As someone preparing for my own wedding next year, I’m caught up in websites, magazines and shows. I’m really excited, but some of the things I see and hear rub me the wrong way.
A wedding is a celebrating of the couple and the love they share, not a Broadway production with costumes and theatrical makeup to change you into a new character. Why should we go though certain traditions and rules to please other people? At the end of the day, it’s about you and the person you’re marrying so here are some rules I think should be broken ASAP!!
1) You MUST wear white!
Nothing against white wedding dresses, in fact I think they’re beautiful. I just wouldn’t be caught dead in one. I never liked the color on me, except for a few necessary uniform shirts. Wear whatever you want!There’s no rule that says the bride can only wear white. I’m having a ball planning my wedding because I’m having a Halloween wedding (inside joke between me and my fiancé! LOL). I plan on dressing up for the nuptials and going in costume to the party.
2) Every bride should have long, princess hair.
To be honest, some of the best brides I’ve seen rocked some short ‘dos! You can still wear a veil with short hair. I’ve also seen some cute fascinators, hats and hair combs, pins and other jewelry. If you want to go Katy Perry electric blue, more power to you! I’ll end up alternating between red, pink and purple!
3) Don’t show off your piercings or tattoos.
Before I get railed for this, I’m not a total rebel. I do respect religious houses and what not so if you have a religious ceremony, you may have to cover up here if the place you go to is very strict on these things. After that, do what you want. I’m a full supporter of body art and modification (I do it myself!). When I get married, I’m making sure my ink is seen because I’m not ashamed of it. I know it’s becoming more accepted too when I got an issue of Brides magazine and I saw a bride posing in a backless dress showing off her feather tattoos!
4) After 6pm, weddings are formal.
Whatever time you get married; dress however you want your guests to feel. If it’s 6 and you want a casual wedding with cowboy boots, who are we to stop you?
5) No pets allowed.
I’ve seen doggie ring bearers and flower girls. If you want your favorite furbaby with you on your day, dress ‘em up!
6) You must send out formal wedding invitations.
This process can cost you several hundreds of dollars (that’s also a lot of trees!!). Here’s where you can do it yourself with stationary or get creative and go green! You can make a blog that’s password protected and email/text the link and password to the people you want invite. This way you can invite them and get RSVPs (without worrying about returned invites and rising postage), keep them up to date with plans and best of all, it’s FREE!!! Think of all the paper (trees and money wise) you’ll be saving. Plus you have something to look back on over the years! Xanga, Tumblr, LiveJournal and Blogspot are popular choices. Just set up a free email account for the questions and RSVPs to go to so your personal accounts arent spammed.
7) Flower girls and ring bearers.
They’re oh so cute but if you’re worried about them lasting through the day and night or just don’t want kids at your wedding (don’t feel bad, it’s not for everyone), there are alternatives. You can have a friend hold the ring for you and pass it during the ceremony or you can hold it yourself and exchange rings when the time comes. I’m going to do that because I plan on surprising my groom with an engraving inside his ring!
As for flower petals, you can always have the guests toss them at you on your way back down the aisle. If you don’t want the cleanup, a sweet alternative to do outside is to throw birdseeds. Rice chokes birds and bubbles stain so people have taken to throwing birdseed to wish the couple well and give the city birds a nice meal afterwards.
You must play traditional music in Church.
Again, it varies depending on what your congregation allows but you have to admit the JK Wedding dance was epic! It spawned constant remakes at weddings and the T-Mobile royal wedding commercial! It was so well acted; people thought that was the real wedding!
How traditional were you with your wedding? Did you go all out or just add bits of yourself to the ceremony? I wanna know!