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I don’t know if it really gives you more confidence. What I do know is I’d rather see a women be proud of her body then ashamed of it. I think most people do it because they notice it’s an asset of theirs and they like to highlight it. Nothing complicated or negative. My tops tend to be cut right at the cleavage because when you have big breasts you need to open up the neckline or you tend to look incredibly top heavy. I mean I still wear tshirts and stuff like that but I never wear things like a turtleneck. 

No it doesn’t. But wearing a push up bra does.

Coming from a larger-chested woman– I almost feel too uncomfortable or too vavavoom in a low cut top.  I get a little too much attention even when I’m not trying.  So, no… a low cut top doesn’t give me confidence.

Seriously?
No.
It makes me self conscious, since we already live in a world where men tend to stare at your breasts to begin with. I’ve dealt with men in business and local politics—and when you are trying to make a point about something serious, and require their full attention, the last thing you need them distracted by is your breasts.

And if you need them to be, your confidence is pretty damned shaky to begin with,.

Yes! Low cut tops definitely give me more confident, but I have to be very careful to not overexpose because I am a D-cup, but generally I am all set.

I’m the exact same way as you with the paranoia of being too exposed, so I end up focusing all my attention on my chest all night making sure nothing goes wrong, thus creating the exact opposite effect of what low cut tops are supposed to do, which is build confidence… On the contrary, I’m about ten thousand times more self conscious with a low cut top -.-

@msem724@xanga - I totally understand where you’re coming from. I’m a bit busty for an Asian woman, and I keep myself covered almost all the time. I don’t like the attention either. I mean, I’ll wear a top I like and it looks low cut even though it isn’t. It doesn’t mean I’m flaunting. It just so happens my bosom just sticks out there.

I have a big scar on my chest that people stare at so no.

If the bottom of the V neck is below where your breasts end, it is probably too low.  I would never wear anything that low, but I have been know to wear something a little low cut…I think at any given moment exposing more than 30% of your breasts is probably too much in public.  (Often I show way less.)  A hint of cleavage is ok…not sure if it makes me feel confident but really low cut tops/dresses make me feel self conscious, I am afraid that they’d pop out.  How embarrassing would that be?!

no not really. i have 2 kids and one is pretty much always wanting to be held so a low cut top would be dumb as my entire rack would probably be exposed hahahah. 

i don’t think you should have to use sex appeal to gain confidence but what do i know. i think i look great whether my cleave is showing or not. 

Okay, wearing that low of a cut doesn’t even make sense in everyday life XD
As a lanky asian girl, I’m not exactly “flat-chested” but I definitely don’t have the bosom to get a free drink I do agree with the saying “if you got it flaunt it” but it usually applies to my legs or waist. I guess there’s more hostility toward showing off your boobs because it carries a more sexual appeal?
In any case, if you “Flaunt” your assets to the point where it doesn’t even fit the context of the event- you’ve gone too far.

my hubby appreciates it when I show the girls off a bit.. so on “date nights” i do tend to wear low cut tops.. of course he spoils me with VS bras (which I LOVE).. low cut tops are not really a good idea with kids tho.. 

I don’t see how it’s different from a pear-shaped girl highlighting her slim waist with a cinched waist or an apple girl wearing something looser up top and tighter around her slim legs.

im too scared it’ll pop out! 

Even when I dont try to be so revealing, it always ends up that way.. Boo for big boobs lol..

I actually do feel more confident because I LOOK better with low cut tops. Well, not PLUNGING necklines, but I always look better in a V-neck or round neck compared to a crew neck or turtleneck. I’m short (5′ 0″) and I have a big chest (36D) AND I’m kinda chubby. Somehow showing a bit of skin on top makes me look less round and chubby. It draws people’s attention towards my face (because I don’t wear tops TOO low) rather than my belly. Since I feel like I look better in a somewhat low top, I feel more confident =)

It use to make me feel more confident, and free drinks and phone numbers always are nice. But I’ve found as I’ve grown up that you don’t have to show off all the goodies to get noticed. Also it’s nice to be talked to as a human being not just as a sexual object. As I start covering up a bit (before was a lot since I’m a DD with an hourglass shape) people treat me different. I like it. I’ve learned a little is sexy too much is trashy. People will judge you based on your appearance and behave accordingly. 

You don’t need big boobs to get a free drink.

It depends on why I feel the need to be more confident. At work? No. At a bar? Hell yes.

It usually makes me self-conscious. But maybe I should be more confident, I have fantastic breasts. 

@i_r_keiko@xanga - I have a big scar on my chest too and people stare at it as well. But I still wear low cut tops sometimes. It’s about being comfortable with your body:) I hope someday you can get there too.

“You don’t need big boobs to get a free drink.” -  @WaitingToShrug@xanga - SO true!! I went to Atlantic City last year and had a guy keeping my glass full:)

If you have large breasts v-necks can actually make them look smaller, but they draw attention. In college I noticed that the lower cut my top — the friendlier the boys in the elevator, so I kind of stopped wearing them.

Wearing sexy underwear and a sexy push-up bra gives me confidence…

I only ever wear a revealing top when I’m wearing a push-up bra

As far as the free drink, I’m sure it’s more about the way you carry yourself at the bar. A short skirt/dress can do the same job. You don’t need huge jugs.

As for me, yes. I do like low cut shirts. I feel sexy lol. I think my chest is fine for my frame although I wouldn’t mind an extra cup size.

confidence: either you have it or you don’t. If you decide to wear it becaue you think it looks good and you enjoy showing what you’ve got, you will be confident. If you actually think it’s too much but still wear it because you think you should this isn’t only ‘faking it’ it will make FEEL less confident too.

I don’t care (as in judge) but I think not so low cut dresses simply look better. I like to squish my boobs together, and not emphasize the saginness or the rib cage showing between them *shrugs*

not at all, i dont feel like myself wearing low-cut shirts. besides, i wear a B cup so theres not much there anyway haha

“Wearing low cut tops gives you confidence” is a contradiction. If you had confidence, you wouldn’t wear a low-cut top. So what do people need when they don’t have confidence? They need attention, validation, and approval, which in turn will make you feel better about yourself. A confident person would already feel they have attention, validation and approval. The confusion happens when the feelings produced from confidence and those produced by wearing a low cut top are the same, but confidence is an origin, not something that can come or go based on what you’re wearing.
But, to correct the phrase: “Wearing a low cut top gives me more attention, validation, and approval.” And that just makes immediate sense, right?
It’s a simple matter of miscommunication, but fortunately, there are many writers (like the folks here on xanga) who are able to look at a phrase like “gives you confidence,” and see an inherent flaw, just by right of knowing the definition of the word.
Many public speakers make mistakes like these, which is why we’ve got writers to make the speeches, debate the quotes and determine the root of the problem.

But, to sum it up, if she knew what the word confidence meant, she wouldn’t have used it there. Thank god for writers, or these mistakes might have gone unchecked.

@cHiCoLaTe@xanga - I really enjoyed the last line of your statement here. “If you flaunt your assets until they no longer fit the context of the event,”
I shared it with the person next to me, we shared lulz.

Well, the point of showing off your assets is to be more confident. Because the attention you get improves your confidence.

If your profile pic is you, then you don’t know how it feels to be literally flat chested.

I love my boobs.  I think they are one of my best features.  I don’t need to have them super hanging out or anything, but wearing a nice bra and having a shirt that gives a small peek of my chest gives me more confidence.  

I’ve got them so on occasion, I flaunt them.  Not as a confidence booster but just to make the boys cry as in haha I’m a 34 DD and you can’t touch them. haha But mostly because I live in So Cal and if I’m outside in 110 degree heat, I want to be wearing as less as possible.  A tank top reveals a lot, but is a heck of a lot cooler.  I used to freak out and cover them up all the time, but then I realized, “What the hell? I’m a woman and I’ve got a nice rack.”  This doesn’t make me loose.  The boys will stare, but then again if they have a nice ass I’m gonna stare too.  A woman is more than just her boobs and nice guys/people realize that.  Plus, I think America is far too focused on boobies and should get over themselves.