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Christ, it’s a ring. Plenty of people with rings get divorced, cheat on their partners… etc. I say if that’s the worst problem in your relationship you’re doing very well

I don’t think it is too much to ask for him to wear the ring around his neck on a chain.  My husband and most of the other married men at his job don’t wear them either, for the fact that they might get scratched and/or dented due to the physical nature of their business, or the fact that it is very possible for the ring to get wielded to their skin.  I’d like for him to wear his ring, but I am a bit more concerned about his love and commitment for me, not whether or not he’d wear the ring.  However, he has mentioned that women pay more attention to him when he hangs out with single friends as the wing man, because apparently it means he has been pre-approved by a woman and that makes him more attractive.

My husband was in the marine corps and couldn’t wear a ring while deployed.. He put it on his dogtag chain.. It kinda upset me that they didn’t want him wearing it (at first) but I got used to it. 

Tattoo ! If he’s up for it, it cost between $15-$100ish, for a wedding band tattoo, and it’s free for touch-ups where ever you get it, for life !

uh, FRODO wears his ring on a chain! Your man can do it too.

My father hasn’t worn his wedding ring in 20 years. That doesn’t mean he loves my mother any less. It’s because it is not safe for him to wear it for his job. 

I don’t even want a ring. I don’t think the ring makes the marriage. 

There’s a whole section on this subject over at Offbeat Bride.  http://offbeatbride.com/2011/07/non-conductive-wedding-rings

My husband wears his wedding ring on a chain around his neck. He’s in the army and they told him he could lose it or break his finger because of it, etc. He wanted to wear it to show people he was committed and married. So, I don’t think it’s weird at all and I bet a lot more people do it that way than you think.

You’re putting WAY too much significance on a ring. My boyfriend, a damage controlman with the US Coast Guard, can’t wear rings on the job, either. If we get married, I’ll leave it up to him whether he wants to get a ring to wear in his off-work time. If not? Dude, he’s marrying me. The commitment is bigger than the rign. if I were your fiance, I’d be freaked out by how intense you’re being about this.

Insecure

I understand your desire for him to display that commitment.
He only has to wear in on a chain when he’s working and that’s not weird. When my sister was pregnant her hands got swollen and she had to wear her wedding/engagement rings on a chain. Not a big deal.

Depending on the equipment he’s using, he may be better off just leaving his ring and/or chain at home.  I had to leave mine at home for the same reasons.  It’s just a ring.  Not wearing it doesn’t make him any more or less engaged.

@SuburbanSweetheart - My husband is in the CG, too. He got his wedding band tattooed on. Problem solved, for us! PS it was his idea, and I was cool with it. I think it would be bad if someone had to pressure someone into this kind of thing.

@sarahsmurfette@xanga - My boyfriend’s brother, also a Coastie, has his ring tattoeed on, but I didn’t suggest it here because, as you said, I think it’s the sort of thing the husband should want to do, & I don’t think a shrew-like complaint from an upset fiancee is going to make this suggestion appealing…

That aside, from one Coast Guard significant other to another, cheers!

@SuburbanSweetheart - woo-hoo! Cheers! Side note, I think it’s easier to be attached to the Coast Guard than any other military branch. Hope you like living by water though!

I’m probably getting engaged sometime this year and I am a research technician/soon to be medical student.  Considering how I wear gloves daily and will be cutting into dead bodies fairly soon, I probably won’t be able to wear my engagement ring all the time.  Therefore, I think the chain option is one that I will soon be exploring!  Better than getting HIV from work or dead person on it…ewww.

The chain thing is a good idea and something I’ve been exploring with my fiance since he isn’t too comfortable wearing rings. I understand how you feel though, or at least in your position. To us, the rings do mean something and we both like wearing them (I’m used to it now since I wore a promise ring recently up until my engagement ring) but it is just how to my fiance, that’s all.

Ring is a ring right? Besides at least it wont get scratched or slip off.

I don’t think thats weird at all and its a sweet idea!

I don’t understand what the big deal is to be honest, it’s just a ring.

honestly what’s the big deal. To me it seems you’re insecure. If you guys are engaged, he should know his role. whether he’s wearing a ring or not. in the food industry it’s against the code to wear any jewelry actually.. whether if it’s rings, necklaces, or earrings. it doesn’t matter. you’re dealing with food and it’s hazardous.

My dad never had a ring through all the years my parents were married. They never divorced either. Some men just aren’t into jewelry, and it also depends on the job. I’m a nurse and can’t wear any jewelry. I can’t have the possibility of snagging jewelry somewhere, getting it caught, or even losing it – yikes. You’d be surprised.

tattoo a ring on O:)

My husband is a mechanic which is an extremely dangerous job to have and wear rings.  After we first got married, he wore one for awhile, but eventually stopped wearing it.  Oddly enough, it doesn’t bother me.  I don’t think a ring and a chain is a bad idea, but it wouldn’t have been something that would have worked with my husband.  My husband has considered and still may in the future get a tattoo on his ring finger.  Would that ever be an option?

There are a great deal of professions in which men/women cannot wear their wedding ring. My husband is a draftsman and sometimes when he’s drawing he takes it off when he’s working with mylar. Doesn’t really bother me because I trust him. 

My father wore his wedding ring and cheated on my mother the whole 15 years of their marriage. Just because they wear it, doesn’t mean it make a difference.
All that matters is you trust him. 

Not unusual at all. I have seen this often in the medical field.

Wow, people need to relax. There’s nothing clingy or crazy about wanting him to wear a ring. It’s symbolic and it’s perfectly fine to be attached to that. 

My husband does not wear a wedding ring. He wore one for a couple of years, but it was lost at work. He’s a field biologist, so he’s out in the woods a lot and some places you just can’t find things like that. I’m not offended. Honestly, we’d be replacing it every summer, so it’s smarter for him to not have one.

Seriously? LOL.

I understand your feelings of him being committed but daaamn, it’s a ring! as long as he has it on him, it shouldn’t really matter. insecureeee. you act like he’s not wearing it on his finger because he doesn’t personally want to…. 

it’s a ring.  do you really think there has EVER been a man, in all of history, who was about to cheat on his wife… only to stop and look at his ring, and change his mind?  

Seems fine to me lol. My parents don’t even wear rings and they’re totally fine too. 

chain is a good idea, that way he can still have it on him.

and don’t listen to all the people saying you’re being insecure and petty. seriously? maybe they should get some self-esteem of their own before they’re calling strangers on the internet insecure about a perfectly NORMAL thing.

My brother is a surgeon. He wears it around his neck. No worries. 

it’s just a ring….get over it

My parents have been married over twenty five years and my dad has never worn a wedding ring. He’s just not into jewellery, and, as a doctor, he’s not allowed to wear any anyway. It’s just a piece of metal. It doesn’t make you any less committed not to wear one.

It’s not weird, and I think it would be selfish to make him wear it if it would be a safety issue. Anyway, be happy you found someone you love, because I would value that a 1,000 times more than a piece of jewelry^^