Lovelyish reader ohhmademoiselle writes:
I wouldn’t classify my boyfriend as having a full video game obsession, but more of him having a hobby.Before you make any judgments about my relationship, my boyfriend is the sweetest, most caring man you’ll ever meet. He helps me through my anxiety issues. He’s always there for me. We have fun together. We have a good sex life. We’re madly in love and I can tell we have a strong relationship.The only issue I have with our relationship is the distraction his video games cause when I’m trying to have a conversation with him. I know chatting online isn’t exactly formal, but it’s still conversation time for us and that’s when he also plays his games.I love games and I play games, but I take time to talk to him.
How do I approach this situation with him?
It sounds like you two have a pretty solid relationship, so it’s understandable why you want more conversation time. And since you seem close, I doubt he’d be offended if you tell him just that. Besides, who doesn’t like attention from the person they love? I doubt he’ll object to your request.
Perhaps make a simple suggestion along the lines of, “Hey, you know I love gaming together, but how about we take an hour out of online time to talk each day? I think it could bring us even closer.” If he agrees, you definitely have a winner.
I’m not sure if you two are long-distance or not, but if possible you can also aim for in-person chat sessions. These would eliminate the numerous distractions that online chatting holds, and there’s always cuddling potential! It doesn’t have to be a formal date or anything; you can go for a walk or sit on the couch while still having great discussions.
Do you Lovelies have any advice for a gal with a gamer guy?
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