A Lovely asks:
I’m desperately trying to clean out my room, but I’ve stumbled upon a drawer (and then some) of mementos and memories from a former beau. All of these little things mean something to me, but I don’t want all the reminders of him scattered around my place. What should I do with things like stuffed animals and letters and cards that are just too much to keep?
This question hits close to home for me as I’ve been debating what to do with mementos and memories of mine own for quite some time. I really hate this part of a breakup because it can almost feel like you’re breaking up all over again. For me, there were phases I went through with all the stuff I was given, sometimes I wanted to trash it all and never look back, and others I wanted to keep everything… forever.
I think it is important to hold on to memories of past relationships, they can be a good reminder of what you’ve been through, and how you’ve grown, but its important to find a balance. You obviously don’t want your bedroom to become a shrine to your former flame. You can achieve this balance by sitting down by yourself and going through everything you have. If you can easily overlook some items, then it’s safe to toss them, but it is OK to keep the stuff and the things you just can’t bare to part with are worth holding on to.
Once you have decided what is important to keep I think it is smart to store it all in a private place, a place where you can always go back to, but are not tempted to open everyday, also a place where a new lover or anyone else for that matter could easily find it. I store my letters, cards and photos in nice box in my closet. That way if I ever need or want to, I can easily access them, but they are out of the way and not on display for others to see. As for stuffed animals, I would advise against keeping them all, but if there are a few special ones you don’t want to say goodbye to, that’s OK too.
Hope this helps!
What do you do with memories of past relationships?
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