ll just always find new reasons to dislike her, and then I’ll get over, and find new reasons.

I used to do it all the time. Now I just try to leave the past in the past. I mean, who wants their past brought up all the time and held against them? I certainly don’t, so I try not to do it to others.

I don’t really hold onto grudges.I am just generally a really forgiving person. I think that people have a right to make mistakes.

I do, I’m holding one right now actually. I would like to go by the “forgive but never forget” motto, but I feel like that would require her to actually take responsibility for her bullshit and deliver a long and sincere apology to my face, which isn’t going to happen. I need a sense of closure to move on from anger, but I refuse to open up the line of communication, mostly because I’m sick of her and her bullshit. She’s a liar, a hypocrite, and an all around toxic person. I wish she’d just move far, far away from me and that I’d never see her or hear from/about her ever again. 

Nope, what’s the point? Holding a grudge is like letting someone live rent free in your head.

@daydreams_nightmares@xanga - This.  Why give people the time?  It is exhausting.

Holding grudges whether it is over something petty or a legitimate reason to be angry at someone is debilitating.  I held petty grudges all the time in my younger years.  It’s just not worth the drama.   was angry about something for a long period of my life, and holding on to that anger held me back in a lot of ways.

No. Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.

Holding grudges is like letting other people hold onto your heart.

I tend to forgive but never forget and I have plotted revenge and held grudges.. I think I could never hold a grudge cause I care too much.. People has done me so wrong yet I forgive them, even the people closest to me… 

I do. I’ll forget before I forgive. I’m trying to change, but easier said than done.

i hold grudges way too often and for far too long.  I know its bad and i try to let go of things but its just so damn hard. like sometimes people just get under my skin and i dont know how to not let it get the best of me.

I do and I don’t know how to let things go. . . they can be the smallest arguments, and when one gets brought up, I can’t help but bring up others.  It’s really taking a toll on my relationships and my own anxiety and I wish I knew how to get to the forgetting part of “forgive and forget.”  I feel like I forgive the people, but then when something happens, it’s almost like whatever they did just happened, even if it was years ago.  I don’t know why it’s so hard for me to let things go… any suggestions?  

It depends who the other person is, but sadly, I do hold grudges.  I hate the fact that I do this, because it gives someone unworthy the type of access to your brain and heart that you don’t want most people to have.  Especially when it’s a good friend who I feel has wronged me, now THAT just makes my whole world feel sucky.

How do you just let go?

I’m really bad about holding grudges.

I don’t want to, but I still hold a few. I’m not sure they’ll ever go away.

i try not to. eventually get over it though.

I know it’s not good to, but I do. I’ve slowly let go of some, but I can’t help still having some old ones and getting new ones :/