Lovely ashleynicole asks:
A few months into my first venture at the gym in 2010, I bumped into this really cute guy. I apologized, we went our separate ways, but I’ve had a crush on him ever since. I don’t even know anything about him, although I’ve seen him with his friends before and from what I can tell he seems like he’d be a pretty nice and sweet guy. I tried at one point to say hi or at least smile at him.. and I chickened out.
I actually ended up waiting for him in the lobby area, and when he came out all I could do was make eye contact and then cry internally at my lack of courage. I eventually stopped going to the gym altogether until summer 2011 when I’d go intermittently, but after that awkward lobby moment I didn’t see him again. But tonight, he was there. I’m not sure, but I do think I caught him glancing over, especially when he first walked in (he was standing at the front where his friend was working, and I saw that he kept looking in my general area – without my glasses on though, it was a bit tricky to tell for sure). When I was leaving, he and his friend came down to help a group of people in the lobby, and we definitely exchanged a couple of glances. And when he went to go back to the change rooms, he looked over before going in. I know this all probably sounds a bit lame that I like a stranger as much as I do, but I just really want to get it over with and make some type of non-creepy contact with him. I’m definitely unsure though if he is interested in me; I feel like he might be but I also wonder if it isn’t all in my head! I have no idea what I should do to get some type of communication open, even if it’s just the tiniest gesture. Hm, well, this is tricky. My first question would be, do you know his name? If you don’t, well, girl, your ducks are not in order! First things first, find a way to work out near him. Now, don’t be creepy and sidle right up beside him to do what he’s doing. But… say he’s lifting free weights. Start using a weight machine near by. You don’t have to know how to use it — that’s the point! Get his attention and say, “Hey, so I’ve seen you here a lot and it seems like you know what you’re doing. Can you help me with this weight machine really quick?” Ask his name after he’s helped you. Smile and be nice.
That’s it. First contact. So easy, right?
Really, it’s all about being friendly. From there on, you can keep things going. Use his name. Say hi whenever you’re at the gym. Becoming friends first is going to make him do a double take when it comes to seeing you. Once you’ve gotten to know him, you can start flirting.
Get it, girl.
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